hello, I'm new here. I happen to find this site..
I have a lot of problem coping with my mental health and my roommate..
We seem to be friends, but when I try to explain what is happening to me,
she seems to never understand.. I realize she can't meet all of my demands..
and I don't expect her to, but sometimes, I ask her to help me by not doing
things that really bother me. I realize it is my responsibility to get better and
not allow things to bother me.. but it is really hard and I have just began treatment..
We planned to go to a movie together, but she made plans after we decided to go.
I tried to tell her that I really wanted to go with her, but she told me she didn't want to.
Beforehand, I have tried many times to tell her not to do this to me. I told her to
try not to make promises or commitments if she really didn't want to do it or she should
warn me that she isn't going to do it before the time comes to go. I try to tell her that
to most people, it would bother them, but it can be really dangerous for me. Most
people might get upset and feel bad for a while and get over it.. but it stays with me
until I can find a way to relieve the pain. I don't know how to get through to her.
I feel like I have to say something really outrageous to get her to kind of understand,
like when you break our plans, I could hurt myself. What would you say to her?
I feel like I have to stay away from her until I can find ways to cope. My other friend
kind of understands my situation and she will explain to me why she does things the
way she does like I can't go to the movie because I have to take my Mom somewhere..
I don't think this is a unreasonable request.... I understand that things go wrong and
we never know what will happen... I just don't understand why she
doesn't explain to me when she has the opportunity to or why she says false things to me