I worry too much...

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Celey
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   Posted 3/29/2010 10:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Even when I'm in a non-depressive state... I still tend to have anxious feelings and worries... For instance, this morning... I noticed that my chemistry professor seemed frustrated with the class... Whenever a teacher gets frustrated... even though, I know it's not realistic... I believe that, somehow, it's my fault...

And lately, I have been worrying that I come across as... too arrogant... It's always been a background worry of mine, but it seems especially prevalent as of late... I'm not sure you guys notice on the board and everything.... But I think it must be pretty obvious whenever I'm speaking to someone... I don't mean to sound like I'm talking down to anyone or anything like that... but it sometimes comes across that way...

The best solution would be to just keep my mouth shut, but when I am feeling good, I'm a very enthusiastic person... and I like trying to be friendly...

Unfortunately, a lot of the things I'm enthusiastic about are... hmm... too advanced for a lot of other people.... I'll be engaging in a conversation, and suddenly I'll be given a weird look... or someone will exclaim... "Wow! You're really smart!" or in the worse case scenario, I'll be called a know-it-all or someone who acts like they know everything... And no matter how many times it happens, it always seems like such a surprise to me...

Other than keeping my mouth shut, I'm not really sure how to solve this particular problem... A lot of people seem to get intimidated by that kind of thing... and it makes me nervous because talking like I do comes naturally to me...

And I think there are probably other people that have this same problem... I wonder, for instance, how Stephen Hawking manages to hold a "normal" conversation... I wonder if it's very difficult for him?

For me, at least, I'm still somewhat accessible... But it doesn't change how a lot of people tend to regard me...
I think I am being picked on by life, sometimes. But's that okay. Life and I are good buddies... I know life doesn't mean no harm. It just is the way it is. I can accept that.


debaser
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   Posted 3/29/2010 11:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Well, for Stephen Hawking I imagine it's extremely difficult to have a conversation for many different reasons. Sounds to me like you're interested in science, and probably a field that actually is way over most other peoples' heads. It's very specialized training, of course, and it takes a great deal of aptitude to understand the concepts (much less the math). Some people are wired for that sort of thing, and others are not.

Anyway, people will get intimidated. It's happened to me all my life. Sometimes I think I sound bossy or like a know-it-all, but over time I've learned to try not to care. I'm just not a social person. I speak my mind and do try to be nice about it but people don't always see that. After a while it will make a person self-conscious, which in moderation isn't a bad thing.

I wouldn't keep your mouth shut. What I'd do is find people you're more comfortable talking to. Build more confidence and you won't be concerned that the prof's bad day is because of you. You recognize that it's an illogical assumption...don't let the worry take hold. Trust your own judgment.

Nanners
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   Posted 3/29/2010 1:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Celey,

I have similar issues, not the super intelligent stuff, but always worrying if I have upset someone etc.

I worry, worry, worry ALOT. And it seems like my stress levels of late are just out of control. And as a fellow Crohnie, you know what that does to you.

I think Debaser gave some good advice. Just take things as they come, and as he said trust your own judgement. I know you are a really intelligent young lady.

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Celey
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   Posted 3/29/2010 1:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you both... :)... It is comforting to have people that do care about you, at least...

I am getting better about not worrying so much about trying to make people happy... but I think I still have a long way to go...

Guess I just gotta take it step by step...
I think I am being picked on by life, sometimes. But's that okay. Life and I are good buddies... I know life doesn't mean no harm. It just is the way it is. I can accept that.

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