Hello Starness and welcome to HealingWell.
This is a minor problem for me especially in large crowds or with people I do not know.
It's only natural to feel a bit anxious before a social event or when meeting new people for the first time. However, for some of us , what should be a source of pleasure can become a real nightmare.
Social anxiety, or social phobia, is having a fear of social situations and interacting with other people.
For most people, social anxiety isn't so much a fear of the situation itself, but rather a fear of how they think others might judge them in that situation. I feel like this may be where you and I are at.
Social phobia has a lot to do with low self esteem. When a person doesn't hold themselves in very high regard and thinks negatively about
themselves, they naturally think others are having those exact same thoughts and are judging them negatively too. It's like they sense their own thoughts reflected back at them.
Try focusing outward when you are in a social situation. Socialising and meeting new people is all about
outward thinking – focusing on the other person – not inward thinking. Noticing things about
that person and showing an interest in them. People love to be noticed, and will naturally warm to your presence when you start to take an interest in them.
Start out in small groups and remembe to keep telling yourself that you are OK. You are interesting and charming and you are excited to meet new friends.
Do stick with us and I hope this has helped you in some small way.
I wish you peace, Kitt