i miss my boyfriend

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evibobevy
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   Posted 11/24/2009 5:04 AM (GMT -7)   
he's my rock, and the most stable part of my life for the past few months while i've been battling serious anxiety and depression. We've spent no more than 24 hours apart at the most and i took a trip to visit my cousin in New York for the holidays. ill be gone for 9 days, i know that isn't long but i'm having serious anxiety as far as how to deal with being apart from him for this long, and its only the first day. i know it isnt healthy to feel dependent on a person this much, but i'm helplessly in love with him and i'm having a hard time being away from him. please help!

stkitt
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   Posted 11/24/2009 6:02 AM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry to hear you are lonesome for you bf and I think you identified your own problem...............you have been together so much that you are feeling some seperation anxiety and worrying about the what ifs?



Try to think of this vacation as short term and enjoy each day knowing that time flies by and you will soon be back home with your bf. Also I am sure you are able to talk with him on the phone so if you need that connection to the one person who is your main support call him and talk through your anxiety with him.



I had to do this once when I left for a week and was having a bad time. I would call my hubby in tears and he would talk me down................by the time I was through talking to him the tears would stop and I would remember what he told me. I hope this helps you in some small way.



Take care,



Kitt

stronglady4me
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   Posted 11/24/2009 12:49 PM (GMT -7)   
We all need to have a support system but you have to be in charge of dealing with your anxiety. There is a fine line between being in charge and being dependant. What to you do to deal with anxiety while your boyfriend is at work/school/visiting friends? Try to put those things in play and enjoy your visit.
Stronglady4me
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stkitt
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   Posted 11/24/2009 4:28 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree we need to be in charge of our own feelings but there are times when our anxiety is like any other illness and for a certain reason when we are working through our problems with our Pdocs and therapist we need the support and go to person whom we feel safe with.



After a serious breakdown I took my first trip and I do travel alot but for me it was a challenge and I needed to know if I failed I was not a loser but would pick myself up and with loving support I would beat the anxiety in the end....................I did it but no man is an island.



I also overcame the loss of a son to a car accident but again my support team helped me through but I did the work.



Great advice and I like how you put it.



Thanks and I just wanted to add to your comments as it is so important to believe in yourself.



Gentle Hugs



Kitt
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