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xtina
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   Posted 6/19/2009 3:45 PM (GMT -7)   

I used to be very shy as a child , now as an adult i  am not a very social peson. But i don't know if this has to do whih what has been happening to me lately, I recently seperated from my husband about 2 mo ago.. i been avoing him all i can , becauase even though i still love him I know he is not good for me or my baby. But i will have to see him at court in a couple of months, and i am affarid of having a panic attack...i dont know why i get them, when he calls and i put my hand on the phone just thinking about anwering , makes my heart start raising (not in a good way) , my vision blurry and and i feel like i cant breath.. so then i just don't answer. I ve had a relative give my daughter to him when its his visitation day, i been triynig to do it my self but i start to panic, my head gets really hot my vision gets blurry and i feel like im going to pass out. And its only been 2 months. I think i could be having seperationn anxiety. I am pregnant and does any one know if there is a safe med i could take just for that one day (court date)...that a doctor would perscribe?

something thing else that also happends to me..my arm start to tremble specialy my right one along with all other symptoms.

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xtina
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   Posted 6/19/2009 3:53 PM (GMT -7)   
something thing else that also happends to me..my arm start to tremble specialy my right one along with all other symptoms.

jeff1969
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   Posted 6/19/2009 4:54 PM (GMT -7)   
tina try to do it without the drugs  they are bad 4 u and your baby there is info  out there of how to cope wih stree panicking  ect  i have a book called the linden method  for anxiety panic attacks probias and ocd  be seperated from your husband might be the best for u  and baby right now  you need to get your self in check  to be able to relax for a while   put all them thought of court to the sid for now till the day it comes  then deal with it  there a lot of help around ther if u need it  court will be a breeze  a walk in the park   get your self ready on what you want done  they do most of the taking if you have a lawyer  you will be fine   you will be safe there  and if you have any concerns about anything  just let them know your fears  and what you want   mean while avoid phone let inlaws handle visitation  and you get youself right   stop overthinking everything  put it to rest  worrie about u and kids and what direction you want to go  god will step in if you ask for help  not that i am a holy roller  but i been through alot of what your going through  but i am a male    time have changed  at for me .stay strong know for sure what you want and stick to it   take too you soon best of luck  aslo have lots of experance in family court  if u need advice  take care of your self  jeff1969

xtina
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   Posted 6/19/2009 5:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I really appreciate your advise, thank you, your right i maybe I should just not think about it too much until the day comes, i was thinking though that if i keep it in mind every day , in a couple of months when Its time to come face to face with him again I won't panick as much but it could be way around. I will have a lawyer and i am confident about what the outcome will be. What gets me is seeing him again...i am still very weak and seeing him make me terribly sad and mad at the same time all kinds of mixed emotions that i get make me feel like im having a panick attack, that is my fear of showing all that on my appearance, well im pretty sure you know what I mean since you say you've been through a similar situation. But like you said nothing will happen and every thing will fine, and i have to think that every thing will be ok.

Nanners
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   Posted 6/20/2009 7:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Please remember that he will not be able to hurt you at all. There will be sheriff's/marshall's in the court and you will be with your attorney too. If you are really concerned you could have a friend go with and that way you would not be alone. You will not be able to avoid him forever, one day you will have to see him because you have children together. But if he has been violent, you can even get a restraining order to keep him away from you, this would work with the kids too because you already have someone else take them to him. As for medications, I would speak to your doctor about that. My daughter used Vicodin while she was pregnant because my grandson's position was so strange and caused her alot of pain, and he is 6 years old and just fine now. Big hugs and good luck!

Gail *Nanners*
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Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, and Calcium and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

xtina
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   Posted 6/20/2009 11:12 AM (GMT -7)   
I am not afariad of him at all, its not that i know this for sure. What i think it could be is that i may be having sepertation anxiety. while i am away from him and avoiding him i try to think that is just a vacation away from him, because that way i can be calm and at peace thinking we will be together again you know hoping , but I know its not like that, its over and god that hurts soo much im even getting a lump on my throat admitting to myself that its over. But see since i am in denial and i havent assimulated the truth ....when he calls i know if i answer i can't speak to him like the way we used talk because its over, and that is why when he calls i get so shaky and out of breath because reality is kicking in and i am fighting it. Every one thinks that Im ok and that I am being strong but that is because im am lying to myself just to hang in there.For example , when some body looses a loved one becuase they have passed away , some people deal with it by thinking that there just gone for the moment and they'll be back...untill they visit the funeral or grave reality hits and they loose conrtrol .. i know what i am soppouse to do is stop lying to myself so i can go thrugh the sad period and get over it sooner. I can probably do that, I can deal with being sad fo r a while and feeling very unconfortable when i have to see him, but the problem is it dosent stop there it shows on my person and i know that because i can see my hands shaking, and see my self trying to breath, and sometimes i loose my balance because of my vision going blurry, as hard as i try to control these symptoms i can't control and for that reason i was wondering if there wa a medication to take that away, ofcorse it wont make me feel happy all of the sudden or even calm but i just dotn want to be shaking and looseing my breath you know the things i cannot control. something that i dont have to be on every day med that i can take in difficult situations.

Nanners
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   Posted 6/21/2009 6:53 AM (GMT -7)   
xtina, ask your OB if you can take a low dose of Xanax to help with the stress. He will be the only who can tell you if you can with your pregnancy and all. Or maybe there is another med that you can use. I understand the pain of divorce. My ex husband left me for another woman and I loved him very much. We had kids and it was so difficult to be strong for them, when my heart was shattered. If its any consolation, it does get better in time. Its okay to grieve the loss of your marriage, but don't let it consume you. You are having the additional problems because of the pregnancy hormones, so give yourself a little break. Please talk to your OB soon, hopefully they can either prescribe a med to help or even recommend a therapist for you to talk to. Good luck and big hugs!

Gail *Nanners*
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Crohns Disease and Anxiety/Panic Forum
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium  w/Vit D, and Xanax as needed for my anxiety.  Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

Aries8
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   Posted 6/22/2009 10:24 PM (GMT -7)   
xTina, I don't know the issues between you and your husband. My first suggestion would be marriage counseling. Maybe when your heart races as you reach for the phone, your heart is telling you something. Also, you're pregnant again and maybe your feelings/thoughts aren't being true due to the hormone changes?

What I am suggesting is to slow down. Don't make rash decisions but of course keep the baby and yourself safe. I agree that your OBGYN will know what you can take for the day in court.
Good luck, Sweetie!
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"Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets." Paul Tournier

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