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melodee
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   Posted 7/25/2009 4:46 AM (GMT -7)   
OMG, I just tried to post the story and I pressed the wrong key? It erased the whole thing!! OMG!! mad
 
Anyway, so I am just pissed off again about human relationships. mad I am SICK of people. Just when you try to make new friends, you end up making a fool of yourself! I wasn't expecting this person to solve my problem. I was only asking for a tiny favor but that was even too much for this person! skull   You see, I give 100% of myself and be as supportive as possible to establish a good friendship. I seek a friendship with no thought of personal gain. I just want a trustworthy relationship. But I noticed that a LOT of people tend to prioritize certain friends/things over others. And I can understand why! But when it is so obvious, it hurts.
 
I am not crying. I am just pissed off cuz I wasn't expecting it to turn out this way!
 
***!!
 
Thanks for letting me vent!!! mad

stkitt
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   Posted 7/25/2009 5:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning Melodee. I suspect I am a bit older then you but I am still learning the same lesson but the hurt and  disappointment are less now days as I have learned that these kind of people were never a good friend to begin with and in my head I was always a bit wary. 
 
I just received an email from a "friend" yesterday blasting me.  An online friend.  I am way to old to defend myself when someone sends me a nasty email telling me I have it 100% better then they do and telling me just because I lost a son, 2 sisters and a brother I was better off then she was.  She lost her ex-husband who she claimed to hate and he was a crack head and drug dealer.  So I just let go of her..................I am just to dang old to spend time on people that are not truly your friend.
This email just dropped in my lap like a bomb shell. like what the Heck !

You feel free to vent anytime it helps you and I am hear to listen.
 
Gentle Hugs
Kitt
 
 


 

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Nanners
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   Posted 7/25/2009 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Yep, I can relate. I give alot of myself and sure do feel sometimes that I don't get much back. I suggest letting this friend go, and stick with the ones you can count on.

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Mazfire
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   Posted 7/25/2009 11:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Melodee in my personal experience, if you are the one putting in ALL the effort in a friendship, then its probably better to part company and find friends who encourage and support you through difficult times. You will be better off for it.
All the best,
 
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melodee
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   Posted 7/28/2009 5:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks guys! I must be a real idiot for letting people take advantage of me this way. I remember my thread on trust and since then I have tried to trust people, but again, I end up being a fool. I'm ok now. Trying to move forward!

artz_tl
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   Posted 7/29/2009 6:22 AM (GMT -7)   
I've found myself ALWAYS being the YES person....yes I can do that for you, yes I'd love to be cheercoach, yes I'd love to be on PTA, yes, I'd love to be homeroom mo, Yes I'd love a promotion at work.....Yes, yo can have the shirt off my back and then walk all over me.....BUT lately, this panic and anxiety have caused me to say NO!!!!!! I've not been a very good friend lately either, but it's not because I don't want to be, or because I don't still love my friends, It's because my world has gotten so out of control lately, I can't do all the things I once could! So I don't go out much! So I tell alot of my friends no, it's not that I don't want to, I'm just scared of getting from point A to point B to do things with them! SO I avoid them sometimes, I guess I needed to hear this, because I know some of my friends would come to me.....but who wants to admit.....I feel like I'm losing my mind most days....how are you?!?! LOL SO I guess what I'm trying to say, we all respond to diffferent things in different ways, and have different reasons for doing the things we do......so we all have to look at both sides of everything! Hope you have one real friend you can count on......mine's my goofy husband! And Lord knows HE"S NOT PERFECT......but neither am I!!!!!
Here for you!!!!! I'm glad I'm making friend on here that understand what I'm going through! Free Therapy!

stkitt
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   Posted 7/29/2009 9:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Melodee,
 
Hoping you are feeling better and sending you hugs from vacation land here in Branson, MO.
 
Kitt   :-)
 

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