Good Morning..........let us change your name to Can Deal, or Let's Make a Deal..............something positive.
Many of our members live unconsciously under the impression that “what ifs” are a separate entity, independent from us and that we should take them all seriously. The fact is they are not always valid and true, let alone worthy of any sort of long-term loyalty. What's worse is that most of these “what ifs” are automatically negative, leaving us stuck, immobilized and unable to take action. Well let's help you kick some anxiety butt !
We can put a fun, positive spin on these “what ifs” and sort of play with them a bit. After all, positive expectations are just as valid, if not more so, than negative expectations so why not consider replacing the negative ones with positive. For instance: Instead of "what if I have a horrible time on vacation?" try "what if I have a really nice time on vacation and just enjoy staying in the moment?"
Let go of the anxiety !
Letting go means handing it over to the powers that be. Sure, letting go of a situation is easier said than done – especially if you're a long-time control freak. But stepping back and accepting what IS, not only relieves anxiety about
the "what if", it also empowers you to say "so what" and "let it be."
Be consciously aware of old thought habits. Recognizing negative "what ifs" can mean the difference between acting on them and passing them aside where they belong. Be the observer, not the reactor and remember: Do you have anxiety, or does your anxiety have you?
Now Big breath and reread all that has been written here for you.............know we care and we are all right here wishing you one special vacation. Your job, get out there and make some memories.
Smiles and hugs, Kitt