So worried and sad

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janetlee
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   Posted 7/19/2010 1:52 PM (GMT -7)   
I know I've written on this topic before, but I started a new one because I felt it best. Anyway, I am worried sick about my mom. I love her more than my own life and am afraid that something is really wrong with her. She seems fine overall, except that she's got asthma that seems chronic (she doesn't ever lose her breath so far) and so she's always easily winded and always has some congestion. And also she's lost more weight. Of course, she doesn't eat as much any more. She eats enough, but is in love with popcorn cakes (like rice cakes). She doesn't feel sick to her stomach or anything and doesn't have bowel problems...maybe I'm just really paranoid? but between the weight loss and her breathing, I worry myself to death. No need for me to beg her to go to doctor, because she won't. She really really won't!!!!! Believe me, if I could make her do so, she'd be there! Pronto! But everything I say she just "pooh-poohs" off and she isn't worried about the weight loss. She's glad.
I guess I'm either needing some reassurance here or if not that, a place to cry out. I am trying very hard to not let my imagination run away with me. I say to myself to not worry unless I actually know there's something to worry about.
My sister worries too, but isn't around mom much. I live with mom 24/7. I always have and when I was in therapy, I was told that we have a symbiotic relationship...Daddy used to call us the "siamese twins" when he was alive. You know, if conjoined twins aren't separated, when one dies, they both die. I don't know if I could live w/o her and don't know if I'd even want to.
janet
 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 7/19/2010 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   
It is hard when mom wont go to the dr
mine didnt like it either
i never thought i could carry on w/o mom but i hv and i wont lie n say its not been hard as it has been
losing mom then dad was way too much for me to handle

it sounds like yr mom has some issues with breathing but is ok otherwise
i would not worry hu to tell you the truth
just take each day with her n enjoy it to the fullest
you are a great daughter n yr mom knows this...
tk care you
lyn
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stkitt
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   Posted 7/19/2010 3:18 PM (GMT -7)   
jl,

I know how hard it is not to worry but I think Lyn hit it right on. Enjoy each and every day with your Mom and know that she has made her own choices re health care.

When you feel the need, talk to her about how worried you are and how much you love her. Perhaps she will make some concession re her health problems but know you are doing all you can ~ you are a good and caring daughter.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt

janetlee
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   Posted 7/19/2010 6:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you both for your loving kindness!
jl
 


stkitt
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   Posted 7/21/2010 2:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Good Afternoon jl,

How are you doing with your Mom? Did she agree to see the Doctor yet ?

Do let us know what is happening as you know we are here to support you.

Gentle Hugs to you,

Kitt

janetlee
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   Posted 7/22/2010 12:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Kitt,
I do not try to talk her into going any more...she won't go and believe me, I've tried and tried to get her to. She had finally agreed to go, but with the stipulation that she would refuse to have any medical tests done. So what was the point?
We are basically broke, but I would use a credit card to get her to the doctor. She won't though.
So it goes.
I'm going to buy her some herbal treatment for her lungs. It is sold on Swansons vitamins store online and it has a 5 star rating from consumers. The majority saying it has helped their breathing. I know it is legit because I've submitted my own ratings for inclusion. Anyway, at least I'll feel like I'm doing something!
Thanks so much for caring...it means so much!
janet
 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 7/22/2010 1:13 AM (GMT -7)   
JL
i think you aare goimg above n beyond as a daughter n i aplaud you for that
please make sure that this herbal remedy is really okay for her
i know you did a questioairre but still some HR are not for all
i wish you all the best
hugs
lyn
                 Co Mod for... CROHNS..ANXIETY/ PANIC.....ALZHEIMERS
        DX.. a/p ....crohns ...fibro... pyoderma gangrenosum..seizures....deaf
            meds..lyrica..pentasa...valproic acid..ativan...diazepam....t 3 s prn
                  Help HEALING WELL...DONATE...www.HealingWell.com
                        WE CAN N WILL GET THRU THIS TOGETHER
                                                   LYN                       

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