Spouse has GAD, marriage in jeopardy, need resources

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   Posted 4/4/2010 3:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Are there any resources out there to help the partner of an anxiety sufferer learn how best to interact with their spouse? My SO is on meds, getting therapy, and we are in couples counseling together, but we are struggling more than ever. Most of the time he/she is either angry with me or shuts me out. I need to learn how to help, how to avoid causing the upset and how to break through when it happens. Any books on this subject?


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   Posted 4/4/2010 3:46 PM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to A & P. If you are already seeing a counselor together perhaps you should see about some individual sessions just for yourself.

Again welcome,


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   Posted 4/5/2010 7:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Sometimes my worst enemy is me and i will lash out at those i love especially when in anxiety mode
i know better than this yet at times i still cannot help what comes out from frustration n humiliation of my daughter having had to stoke up at 16 turned 17 today to look after her mom who just literally blew a gasket after all the worst that life could throw did throw
my so could no longer stay in the relationship we had built together and left with a co worker

as kitt said perhaps individual counselling would be beneficial for one of you
take that step n give it a shot
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   Posted 5/26/2010 12:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello StormyNite,

Welcome. Support groups are a place for people to give and receive both emotional and practical support as well as to exchange information. People with health conditions, as well as their friends and families find support groups to be a valuable resource and get confirmation that their feelings are "normal", educate others, or just let off steam. IMHO joining a support group is joining a family and depending on just one person in the family is not always healthy and may defeat the purpose of being a member of a group.

I hope you participate in the forum and do not depend on members to email you. We are all here for you in the open forum.

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   Posted 5/28/2010 10:56 AM (GMT -6)   
I understand, My wife had problems after our first child. She lost her high paying job and told me of wanting to wreck her car to kill her self.
I found out the Dr had given her med's for depression  and once the med's stopped working he just changed the med's. I had to pick her up at the ER when she wanted to end it all. Her Dr wanted to place her in an instution and giver her strong medications.
I declined this and It took three years to work through this. I am not sure if I did wrong or not. But today my wife has her life back. Loosing her job changed her enviorment and I watched her daily. We used some information found on Public TV specail and treated the problem and not the symptoms.
I love my wife dearly, allowing this dr to turn her into a lab rat was not acceptable to me. I am a very stong A type person, this is not for everyone. If you screw up you could loose her completely.
No matter the road you take, just remember this, She is the same person you fell in love with. There is something effecting her "now" that she can not control. It would be easy to toss her to the side and find another, but you would never be the same person.
By your posting here, it shows you are a good person. Stay strong and know she would do the same for you.
One of the hardest things to accept is things she might say or do and how you might relate them to her changed.
This Too will pass.
Best of luck .
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