Social Anxiety Disorder and Depression

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StanIsDead123
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   Posted 5/10/2010 6:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello. I suffer from an anxiety disorder known as "Social Anxiety Disorder". As you probably have guessed, it means i have alot of anxiety over social situations. This tends to make school excedingly difficult. I've found it easier to just fade into the background and keep people from having an opinion of me, rather than have negative one. Although it does leave me a little lonely. Recently I've tried to get out a little more and slowly escape my comfort zone. It seemed like it wouldnt be too much work, but after years of being "the quiet one", the sudden change has made things worse and has caused me to add depression to my list of mental misadventures. I briefly considering therapy, but considering my outlook on being the center of attention it probably is'nt the best option. I'm hoping a few reassuring words could help.
 
Also, I've noticed a few troubling symptoms. I constantly feel like people are watching me and listening to my thoughts. I realize how unrational that sounds, but i just cant shake the feeling. I was wondering if anyone could tell me what this might be.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/10/2010 8:27 PM (GMT -7)   
hi there n welcome
i never had social anxiety up until i became deaf in last yr i now find self in house isolating self enormous amount of time on t\watching tv or just lost in thoughts
i hv become a shell of the me i once knew n its real hard but i know somewhere in there i hv to if not just for me but for daughter get me back
i dont like going out now where before i was always on the go
i feel isolated in room full of ppl due to not hearing them so yes i understand that pain you have n the emptiness
i think with the other sx you might be needing to talk to someone hving thoughts like that develop isnt rational as you are still aware of them n are seeking help so i would really try to see a professional

until then we are here we do listen n we do respond n care for the ppl here
im so so sorry you feel this way
wish i was more help but i know this place fairlly well n i just know someone will make the connection n know how n what you are feeling
plz do stay with us we are a great group
huggs
lyn

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/13/2010 12:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Just wondering how you are doing n hoping you do come back for support
lyn

Old Hippy
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   Posted 5/13/2010 1:24 AM (GMT -7)   
I can relate to what you are going through... All my life, I have struggled with social anxiety, but managed to cope with it; until the last 10 yrs. Whereupon, I started having problems with cognitive tasks and my ability to communicate with other people faltered. My thoughts started becoming sluggish & disjointed, and my speech was plagued by <occasional> slurring & stuttering. My point is: my social anxiety escalated, and I became a total recluse. I have never experienced feelings-- that other people could read my thoughts, but I have become more paranoid that people are staring at me--probably because I feel self-conscious & insecure around people <even my own family>. What has helped me in the past, besides therapy & psych meds, is volunteering. It gets me out of my apt. and out of my head... provides a worthy distraction and allows me to socialize in a safe environment. I hope you will seek help, because noone should have to suffer in silence.. Take it from one who has been there, it is never a good thing... Take care & keep posting...

Old Hippy
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   Posted 5/13/2010 1:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Lyn, I just wanted to thank you for being such a warm & caring host-here on the forum. You mentioned in your post that you have not been socializing< as much> because of your hearing loss; I was wondering, are you going to a support group in your area--to help you cope with all the adjustments & ramifications that you are dealing with? Anyway, I hope you don't mind me asking... You <too> deserve all the love & support that you give us here in cyber-space. take care...

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/13/2010 8:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you my friend
in all honesty i talk to my family doc he has been thru hades n back with me
losing both parents in 2 yrs n hubby cheating sure didnt help me lol
but you are right i need to get out there and volunteer as well do something
i took a long walk yesterday with my lil bro n it felt good getting out
its really hard when my family see the difference in me i know it hurts them too
i was always big sis with the answers n helped them ya know
my daughter suffers the most here though thru it all i know she is hurting yet i cannot communicate all i use to be able to help her

i want to ty for being so kind n helpful not just to me but to others here
loves n huggs
lyn

MizMoon
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   Posted 5/13/2010 9:13 AM (GMT -7)   
I know exactly how you feel with the paranoia (thinking people can hear your thoughts and are watching you. I went through that too. I would actually make my husband get out of bed at night and look out the window to make sure there was no one there watching me. I also had hallucinations of people sitting around me, talking. Not talking to me, but to each other. That was scary. That goes along with the depression and I think you should explore medication to help. I actually went to a mental health facility for inpatient treatment when I was experiencing my extreme depression and paranoia. They prescribed me an antidepressant, and an anti-psychotic (which made the paranoia fade away).
 
If you talk to a counselor, I don't think it would be too bad on your anxiety, because it's one on one treatment. Usually counselors have their offices set up to be soothing and noninvasive, and they are used to talking to people with these types of problems.
 
Good luck to you in whatever you decide to do!

Old Hippy
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   Posted 5/13/2010 7:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Lyn: Are you going to learn sign language, or the ability to read lips? How severe is your hearing loss? Thank you for the kind words... I hope that my input here on the forum can help someone else--finding this forum has been a godsend! I just started going to a program that helps people who are emotionally-challenged find their way back into the mainstream with vocational & educational opportunities... I used to work & volunteer, and then I just fell apart, crumbled into a million pieces and it felt like I would never become a productive member of our society again. If this works out, I will have this forum to thank-- for inspiring me to lift myself out of this comatose state of being & rejoin my fellow man <and woman> . lol take care all... :)

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/14/2010 8:43 AM (GMT -7)   
YES my friend i am totally deaf
my family especially children use to say i had that ...frigged up mother hearing...could hear all
iv antibiotics for the pyoderma gangrenosum ...vancomycin..is the blame
i hv lawsuit going but that will never get my hearing back
so its just to let others know long term usage can lead to thii hv requested to speak at Ontario Legislation about certain antibiotics and over use by docs...waiting on answer

it truly has been holding me hostage but yesterday i went out not saying i wasnt scared as i was n walked enjoying nature seeing sights just getting out
i felt free of demons for that lil time but they are back
i think i hv to make self at least go out once a day if only for a bit

this has caused alot of pain n anguish with teen daughter as i cannot hear her n we always talked about everything she has become depressed n rightly so

those that r close n drop by like lil bro n cait use word thingy on here to converse as i do read lips but not well
have been waiting for the class on sign for 3 mths now

i so much apprecite your kindness to me n your concern thank you
as well you are truly an asset imho to the forum
respecfully n with luv n huggs
lyn

i have 4 different parrots in home n i sure miss what they say lol one is pretty smartarse when he wants to be

Old Hippy
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   Posted 5/14/2010 10:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Stanisdead, Thinking about you, hope you are doing OK... Please keep posting, it really will help. Silence in isolation can be devastating to the mind, body, & spirit. take care....

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/14/2010 1:45 PM (GMT -7)   
That is very true Stan
i am living proof
you need to get on here n be with ppl that do care
huggs
lyn
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