First of all you are a person with anxiety and accepting that wil get you started down the road. Most of us wear many different hats and you will be looking at yours realizing you are the sum total of all those hats, in other words you are a good and kind person deserving of love.
I am a nurse, a mother, a daughter, a spouse, a friend a sister, a student and a few other hats on any given day but most of all I am a human being who has anxiety and I can stand alone and take care of me but I also need friends and family to support me.
So don't over analyze on any given day but know that you deserve happiness and right now you are confused and unhappy.
What Makes a Healthy Relationship?
Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well. Not sure if that's the case? Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these seven qualities:
1. Mutual respect
5. Good Communication
6. Fairness/equality. You need to have give-and-take in your relationship, too. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see? As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? It's not like you have to keep a running count and make sure things are exactly even, of course. But you'll know if it isn't a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.
7. Separate identities. In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you're losing out on being yourself. When you started going out, you both had your own lives (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.) and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should have to pretend to like something you don't, or give up seeing your friends, or drop out of activities you love. And you also should feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward.
I hope this helps you get started on your quest to finding out who you are.
Gentle Hugs to you,
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