If drugs cover up "underlying issues" that cause me extreme anxiety, I say bring on the drugs! I will NOT feel like that again as long as there's a way to NOT feel that way!
I know I repeat this over and over here, but one thing that will help anxiety, besides drugs, is Taurine (an amino acid) which is non-toxic. I thought it was a bunch of baloney too until I gave in and tried it! My anxiety was in high gear and I'd been putting off trying it. My Mom encouraged me to give it a go and VOILA'! It helped!! It's not like xanax, but it sure took a lot of the edge off!
You mentioned that you take buspar. Buspar is not like a benzo that knocks your anxiety out. Rather, it is an anti-anxiety medicine that affects chemicals in your brain that may become unbalanced and cause anxiety.
Buspirone is used to treat symptoms of anxiety, such as fear, tension, irritability, dizziness, pounding heartbeat, and other physical symptoms.
So although it helps with anxiety, its effects are not like xanax or valium, etc.
I've been on buspar for many years in addition to SSRIs. I stopped taking it for awhile and noticed that my anxiety eventually started getting worse without it. Now I take it everyday.