turning 40 this week - omg panicking for some reason!

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hazelnut86
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   Posted 8/25/2009 6:47 AM (GMT -7)   
k anyone ever have a milestone bday and find yourself panicking?  i think maybe it's that or breaking up with my bf i thought was the one recently.  i can't seem to stop beating myself up over even tho he is the one who messed up. 
 
k does anyone ever feel like you have to cough from the weird heartbeats ?  and have you ever focused on your heartrate and it felt slow, fast, slow fast?  i am feeling so anxious this morning.  i hate it!!
 
i call my mom sometimes to vent but then i feel like i am burdening her and nobody i know has panick!!  sucks!! 
 
i went in the bathroom crying when i got to work because i feel like my mind will NOT listen to me when i say calm down everything is okay.  ugh!!!!

Nanners
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   Posted 8/25/2009 7:12 AM (GMT -7)   
I felt much the same way you are when I turned 30. My former mother in law help me to see that I was mourning the passing of what had occurred in my 20's. I had had married, had my children, all the things you usually look to do in that time (in the late 70's & 80's).

Many are frightened when they go into a new age group. But let me tell you, you are heading into some of the best years of your life. It seems as if some of lifes worries are a little easier at this time of life. At least I feel that way.

Sounds like your anxiety is ramping up alot right now. Try to stay in the here and now, and not worry about the what if's. Take slow, deep breathes and try to relax. The coughing, wierd heartbeats are all part of anxiety. Do you have any fast acting meds you might take to help calm you, if you do I suggest taking them now. Sending healing thoughts and prayers your way.

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Gail*Nanners*
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It's scary when you start making the same noises As your coffee maker.
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hazelnut86
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   Posted 8/25/2009 7:28 AM (GMT -7)   

thanks gail.  so have you had those same symptoms?  how old are you if you don't mind me asking? 

i have 2 children i am raising on my own - 16 and 3.  i thinki feel bad for turning 40 and still being single.  but i can't beat myself up over it.  i mean a man won't make me complete.  just be nice in this economy and to have a whole family for my boys. 

i am also hypothyroid.  i have been taking my meds though.  i am prescribed like 50 whatever it is - ha - of levoxyl but when i take the full amount, i find my anxiety increases bad so i only take half.  i made myself an apt to get it checked again today.  i hate taking time off work for me tho.  i have an anxiety about losing my job and being single and broke!!! scary!!

 

 


Nanners
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   Posted 8/25/2009 8:02 AM (GMT -7)   
I am now 51 y/o now and can tell you I am loving life alot more now. My girls are grown and all out on their own, and since they have left home, I married again and am happier than ever.

Also, since you mentioned you are hypothyroid and feeling really anxious, I might suggest another visit to your doc. I was hyperthyroid at one point in my life, and I was an anxious mess at that time. The thyroid can really increase your anxiety, so it might be a good idea to get your levels checked again. Maybe another med adjustment is needed.

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Gail*Nanners*
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Crohns Disease and Anxiety/Panic Forum
Crohn's Disease for over 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium  w/Vit D, and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
It's scary when you start making the same noises As your coffee maker.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

stkitt
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   Posted 8/25/2009 8:16 AM (GMT -7)   

OK, I will fess up..............I had my major melt down  when I turn 60.........Oh my I still have not adjusted to this age.  I do not feel like I fit into any group right now.  I am to young to spend my time playing cards at the senior center.  To old to have much in common with the younger set and feel like I am just sitting here waiting for something good to be thrown my way.

Turning 50 was awesome, I loved the 50's as I was at my prime in my job,  had the extra money to do some traveling and still had lots of friends all tied to my job. 

Now I rattle around but I will survive.  If I just had a hobby.  I have thought of many but no one around to teach me how to knit etc.

Enjoy your life.  Happy Birthday.

Hugs,

Kitt


 

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Precious Gem
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   Posted 8/25/2009 8:27 AM (GMT -7)   

Don't worry!  40's are great. Personally I do not celebrate "numeric" birthdays anymore, meaning I do not focus on the age, just the fact that I am still here and have so much to be grateful for, not always an easy task.  I think my 50's will be great so long as I can keep my anxiety under control which is coming about slowly but surely.

Celebrate and enjoy your birthday!

Gem

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