You are really a dear lady, no doubt about it! You are always saying that others have it worse than you do...well, it's true that there's always going to be someone in worse shape in some way. But that doesn't detract from the fact that you deal with sooooooooo much! I know it may be good to remind ourselves of others out there with bad problems so that we don't become too extremely self-absorbed, but you are always reaching out to others and that's quite a kind thing to do! No self-absorption there! It's okay to remind yourself that others "have things worse", but at the same time, I hope that NO ONE ELSE is using that line of reasoning to make you "feel better" about your own challenges! If there's anything that will make me upset and down, it's for someone to tell me that others have it worse than I do! LOL! I know it all too well! But then I just end up feeling worse because I still feel bad about my own situation and then feel bad for everyone out there worse off than me! Hahahahahaha!!!! It's funny and it's not funny, but I think you see what I mean! ;)
My mom was one that used to tell me that others were worse off...oh how I hated that! She'd sound so self-righteous! She had no idea what I was going through and how much pain I was in and then she'd just make it worse by her "encouraging" words! Well, a few years ago she broke her ankle and they put a solid cast on her leg all the way up to the knee. She almost went mad with it on! She felt claustrophobic. She laid in bed and cried and said she didn't think she could stand it...(I thought about how I used to tell her that if someone had a broken arm, you couldn't make them feel better by saying to them "at least you're only dealing with one broken arm. Some people have two!") Anyway, I told her to calm down and I'd call the doctor and see what might could be done. As it turned out, they were able to remove the cast and she got an air-boot cast which could be removed. I used that whole incident to let her know that I used to feel that bad when I was going through the bad depression and anxiety...except that there wasn't ANYONE that could "remove" my source of anxiety like they were able to remove her cast. I truly believe that since that time, she's been a bit more understanding when I'm going through a bad spell!
Now Lyn, again let me say that I think you are a remarkable lady to be so brave in the face of your adversities and that it is awesome the way you think about others' pains and problems and remind yourself of how others are out there that are worse off. I'm not saying anything at all negative about you and your coping skills! The whole gist of what I am saying is that NO ONE ELSE better tell you about all those people worse off than you! I would want to punch them in their noses! And I'm not a fighter! :)