Hi Janet! My husband had to go on a low carb diet due to a glucose reading of 360, which was weight related....20 carbs a day just like your new diet. Yes, it was hard but only for the first week. I found ways to be creative with food using Splenda so he didn't feel deprived when it cames to having something sweet. He ate meat and vegetables, eggs, salads, cheese and nuts which sounds artery clogging but when not combined with sugar, it actually is just the opposite. He lost 55 pounds in three months. Blood sugar went down to 95, cholesteral which was 310 went down to 180. His triclycerides were a screaming 1250 and they went down to 110. After he lost the weight, he went on a maintanence diet and was allowed 50 carbs a day. Of course, you should have your blood work checked periodically as low carb diets can effect your liver and kidney's. But it was not the torture he thought it would be and his body adjusted to the change almost immediately...and he has never been healthier.
As for your mom...I don't know where you live but maybe you could find a clinic that will see her with charges based on a sliding scale. When I didn't have insurance, I found a clinic through the United Way that didn't charge at all and only accepted donations. My friend is an NP and works at our County Health Department and they charge according to income also. I think you can find one of these options easily, make an appointment for your mom and let her know that the stress of her refusing to see a doctor is creating anxiety for you. When The Hubby refused to see a doctor, I made an appointment, told him we were going to lunch and took him to the doc instead. Sneaky yes, and I'm not suggesting you do that but it was the only way I could get him there!
I wish you well with your diet...you can do this!