Needing some help through a hard, hard time.

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scleme1
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   Posted 5/24/2010 8:00 AM (GMT -7)   
hello all. i am a 36 year old male. married, and have 2 wonderful kids. i have had some form of anxiety or fear my whole life. it was in my early 20's that i started having panic attacks and had to seek help. i learned how to live life with this problem for 2 or 3 years after that without meds, then i decided to start taking paxil (40mg/day). i have been taking paxil for 10 years now, and it has helped tremendously. i am a successful art director, and have had some mild anxiety here and there over the years while on paxil, but nothing i couldn't handle.

fast forward to 2 weeks ago. my 8 year old daughter decided she didn't want to go to school. she missed her mommy. my mind immediately went to "she is having anxiety. she is going to have an anxiety disorder for the rest of her life." needless to say, i was heartbroken. i began doing all the research i could on the web. for those of us that have used the web to search anxiety disorders...it can be a very scary place. in the midst of worrying about my daughter, I began to feel those old anxiety feelings creeping back.

my daughter is doing ok. she still doesn't want to go to school. there is no bullying or anything like that going on. she just says she misses her mom, and that it makes her tummy hurt. she has never had fear, anxiety, worry, or anything like that so far. she has always been happy, independent, and a joy to be around.

as the weeks went on, my anxiety got progressively worse. now i feel like i am back to where i started: can't eat, can't stop thinking about my daughter, can't stop thinking about my own anxiety, racing thoughts, sick in the pit of my stomach. everything seems overwhelming. the whole 9 yards.

there are also some other stressors in my life that may be contributing to this anxiety. let me explain. i was recently promoted at work, meaning: new job, new employees, new business partner, new product. my family is also moving to a new house in 3 weeks. i'm worried that the paxil has stopped working. and to top all that off, i just can't stop myself from worrying and being sick over my daughter.

has anyone out there had any experiences like this? 10 years of being happy and "mentally" healthy...and BAM. i feel like i am at the end of my rope, and there is nowhere else to go. i feel like i could lose it all at any moment. has the paxil really stopped working? if so, will other meds work just as effectively? is my daughter going to be ok? AM I GOING TO GET THROUGH THIS?

sorry for the long post, and thanks for any help you guys can offer. kind regards, ac.

alone in sa
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   Posted 5/24/2010 1:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello. I have had a similia situation. I too have suffered panic and anxiety at an early age, it was about 7 yrs old for me brought on by PTSS. I suffered for years and finally found help as young adult since my parents were unaware of what I was going through, or that it was really an illness. They chalked it up to wanting to be the center of attention. My course of treatment came mostly from counseling since I have a huge fear of taking meds. I finally agreed to start lexapro and was doing great with it. So great that I quit the lexapro and continued the counseling. Then a year after I went through a divorce and all my hard work came tumbling down. I tried going back on lexapro added extra sessions of counseling but nothing helped. I was having severe attacks on a daily basis and made countless trips to the ER because I thought I was dying. It went on like that for months, then one day instead of having 10 attacks I only had 5. Then one day 5 turned into a couple, and then they just went away. That was in 2004 and I found this site looking for help because out of nowhere the attacks started again. Its horrible, been to the ER 3 times in two weeks plus an urgent care clinic. I don't know why panic and anxiety is soo vicious and attacks in cycles, when u think your in the clear. But my suggestion would be to ask if there is something you can add to your paxil regimen. Just to take the extra edge off. I was given ativan for the first time last nite at the ER and it helped wonders. I'm looking to see if that can be an option of treatement since you only take it as needed and works instantly or within a hour or two for some. I hope you find some relief.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/24/2010 4:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi there n welcome
it could be but not saying def that you have gotten use to that ad paxil n strenghth which after 10 yrs its very likely
you could ask your doc to up your dose or see if he wants to put u on a different one

as for your daughter i think it just may be a phase i really hope it is a phase shes going thru
my cait had issues like that but has grown out of them luckily
im sure others will b about with more input for you
just know we are here n keep posting
lyn
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scleme1
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   Posted 5/25/2010 7:26 AM (GMT -7)   
UPDATE: I went to see our family doc yesterday evening. I explained to him how i was feeling, and what things were causing my stress. mainly, i have been most anxious about 1) my daughter's separation anxiety, and 2) i'm afraid my paxil has stopped working after 10 years of use.

a little history about my doctor
• he's amazing.
• he is responsible for rounds in a psych ward, so he has a LOT of experience with mental health.
• he is responsible for rounds in the Alzheimer's unit of a retirement home.
• he has a 25 year old daughter with Aspergers
• and he spends time with me and listens

his explanation of my current situations is that i have been obsessing over my daughter's health, plus the new job, plus moving. all of those stressors have caused my level of anxiety to "rise" above what my paxil can help with. he thinks the paxil is still working fine. it has worked for 10 years now, and there is no reason that it is going to stop working now.

he suggested adding .5mg of klonopin 2 times a day until this "storm" blows over. it will help to take the edge off, and help keep my thoughts from running out of control.

he explained that anxiety, and myself personally, are nothing like the patients that he sees in the psych ward. i asked him on a scale from 0 to 100 - what chance did i have of ending up in the psych ward. he immediately and confidently said "0".

as for my sweet daughter, he said there's really nothing to worry about. it will come and go. just a phase. he sees it all the time.

so, i am feeling better today. i'm still not 100%, but better than yesterday. and i expect to get better and better each day. for now, i am going to try to concentrate on work, and listen to claire weeks.

i'll keep everyone posted on my progress.

stkitt
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   Posted 5/25/2010 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so glad to hear you saw your Doctor and he sounds very wise. Also it is good to read that you are feeling better and more like yourself.



Anxiety can really beat us up when it gets the best of us so please know we are here for you and that we always read and support our members.



Do keep us posted on how you are doing.



Kindly,



Kitt

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/25/2010 9:04 AM (GMT -7)   
The klonopin should help on real bad days
keep us posted
lyn
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DX..Crohns,,,A/P...Fibro...Seizures..Neuropathy...Pyoderma Gangrenosum..Deaf
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