Hello Andy and welcome to HealingWell.
I am sorry to hear you are going through problems with anxiety. I think if your physician feels the Xanax is a option for you it is well worth considering. Also I agree with Nanners........perhaps a bit of therapy may be just the key to helping you through this tough time.
Please know we are here for you and do stick with us.
Do listen to your Dr. I fought it for so long and when I finally gave in, the relief was almost immediate. I could not figure out why I was so against something that made me live more peacefully. I went the herbal route, never really found anything that had enough kick to help (also, herbs on the shelf in pill form are not regulated and you really do not know what you are getting). If you have a good relationship with your Dr. and feel he/she is really listening to you, take their advice. If not, get a second opinion. Whatever you decide, good luck and I hope you feel well soon.