First of all great website, my other post was answered very well and made me feel a lot better.
I have wanted to have a discussion about this for a long time, but couldnt find a good place to it. Im a pretty normal person, in other words you couldnt just look at me and say "Oh that guy has a problem." Im not trying to stereo type anyone, but i consider myself a normal guy.
My problem has always been that i tend to dwell mentally on the negative things more then positive. The reason why i say mentally is because i let things eat
at me througout the day rather then go into a rage or get really angry like some people do. I talk to loved ones if i have any issues but while it helps, the issue still stays in my mind.
Like in my first post about my car accident, its hard for me to let things go i guess, even though i know when something is in the past it cant be delt with anymore, its hard for me to just forget about it. A good example (and what led me to posting this) was last night, i was with my girlfriend and buddy watching a game on TV. Everything was fine and we were having a great time. My buddy told me for his Bday that he was going to have some people over to his house for a barbaque. No problem with that, it will be fun. Then he tells me he is inviting two friends of his that i do not like at all, and they dont like me. We are civil dont get me wrong but i dont care for them. The minute he said that my mind thought about the actions they did that led me to not like them. I starting judging myself saying i should have done more in the situation when it happened and that it could happen again when i see them which i know would make me angry.
Without getting into the whole story, they didnt do anything big, basically they are a couple drunks that like to flap thier gums when they drink, so it gets annoying. The last time i saw them one of them got in my face (not to fight or anything) yelling about this and that and just cracking jokes. Who wants a drunk person 6" from thier face acting like an idiot?
So just by something as small as that, it caused me to think about it all night and think about possible scenarios that could happen again when i see them at this get together. Because of that, all day today i have been thinking about negative things. Nothing drastic, but just anything that has happened to me that werent the greatest times in the world. I feel like that one negative thought leads me to a bunch of other negative thoughts that usually lasts about 24 hours.
I just sometimes wonder why our brains can be so stuck on negative when there is so much good going on also. I have so much good going for me now and so many positive things going on that i cant believe i stick to all these negative things. And why would something as little as a drunk guy in my face being an idiot set off so much thoughts? And why do i even care about that incident in the first place?
Being pessimistic im guessing would be the name of what im doing, but i just sometimes wonder - whats the deal with sticking to negative in the mist of so much positive?
Post Edited (P11) : 5/13/2009 1:48:01 PM (GMT-6)