Lots of events this week and feeling a little anxious

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paniccu
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   Posted 6/5/2009 9:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey there,
I'm about to go to my dds' field day at the park where there will be lots of people. I'm going to my DH's 20 yr college reunion this weekend (I went there too, but graduated a year later) and next week I'm chaperoning both of my kids field trips. I wanted to be with them, but now the thought of going on 2 long bus rides with first graders and kindergartners is stressing me out. What if I feel carsick or claustraphobic or I just can't take the noise? Tell me how you deal with these situations please. Taking a deep breath and off to the park!
Thanks,
Liz

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   Posted 6/5/2009 10:17 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Liz,

I know how you feel as my whole month is crazy busy, graduations, weddings, remodeling on the house.  I have adopted the motto for the next two week of "just do it" as I cannot just sit down and  worry about it idea .

You will make it through, just be good to yourself and do take time out for you, even if only 30 minutes here and there.

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Allestaria
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   Posted 6/5/2009 11:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Good after noon,

I would (advice from an ex school bus driver) drive myself. The noise on the bus does get out of hand on field trips. And kids tend to misbehave more on field trips then on regular bus routes. So if you think it will be a problem. Your probably right.
Driving yourself you at least have the option to listen to the radio, pull over if needed, and leave at your own leisure. Where as if you ride the bus. You don't have those options and if the bus breaks down. It might lead to a worse situation.
Driving also lets you be the go to person. If not enough lunches are packed or someone needs something to drink. You can be the go to gal!

I always preferred my parents to drive instead of ride. As when they ride they usually can cause more problems and the kids don't listen..

-- If you drive some words of advice as a driver. Do not follow the bus from a 2 foot distance. Stay atleast 2 car links behind the bus. As the driver DOES use the back window to see out of. And if they see just your headlights they can not properly adjust if they need to stop suddenly. Remember to follow the last bus in line. Not the one your child is on if he is on bus 2 and there is 3 buses. As the drivers will need to stay close to each other to make sure each one knows where they are going. And can keep on eye on each bus.

I used to do on average 3 field trips a week for 5 years. Boy do I miss the kiddos. I ran into one of my students the other day. And he remembered my stories I used to tell about my kids. One bus load was full of teenagers and they were chattin about gaming (right up my ally) and he remembered my son (who at the time was 4) had mastered halo and halo2. He is all grown up and out of high school and workin!
,,/pout- I miss my kids...

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   Posted 6/5/2009 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Did you have any type of emergency meds such as Xanax etc? I would try taking that before the bus ride and see if that helps. I am sure you will do great!!
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paniccu
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   Posted 6/5/2009 1:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Just do it! I like it. My motto lately has been Anything is Better then Nothing. Mainly I'm thinking about excercising and gardening though. I think I may be stuck taking the busses this time Allestaria, but I'm going to talk to my youngest's teacher and see. Her field trip is on a farm and I'd be happy to drive there. My other dd's trip is at the zoo and there's no way to get there without taking the thruway. That has been the one fear I have that I can't shake. Just the thought of taking it makes my heart race. The reason I volunteered to be a chaperone was so I wouldn't have to drive. That one is open to parents. For the other one only chaperones are allowed there. I do have a couple of small Xanax left. Good idea. I'll tuck them in my purse just in case. Did you have anxiety when you were a bus driver Allestaria? I can't imagine doing that for a living between the noise level and thruway driving. That would probably be a poor career choice for me. Thanks for all your advice folks!

stkitt
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   Posted 6/5/2009 4:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Whoooo hooooooooo paniccu, you can do it.  I have great faith in you and yes take a bit of xanax if you need to.  It is ok.
 
Bus drivers are awesome..............yowser.  I could never do that job. I admire anyone that can deal with driving the bus.
 
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Kitt

Allestaria
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   Posted 6/5/2009 7:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes I had anxiety/panic attacks when I drove.
I had some events so bad between my home town and Albuquerque NM that I had to pull off the side of the road and collect myself. Or call my mom. My worst one was during a relief route. (I covered runs for regular route drivers when they were absent) I had to call base and have another relief driver come get me as I couldn't finish the route.
I had several episodes while driving the bus. And had to quit do to them just getting worse as the kids got worse. Its a very high stress job. Normal route driving is easier as you see the same kids everyday. And get to know them and their parents.
My job required me to drive any of the 150 routes + field trips. Which included out of town and over night trips. My longest trip was 2 weeks. For baseball.
In the beginning we used to have 2 drivers per trip. But they changed it and we no longer got a buddy to switch with. That is when my anxiety sky rocketed and I ended up leaving the job. As I couldn't handle being out on these field trips and drive for some events that ended being 24 hours on the road.

But I did love my job. And the kids I got to know. I get so excited when I see my kids all grown up and the fact they remember me!

Its funny I call them my kids. Some rountes I stayed on for weeks-months. And these kids to become "mine". I knew them all by name and even had mini birthday parties on the bus. No food or drinks but we would sing and have a good time. Some would even come to the bus as early as possible so i could help them with their homework because parents wouldn't be home to help.
Cried one time when one of my kids parents got a divorce. And she needed a shoulder to cry on and I cried with her.

Oh those were the days!! Now I would get into trouble for touching a student if that was ever to happen again. And to think it was only 5 years ago.

paniccu
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   Posted 6/8/2009 6:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Sounds like you were an awesome driver! We were very dissapointed this year when our regular bus driver left. He was supposedly suspended, but that was back in December and he's not back yet. He was a great guy and really cared about the kids. He did have a little anger management issue when it came to protecting his kids. He would get really mad if cars passed him when he had his yellows lights on as he was preparing to stop or God forbid, his red lights on and he'd yell at the offenders and call the cops on drivers all the time. The kids got used to it and they absolutely adored him and knew he was just looking out for them. As parents, we didn't mind. People get away with blowing by the busses all the time and we were glad that he was taking a stand. Apparently that's against company policy though. My husband's Aunt is a driver and she said you're not supposed to confront other drivers or even report these incidents to the police. You are only supposed to file a report with your super. Our bus driver protected our kids like they were his own and he had good control over the bus. He was gentle but firm with the kids. Now we don't have consistent drivers and kids aren't following bus rules and are acting up. Also, half the time the drivers aren't paying attention to traffic before they cross the kids. Once, my dd was still in the bus and the driver was starting to pull away. The kids on the bus are k-5, so they aren't always on the ball. Oh, sorry for the side rant,but I miss Hank!

Nanners
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   Posted 6/8/2009 6:09 AM (GMT -7)   
I take it you did just fine on all your adventures this weekend?

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paniccu
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   Posted 6/8/2009 10:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh sorry. I went on a tangent :-). I did fine at the reunion. It was really fun and I got to catch up with some people I haven't seen in awhile! My dds' field trips are coming up Friday and next Monday. I'm feeling better about that to. I stopped "what iffing" myself. That gets old fast, doesn't it? Thanks everyone for the words of encouragement. Getting support on this forum always makes me feel better.

paniccu
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   Posted 6/18/2009 5:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Just wanted to say thanks again for the support. Everything went well. I didn't have to take anything. The only time I felt a little panicky was when we first boarded the bus for the zoo. It was really hot on the bus and the windows weren't opened. Once we cracked some windows and took off everything went fine and it was fun! Best of all, my daughters think I'm awesome!

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   Posted 6/18/2009 2:31 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm glad everything went well. When I used to volunteer on my daughter's field trips, I would drive. I can not ride with someone else driving unless it's my husband. I always worry that I won't be able to get out of the car/bus if I need to.

You did it and you should be proud!! Kudos to you!!

P.S. I don't plan anything anymore for myself or the family. We don't go to family get togethers, etc. It's too stressful. I will wait until I'm better.
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paniccu
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   Posted 6/19/2009 5:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Aries! I hope you're able to get out soon too. The bus really wasn't bad. It was so big and so loud that I didn't really notice the cars around me. I was much less anxious than I usually am when I'm travelling on the thruway with my hubby.
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