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melodee
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   Posted 6/15/2010 6:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi!
Sorry for posting about work stress again. It's always the same topic, so I apologize in advance. smhair
I am so sick of getting sick before a big event or presentation. I just wish I could stop worrying about everything. Geez... rolleyes *rollying eyes to myself*
 
Today and tomorrow I have a presentation again. Geez.. rolleyes *rollying eyes to presentation* lol
I could not sleep at all last night...I was in bed....and checking the clock like once every hour. redface
I also have a little fever.  I can't seem to relax at all! cry   Yes, it's stress and anticipatory anxiety. Aghhhhhhhh! mad
I just need some reassurance....maybe some postive vibes and input? Would appreciate anything positive!!
 
Thank you!

The thing always happens that you really believe in, and the belief in a thing makes it happen.
~ Frank Lloyd Wright ~


stkitt
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   Posted 6/15/2010 6:54 AM (GMT -7)   
melodee

First of all I admire you tremendously for getting up in front of a audience and speaking............you are a winner before you even start. (((((((((Hugs)))))))).

A great fear that many people have is speaking before a group or audience. The primary reason is that they are afraid of looking foolish in front of other people. The way to overcome this fear is through preparation and a positive attitude toward the audience.

Even the most seasoned performers usually experience a bit of nervous excitement before a performance -- in fact, most believe that a little anxiety actually makes you a better speaker. Learn to accept that you will always be a little anxious about giving a speech, but that it is normal and common to feel this way.

I guess the answer for you, melodee, is to TRUST yourself and always prepare for whatever happens...that is the key.

I know you will do fine and I am sending you lots of good luck vibes.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt

Howlyncat
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   Posted 6/15/2010 7:28 AM (GMT -7)   
kitt is spot on with her input as usual
i also give you alot of vredit for being able to get up n do this
you make it work for all of us
you will do great
huggs
lyn

melodee
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   Posted 6/15/2010 9:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you soooooo much Kitt and Lyn for the encouragement and input!!
"Even the most seasoned performers usually experience a bit of nervous excitement before a performance"
"most believe that a little anxiety actually makes you a better speaker"
That is so true!! We do need a little anxiety to be better at things. Thank you so much for the positive input. It was just what I needed! =)

Big hugs to both!

Melodee :)

The thing always happens that you really believe in, and the belief in a thing makes it happen.
~ Frank Lloyd Wright ~


stkitt
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   Posted 6/15/2010 10:26 AM (GMT -7)   
We've got your back, melodee. So know you are always with family here.

Hugs galore,

Kitt

melodee
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   Posted 6/17/2010 11:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks so much Kitt. :-)
 
Here's an update. I did ok...but I was completely exhausted afterwards. As usual I could not sleep AT ALL the night before. rolleyes rolleyes rolleyes *rollying eyes to myself again* I did take an extra benzo...which did not help. rolleyes   I was very disappointed with myself.  I just can't seem to handle this kind of stress very well. It's the same thing over and over...I spend lots of time preparing for the presentation...almost a week. redface   Then, the night before, my anxiety skyrockets and I am unable to sleep.  On the day of the presentation/event, I feel nervous, have low energy, increased fatigue & anxiety, and very low attention span. cry  
Any tips on how to control anticipatory anxiety and fear of the unknown? 

The thing always happens that you really believe in, and the belief in a thing makes it happen.
~ Frank Lloyd Wright ~


alex martin
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   Posted 6/17/2010 11:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I heard that now a days psychologist give consultation to executives
about how to reduce the stress. there are many medicine which is used
for this type of problem which you are facing.


...Alex
 
Edit: Please remove your link in your profile.  Only links to personal home pages are allowed in signatures and member profiles. Your link is to a site that sells product.

Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 6/18/2010 7:43:44 AM (GMT-6)


stkitt
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   Posted 6/18/2010 7:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning melodee,

I've experienced anticipatory anxiety so many times over the years and it's caused me way too much stress, unease, frustration, and melancholy. And as with most everything with which we deal, there's no "miracle-cure." However, if you truly want to kiss it good-bye there are strategies that can help you pull it off.

It’s only natural to want to avoid the things that make you anxious. But the only way to get over anticipatory anxiety is to go toward what’s making you fearful rather than backing away.
Picturing positive outcomes can significantly reduce apprehension, which can lead to increased levels of confidence and an overall elevation in mood.

When you find yourself wondering, "What if..." Stop! Take a deep breath; breathe in through the nose, hold the air in your lungs for a count of four, then slowly let the air out through the mouth. While you are doing this, consider the possibility that you are being unrealistic and irrational. Focus on positive or neutral outcomes.

I hope this helps you in some small way and I am here for you.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt
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