I have been off sick and did not know of Jennara's locked thread until now. I am truly sorry you feel that there is a 'clique' type environment here. I can honestly say that it is no ones intention to 'favour' a member. Having said that, some peoples personalities just *click* and friendships are formed, through repeated contact, both here on the board and through personal emails- sometimes phone calls even.
This does not mean that we disregard the feelings of members who dont post as often etc- all members are equally important to HW and your issues, questions, queries etc should all be met. But there are people who meet here on a daily basis and talk through their problems etc and in that way, we get to know each other alot better. This is not to say that those who post less frequently are of any less worth- not at all.
I have not been a mod long- ive been a member up until the last 2 months or so, and never did I feel that the Mods on this board played favourites. I thought they did a great job of being inclusive and supportive of everyone.
Now to Jennara's thread, i cant say for sure what happened, but as I see it, the thread became off topic and was going round in circles. It became argumentative which was unecessary. Both mods involved (Kitt & Nanners) did their absolute best to respond helpfully and honestly to Jennara. At no time were they disrespectful. If you dont believe me, re-read the thread, as I did.
Im not certain ive answered your question the best i can, as I am new to being a mod- but i didnt want your post to go unanswered- hopefully other Mods can fill in the gaps that I have left.
All the best-
Post Edited (Mazfire) : 7/21/2009 6:39:58 PM (GMT-6)
Dear Anxious Soul,
I am sorry you feel the way you do. I cannot control who's posts receive the most play and if you are not getting the responses you are looking for I am very sorry.
Looking back I see the last time you posted was in April of 2009. WE have had a huge turn over in members in the past three months as we often do. The members do make acquaintance here and as a Mod I am not in a position to tell them they cannot talk to someone that happens to have the same issues as they do.
I think alot of it comes down to giving and getting- if you give support or encouragement and put yourself out there to help others with your experience, they will want to respond to your questions and help and support you.
People begin to feel at ease sharing their experiences. This is a community and the more often you are around, the higher the likelihood that you will feel accepted as people get to know you.
There will always be times where there are differences of opinions etc because we have an illness that has negative symptoms, but the bottom line is we are all equal, no-one is better or more worthy of love than others and we should do our best to support each other to the absolute best of our ability.
If you go back to the locked post you will find that I posted what I felt was helpful information in making a decision on whether you should go to the ER or to Urgent Care or to your clinic etc. I did not tell anyone they could not make their own decision.
I posted "Anyone who presents to the ER is entitled to an medical screening exam to determine if they have an acute emergency."
I am sorry you felt the post was locked prematurely, you are certainly entitled to your feelings. The forums are intended for offering mutual personal support. Debating controversial subjects should be taken elsewhere. The thread had turned into a debate of when to go to the ER and when not to. HealingWell Community forums and chat rooms are moderated by volunteers that have some special understanding of your health condition. While they may not have answers to all your questions, moderators are here to help in any way they can. Moderators are also responsible to keep promoting participation in the forums and chats.
Post Edited (stkitt) : 7/24/2009 2:33:33 PM (GMT-6)
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