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ghosst8
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   Posted 5/27/2010 6:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi- hope everything is going in the direction you want. In my middle
age I have realized or have a better idea about why I am the way I am.
But this also creates more questions. I have GAD (which I didnt realize
till recently] have tried wellbutrin-put me in abit of a fog and celexa
- really didnt notice much difference- and I did give it over 4 weeks.
I actually feel best now and no sex side effects. Any incite on this:
why would I be nervous in some social situations and feel totally calm
in the same situation in previous times - I am very comfortable talking
with people- Im in sales. I feel self conscious and my knees actually shake
-does not make any sense. This unsettled feeling makes me even more
like this- but than it goes away. This however makes me gunshy of life
in general. Seeing a psychologist gave me no incite only this is the way
I'm wired and also childhood embarassments. I would like to lose this
and be free. This happens intermittantly but it does make me avoid things
because being scared of my reactions. Also overthinks things- have
gtten better- but a waste of energy. Any advice- Thank you.

stkitt
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   Posted 5/27/2010 7:28 AM (GMT -7)   
ghosst8

I work well with my therapist. I would like to suggest you look for a new therapist, one that you can build a trust relationship with.

Good luck and I am sure other members will be along shortly to respond to your post.

Kitt

Old Hippy
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   Posted 5/27/2010 2:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, I too, am in my middle age, and it does seem that things can get more challenging, as one gets older. I have seen several therapists, over the years, and it is not a <one size fits all prospect> you have to shop around until you find the one that fits... Perhaps, the meds need to be changed, only you and your doc can decide that, but we are here for support & our own unique <layman> advice, so keep posting & take care.... L

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/30/2010 12:06 PM (GMT -7)   
HI
i totally agree that u may need to find another therapist
one that listens n gives answers not just say yr wired like that
i poor pity the therapist that would say that to me he / she would get a godl ole hands on the hip finger shaking talking too for sure...but thats me
i like KITT hv a great relationship with mine..but he is my family doc not a therapist
i hv had him for yrs he has seen me at my worst n pulled me thru hades n back a few times
im the type that doesnt go to therapists but i hv decided im going to give it 100 percent n go this time
i need to get me back really n im coming along with the help of my friends n family here but i promised my doc i would give it a shot so i will

i do the CBT online thats posted here n its helped but i hv some issues i need to work thru

stay with us
Kitt n Hippy have given great input
you r not alone in this
lyn

stkitt
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   Posted 6/6/2010 7:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Posted by ghost8 on 6/6/2010 @ 6:41 AM
 
Hi again everyone- hope today is a good one for you. Previously I posted comments regarding gad,ocd and social anxiety. This was particular to situations that I was familiar,competant and successful in. Does any one have any insight on why I would have this. I dont suffer from depression either. Ialso seem to be fearful of failing at something I know I have the ability to do-like golf to some extent. I have a fear that i will let my mimd undermine me and I wont show my real abilities. As I said before I also overanalyze things and then become afraid I will do this. Why one day cool another anxious? Why does anxiety move from one thing to another
in areas that I was cool with? I'm not just talking about good and bad days
which everyone has - Im more fragile than that. Is it that I'm just wired that way? There is mental illness in my family and I experienced what I consider severe embarassment when my parent was hospitalized for a breakdown when I was about 6- although I feel not much emotion about this now. Is that just an excuse? I feel I have lived a scared and comprimised life- my own fault- and do not want to do this anymore. Also.
I notice I make a big deal about everything sometimes. Anyone out there
have any insight on any of this? The therapists I was seeing said it would
not make a difference to explore my early years;I have to concentrate on moving ahead now. I want to help myself.
Thank you.

Old Hippy
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   Posted 6/6/2010 1:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Ghost, I can relate to the duel nature of anxiety issues. One minute, I can be shy, nervous, & self-conscious about a situation, and the next time, I can be outgoing & appearingly confident & poise, depends on the type of environment I am in, and how much trust I have in the people around me. I do not know if that made sense, but try not to get overwhelmed by becoming fixated on certain issues/thought processes. Take a long deep breath and look for what triggers an anxiety attack, journal your reflections, and try to eliminate the stressors. Anyway, I wish you luck in your endeavors to deal with your anxiety issues. Take Care, L

Howlyncat
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   Posted 6/6/2010 2:59 PM (GMT -7)   
yes it does mk sense to me lol
i hv been basically a prisoner in own home shell of self as being deaf seems to irritate ppl around me then i get hyped
but i hv just had a blast at fair friday night actually almost all day up til 11 n i was beat but like said had a great time
last night i went to my fav nephews for the afternnon but they asked us to stay for supper
i felt no unease at not hearing they all would mk sure they looked at me when speaking ..except when lil bro n nephew being smartarses lmbo
it truly was good for me
i had so much fun we were there till really late too had nice supper outside n talked of family n things we did as kids or they did
this nephew has been with his childhood sweetie for 30 yrs
uggh im old
truly is great to see them gives you hope in the end of the day
i know ive slept like a babe on n off all dang day
but im now rambling lol
yes i do hv times where im totally freaked out then there are good days
yesterday i didnt even hv my meds with me
now thats a first.
im coming up ...
welcome to the forums
great input from others
lyn

stkitt
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   Posted 6/6/2010 3:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey ghost8,

Yes mine can appear completely out of the blue. In fact my whole anxiety problem started overnight! One day I was fine, the next I was a complete mess.

I sometimes go for days with very low anxiety but once the "what if's" kick in it takes great willpower to not let it rule my decisions and actions.

I had absolutely no idea about anxiety and what it can do to people before it happened to me. This meant that I was totally terrified of my symptoms, which of course made everything worse.

I have learned much about anxiety over the years. I have had years go by where I am fine and then something triggers my anxiety. My Doctors feel that I let it build up and have mini-meltdowns to let off steam until one day I am overwhelmed and the pot boils over.

Talking with others especially my therapist and here in this forum have been a huge help for me.

Also, picturing positive outcomes can significantly reduce apprehension, which can lead to increased levels of confidence and an overall elevation in mood. This works well for many people, so give it a try.
Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could.

I wish you peace and happiness,

Kitt

Howlyncat
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   Posted 6/7/2010 1:34 PM (GMT -7)   
That is great advice kitt..i hv taken some notes for self...ty
huggs
lyn

ghosst8
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   Posted 6/15/2010 11:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Kitt,lyn and Old Hippy
 
Sorry took so long to respond to your comments - I have to make sure
to put "notify by e-mail of reply". Thank you for your input and time. I
have been impressed by the helping nature of the members of this forum
- makes me want to do the same. At this time I have decided to not see a
therapist - I feel I can help myself and hopefully with my maturity I will be
able to move in a positive direction. The most important things are to trust
myself and not be too hard on myself when I feel unexplainable anxiety
- my gad- which just creates more anxiety. I feel my experiences have given
me a reference point on how to move ahead in my life - but I know there will
be my orientation to react in a way not condusive to mental well being. Who
knows why in the exact same situation ,even in the same enviroment one
can act differently?: An unrealized negative trigger? Lack of sleep, caffene,
childhood embarassments?  I'm going to be cognisent of my thoughts and
try to get a better handle on this - although not get too get caught up in
my wheels spinning. I will try meditation and I have always exercised which
is good. I do agree if I do ever want to see a therapist again - Im open to-
its not one size fits all. I know there was a better fit for me out there.
The only meds I take now is 1mg of xanax at night to sleep.
Will be in touch.

stkitt
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 6/15/2010 3:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for the update and glad to hear you have a handle on your anxiety.

I wish you all the best.

Kitt

Howlyncat
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Date Joined Jan 2005
Total Posts : 24909
   Posted 6/15/2010 4:38 PM (GMT -7)   
SO great to hear you are doing things and hv plans for self
keep posting n letting us know how you r doing
lyn
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