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Date Joined Jun 2010
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   Posted 6/4/2010 6:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello all!
I'm losing it!
Everything is going wrong. I don't know if my problem is caused by stress, my thyroid disorder, menopause, heart problems, or .... well, here's what's happening.
The symptoms are PVCs, up to 800 an hour, intermittent but all ... day ... long. Usuall when I least expect them.
At the same time, I'm having hot flashes, shortness of breath, dizziness, anxiety.
The doctors have told me they're not dangerous, but I just don't feel like I can go on like this! I can't function!

On top of this "minor" issue, I've found out I need back surgery to reconstruct my 5th lumbar vertebra, which is deteriorating due to moderate scoliosis. This has been causing ongoing back pain which has limited my activities to a great extent. (I feel useless.)
The Hashimotos thyroiditis was just diagnosed in January (now taking Synthroid), and the reason for the back pain was discovered yesterday.

To make things worse, I'm not working because I quite my job of 10 years to be a stay-at-home mom when my ex-spouse and I decided to reconcile ... something I've realized was a terrible mistake. Now I'm not working, my health is deteriorating, I'm facing major surgery with no support (all family lives out of town). I do have a wonderful 12 year old son, the delight of my life! I need to keep it together for him.

My parents both died within the past three years; I suffer from traumatic stress after the death of my first husband 26 years ago (yes, I know it sounds stupid, but ... it was horrible, and sudden, and I was left alone with our 1 year old to raise...what can I say. I've never recovered.)

Why do I feel so selfish? Just re-reading this makes me feel like a whiny weakling.

Anyway, I'm thinking there might also be an emotional factor here, outside of the medical reasons. I'm trying to figure out why I feel like I'm losing my mind along with everything else! Help!

Post Edited By Moderator (Howlyncat) : 6/4/2010 8:01:11 PM (GMT-6)

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Date Joined Jan 2005
Total Posts : 24909
   Posted 6/4/2010 9:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey there
deep breath in n out need to try n calm down some
kitt is more expert on heart n the pvcs then i am
as for other issues i can truly relate
lost both my parents in last couple of yrs n lost my first love in 79 ..
i still miss him so much always in my heart he is
i went thru severe trauma resulting in literally blowing a gasket n winding up on life support
i was in hospital for some time
but i hv come back so much because of here n my family helping me out
i am blessed
you hv so much going on its no wonder the pressure is there hun n you feel helpless but yr not n we will do our best to help you thru this too okay
i truly believe you r spot on about the emotional factor going on as i hv gone thru alot of the same but i hv lost my hearing as well n hubby n i are not together anymore either
my doc said i went thru too many losses at once or in short time n he is right

NO you are not whining you hv reason to feel the way you do imho
now we need to try n get you thru all of this
im so so sorry for all you hv gone thru but know i n others do get it n will be here for you
welcome to thee family

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Date Joined Jan 2010
Total Posts : 44
   Posted 6/4/2010 10:36 PM (GMT -6)   
First off welcome to the forums Bluejulie. You have obviously been through a lot and are continuing to go through even more. What I find helpful is to attempt to focus in on one thing that I myself can control in the moment, and allow myself the right to accept the things I cannot control, at least for that moment. The PVCs you can't necessarily control in one fell swoop, it'd take your doctors figuring out what's causing it, but as of now they said it's not dangerous. I realize how little satisfaction you must have taken from that, as I myself get them quite a bit, as well as a straightforward rapid heart rate that doesn't co-operate. It's never 'dangerous' as far as physical health is concerned in my doctors eyes, but it certainly has crippled me mentally and emotionally in the past 13 years or so.

I wish you peace of mind and continued success in your journey with your ailments.

I know you'll find these forums to be a positive resource while you move on to greener pastures in your life.

Once again, welcome to our small little community.

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 6/5/2010 7:41 AM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to HealingWell. I have found the support, validation and encouragement that I receive here, to be so helpful and healing. I hope and trust that will be your experience as a member of the HW family.

I am so sorry to hear you have so much going on and please know this forum is here to support you and help you through your many problems.

To address you PVC's first, I am not sure how you know your are having 800 PVCs per hour. If you feel flip-flops, a sensation of skipped heartbeats or odd feelings in your chest, contact your doctor. You'll want to identify the source of these symptoms. Premature ventricular contractions may be the problem, but other conditions also may be to blame, including other rhythm problems, serious heart problems, anxiety, anemia or infections.

Have you ever had an EKG or a Holter monitor to verify these PVCs? If not I would feel this may be something you would want to request of your Dr.

Your PVCs can be dealt with immediately if you see a Dr. Beta blockers — which are often used to treat high blood pressure and heart disease — can suppress premature contractions. Other medications, such as calcium channel blockers, or anti-arrhythmic drugs, such as amiodarone, also may be used if you have ventricular tachycardia or very frequent premature ventricular contractions that impair your heart's function, causing severe symptoms.

I understand your grief at losing your parents as I lost my brother and 2 sisters within a 17 month time frame ( 2 in the same month). Please know it is OK to grieve in your own way, there is no time limit on how long you should grieve.

I believe you have a right to feel anxious at this tough time in your life but may I suggest you consider seeing a therapist to help you deal with all that is going on in your life. I have a great therapist and I have had A & P for 28 years. Remember you have anxiety, anxiety does not have you.


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