Fever, Funeral

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debaser
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   Posted 2/22/2010 7:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Well the anxiety is finally hitting me now. My father died Saturday morning and I traveled to be with his wife for the weekend. I'm set to go back tomorrow for the funeral, but I haven't had a good night's sleep in forever and have smoked way too much the last couple days. Nerves. And my eating habits have been crap.

Today I've had a fever off and on and am worried that I'll get sick and not be able to go tomorrow. It's only 180 miles or so but snow is forecast and in Texas that freaks everyone out. The freeway I'll be traveling on is IH35, probably one of the busiest in the world as it stretches from Mexico to Canada. Lots and lots of freight traffic.

I really, really need to be there tomorrow for my step mother. I can't not go, but it's going to be a big deal and if I feel sick I'm going to be miserable in every way, shape, and form. I don't know what to do. Tonight I feel pretty bad but could make it if I had to, though by the time I got there she'd be asleep. I just worry it's going to get worse overnight.

FamilyGuy
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   Posted 2/23/2010 10:55 AM (GMT -7)   
I know you had said earlier that you and your dad weren't close, but it still is hard. A constant (whether he was there or not) is gone. I hope you are able to handle all that comes your way today.

Thoughts and prayers are with you,

stkitt
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   Posted 2/23/2010 2:45 PM (GMT -7)   
debaser,

I am so sorry to read of your Father's death and please know my prayers are with you. I hope you were able to hop on the I 35 and make it to the funeral.

Please let us know how you are and know we are here for you.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt

debaser
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   Posted 2/23/2010 10:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks.

It's true we weren't close and that we didn't really get along that well, but he was my father so there's nothing good about it. Unfortunately we didn't make our peace before he died. I wanted to over Christmas but it seemed like he didn't want me to come down there, so I didn't. In any event I've learned a lot about him from my step-mother during all of this, and I think I have made my peace now.

I woke up this morning feeling much better than I was when I wrote last night. Getting out of here was no problem. It was not forecast but the snow actually reached all the way up here to Dallas but the drive didn't get sporty until about half way through. At that point most of the traffic was in the ditch, clearing the way for me. I made pretty good time, considering, and got there several hours early.

The funeral was nice. Normally the sermon or whatever you call it at these things don't really fit the person, but in this case it did and that actually did a lot for me. And even though I was surrounded by strangers all day long, they were very friendly and I didn't really feel I was amongst strangers.

I am sad but I also feel like a huge weight has been lifted.

Thanks

stkitt
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   Posted 2/24/2010 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear debaser,


I am glad to read that you made it to the funeral and that you feel like your in a better place right now. Also knowing that your Father's Eulogy was appropirate and comforting is a good thing.



I went through much of the same things you were feeling with my stepmother and when she died I had a lot of unresolved feelings to deal with which are now behind me. It took me awhile but eventually things were OK.



I wish you peace and many hugs to you,



Kitt
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