Time off and increased anxiety

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Nanners
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   Posted 11/30/2009 8:51 AM (GMT -7)   
I have been off the past 6 days for the Thanksgiving holiday.  I was so excited to relax and enjoy my time off.  I have Crohns Disease and Fibro but have been feeling really good with both of those lately.  But for the past few days I have noticed myself feeling a little bit more anxious than usual.  I think its because I keep myself very scheduled and I think because I have been off with nothing to do, it has giving me more time to think or something????  I use my Xanax, but am kinda bummed after feeling so good lately.  Anybody else get like this when your schedule is off.  I worry what will happen when the time comes to retire (not for a few more years).  Will I just be an anxious mess because life is so different.  How do I stop this stinkin thinkin.
 
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Gail*Nanners*
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Crohns Disease and Anxiety/Panic Forum
Crohn's Disease for over 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium  w/Vit D, and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
It's scary when you start making the same noises As your coffee maker.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

melodee
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   Posted 11/30/2009 10:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Nanners,

I have been jobless for months...close to a year now. :( Maybe more....:( Too embarrassed to say. And this whole time it has been the horrible for me. My anxiety, depression has been real bad. Yes, when you have more time to focus on yourself, the anxiety increases. The more you distract yourself and keep yourself busy, the quicker your symptoms will subside. It's best to be engaged in some activity that will keep your mind off of your worries. How about taking classes at the community center? Doing volunteer work?

Nanners
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   Posted 11/30/2009 10:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for your thoughts Melodee. I have a full time job, I am just off for a few days for the holiday. This is the first time that I didn't have anything special planned, and I think that is the problem. I was so excited to have the extra time to rest, and I have rested. Hubby and I have gone out and did a little xmas shopping, but it must not have been enough. Another thought has been that my Mom passed earlier this year, and maybe the holidays are bringing some of that to my mind. My Dad passed in early December many years ago, so I am thinking its just the time of year getting to me.

We are going to the swap meet today, I took my Xanax, so feeling a little calmer now. Its strange but I am actually looking forward to going back to work tomorrow. It keeps my mind busy. Thanks again for your thoughts. I hate the over thinking we tend to do at times.

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GAil*Nanners*
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Crohns Disease and Anxiety/Panic Forum
Crohn's Disease for over 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium  w/Vit D, and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
It's scary when you start making the same noises As your coffee maker.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

Georgie Girl
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   Posted 11/30/2009 10:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Before I had really bad anxiety, I still had anxiety on days I was off work. Something about not being at work and feeling like I should be and worrying about what I was going to have to deal with when I got back.

stkitt
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   Posted 11/30/2009 10:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear Nanners,

You are speaking to the "Queen of to Much Time on Her Hands" and increased anxiety when I do not have any schedule to follow.

My mind spins trying to decide on how to fill the time and I think I should be feeling so happy and thrilled to have time to myself to play or do whatever.................NOT. I cannot make up my mind what to do so I start to feel anxious and wish someone would tell me what to do or call me and say we are going to do this and be ready.

I will call around looking for someone to do something with and when no one is available I feel more anxious. Sadly then I will decide if I just take a nap the time will go by and it will be bed time again..............


I do so much better on the days I have to work as I know exactly what I am going to do the next day.

I am still looking for an answer to the "to much time, not enough $ to travel or no one to do something with these days".

I thrive on being needed and doing something productive as I suspect you do to and sitting around expecting to feel happy is what you dreamed of but in reality it does not work that way for those of us that need structure in our lives.

Vacations seem to work as you are away from your own home and it is fun and relaxing, eating out, visiting with people and just not having to do anything but enjoy yourself.

The hype over retirement years being the best years of your life is way over rated IMHO. So I may work at something forever........I will be the oldest granny working at a Mc Donalds some day.

I understand how you feel and remember "no guilt" over using your Xanax or in not having your expectations met on your time off. Next time plan some structured activity and lower your expectation. That way anything awesome that happens will be great !


Love and Hugs


Kitt

Nanners
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   Posted 11/30/2009 10:58 AM (GMT -7)   
I think you hit the nail on the head Kitt. We are going to the swap meet today and looking forward to it. I have done so well anxiety wise lately, this kinda makes me sad it made a comeback. Oh well, better days are ahead.

Love ya
Gail*Nanners8
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Crohns Disease and Anxiety/Panic Forum
Crohn's Disease for over 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium  w/Vit D, and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
It's scary when you start making the same noises As your coffee maker.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

stkitt
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   Posted 11/30/2009 11:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Nanners,
 
Let yourself feel a bit sad and then toss it away, let it go as life is always changing and the anxiety is always there but you have come so far and deal with it so well it is ok to have hit this bump in the road.  Today have fun and leave yesterday in the past.
 
It is over and you are living in the moment.
 
Your the best so be proud of who you are !
 
Gentle Hugs
 
Kitt
 

melodee
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   Posted 11/30/2009 2:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Nanners,
 
I am sorry about your mom, ((((((((Nanners))))))). It must be diffcult for you to spend this holiday season without her and your dad. You are in my thoughts, and I hope memories comfort you as time passes.
 
My mom passed at the end of December many years ago and I always dread the holiday season. I remember bringing flowers to my mom as my last Christmas present for her, while she was on a respirator in the hospital. It was the last time I said "Merry Christmas Mom" to her. Even after many years, I still cry remembering that moment. cry She was having trouble breathing, but she was still conscious and I remember she was looking at the flowers and nodding thank you. Christmas used to be a great time for me. Now it is different. So I can totally relate. Please remember you are not alone. :)
 
Big Hugs,
Melodee :)
 

debaser
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   Posted 11/30/2009 2:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Yep. When I am working I rarely have anxiety. In fact in the mornings when I have anxiety, when I leave for work it often goes away. I think avocations are very important. I hesitate to call them "hobbies" because at least in the art world a lot of people do truly great things in their "spare" time, and calling their pursuits a hobby seems belittling to me. Either way, doing something is important, I think. An idle mind is anxiety disorder's playground.

sukay
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   Posted 12/4/2009 4:03 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey Nanners,

How did the sway meet go?  How ya feeling lately? blush


~sukay~
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Nanners
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   Posted 12/4/2009 7:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Now that I am back to work I am feeling fine again. I have some more time off around Christmas so I changed it to where I have a few days off here then a few more later, so that I don't go thru that anxiety again. I think it was just too much time off with nothing to do, so my mind decided to take over:)

Thanks for asking!
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Crohns Disease and Anxiety/Panic Forum
Crohn's Disease for over 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium  w/Vit D, and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
It's scary when you start making the same noises As your coffee maker.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

stkitt
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   Posted 12/4/2009 8:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Nanners,
 
I am glad you are feeling better and I think you were wise to change your time off schedule to spread it out with some days working and some days off versus all your days off in a row.
 
Also remember holidays can be tough when we are missing someone who has died and that we loved so much so plan ahead on dealing with those feelings.  Let the memories in but remember too that it is OK to feel sad that your Mom is not here with you.  Also each year you are building new memories of your own with your hubby and your friends and family.
 
Blessings to a special lady,
 
Kitt

Precious Gem
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   Posted 12/4/2009 8:54 AM (GMT -7)   

The same thing happened to me, I had 4 days off in a row for Thanksgiving and I was looking forward to it.  Thanksgiving was nice but by Saturday afternoon I was about to jump out of my skin being in the house so much.  got out Sunday and by Sunday evening I could feel that little black cloud hovering over my head plus GAD in full throttle.  Went back to work on Monday, by Tuesday I was fine.  I guess it is getting off our schedule that seems to mess our body clocks up.  I am one of those people that can not relax, so, maybe I did too much relaxing!

Glad everyone is feeling better.........We might get snow flurries here tomorrow! Yippy..... (I live in the south, when it snows it is like a big holiday.)

Gem


Nanners
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   Posted 12/4/2009 9:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Yeah usually when I have time off I am either travelling or do have something else planned, but this time I didn't and it was the first time I noticed my anxiety creep back in. Because of my Crohns I am always following a schedule of eating at certain times, eating certain things. This time after a few days, my schedule got mixed up and I think that triggered the anxiety. Feel great now, and thank God for my Xanax, it really is a lifesaver sometimes.

Thanks for everyones concern.

Hugs
Gail*Nanners*
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Crohns Disease and Anxiety/Panic Forum
Crohn's Disease for over 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium  w/Vit D, and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
It's scary when you start making the same noises As your coffee maker.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*
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