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Cant Deal
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   Posted 4/8/2010 7:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone, it's me again.  I hope I am not being a pain.
 
I am leaving for a vacation in a couple of days and my anxiety is through the roof.  I posted a couple of days ago and I did get some good advice but the what if's are just killing me.
 
My partner is not coming on vacation with me.  I am going with a friend, so I am having so many worries there.  I am also worried that my intrusive thoughts and the what if's are going to come out while I am on vacation and cause me full out panic attacks. 
 
I know that the what if's are so horrible and can ruin a person.  Can anyone and everyone please give me some coping tips and excercises that you do when your brain goes into overdrive?  I have decided to print out the replies and take them with me to read for comfort when I am away.  I am also going to get some ativan from my doctor just in case.  I really wanted to go on this vacation and try my best to come back as a happier anxiety free (one can dream right?) person, but as it nears my anxiety level is hitting an all time high. 
 
Trying with all my might, but need your help!  yeah

Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/8/2010 7:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there im a bit unconventional with some of my coping techs
ONE...What if..changes to it WONT if i keep positive mindset
Two..No one really can feel my panic or angst especially strangers SO..DONT SWEAT IT
Three...IM going to be just fine n just keep breathing

Keep your eyes on scenery n mind/heart on vacation hopefully you can put the a/p aside n enjoy yourself
Im sure more have better input than i but i hope you do let us know
ENJOY
lyn

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Cant Deal
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   Posted 4/8/2010 7:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Lyn. You are a very kind person... I can tell. :)

Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/8/2010 7:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Awww thanks hun i have my moments
just letting you know so many of us go thru this sweetie
keep coming n getting the care n support you need and NEVER think you are being a pain okay
huggles
btw do you hv meds to take if things get real bad for you

lyn
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stkitt
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   Posted 4/8/2010 8:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Can't Deal,


Good Morning..........let us change your name to Can Deal, or Let's Make a Deal..............something positive. cool turn smilewinkgrin


Many of our members live unconsciously under the impression that “what ifs” are a separate entity, independent from us and that we should take them all seriously. The fact is they are not always valid and true, let alone worthy of any sort of long-term loyalty. What's worse is that most of these “what ifs” are automatically negative, leaving us stuck, immobilized and unable to take action. Well let's help you kick some anxiety butt !



We can put a fun, positive spin on these “what ifs” and sort of play with them a bit. After all, positive expectations are just as valid, if not more so, than negative expectations so why not consider replacing the negative ones with positive. For instance: Instead of "what if I have a horrible time on vacation?" try "what if I have a really nice time on vacation and just enjoy staying in the moment?"



Let go of the anxiety !

Letting go means handing it over to the powers that be. Sure, letting go of a situation is easier said than done – especially if you're a long-time control freak. But stepping back and accepting what IS, not only relieves anxiety about the "what if", it also empowers you to say "so what" and "let it be."



Be consciously aware of old thought habits. Recognizing negative "what ifs" can mean the difference between acting on them and passing them aside where they belong. Be the observer, not the reactor and remember: Do you have anxiety, or does your anxiety have you?



Now Big breath and reread all that has been written here for you.............know we care and we are all right here wishing you one special vacation. Your job, get out there and make some memories.



Smiles and hugs,



Kitt

Nanners
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   Posted 4/8/2010 12:06 PM (GMT -7)   
I first came to this forum because I was getting ready myself to go on a vacation with my husband to Guadalajara, Mexico. I made myself so sick with worrying about the what ifs. What if I got sick and ruined the trip for my husband, what if this happens, what if that happens. You know what with the kind words of the ladies above and the help of some Xanax, I had a WONDERFUL TIME!!!
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Crohns Disease & Anxiety/Panic
Crohn's Disease for over 34 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium, Vit D, and Xanax prn. Resections in 2002 & 2005. Also diagnosed w/ Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, & Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/10/2010 9:04 AM (GMT -7)   
HOPING IF you are gone you are enjoying yourself
plz keep us posted
huggs
ly
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