feeling sick.. just feel horrible

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   Posted 8/12/2010 4:46 AM (GMT -6)   
no one need reply just feel like taking stuff out.. since i dont think theres anyone in my life who truly cares about me and my issues.. all my life ive loved to listen to others, help when i can, but when ppl dont even care to listen when i need to talk.. well thats just darn right rude and im a human being too with feelings and emotions that i need to get out and express to.. just coz i may have gone through different things or stuff most wouldnt understand i still have a right to be heard, im sick of being the listener all the time. just felt so sick today feel like im gonna work myself into a fever soon.. i dunno, why do ppl have to be so  difficult these days.. maybe its where i live, maybe i just dont belong here, the place just seems to be filled with alot of selfish fake ppl. nobody wants to reach out anymore, lets all just hide behind computers, (dont get me wrong it can help a great deal at times)..im just saying ppl need contact and love and caring.. and talking and listening, where has that gone to these days? (i think i was born in the wrong generation) forget counsellers/pysc what we need is real friendships, and just real unconditional love for each other as strangers and human beings.. ppl would be so much better off. so is this it? is this life? im sick of stalling in life i just want to get through to that other side.. which at least i have been going in that direction for a little while.. i was almost there "yet again" (ok i got distracted now ive lost the flow of what i was saying) but i think everyone pretty much gets it. Just someone to listen.. who isnt selfish.. real caring ppl, im just so over living this way.. in this place, i hate living here.. i really do. Peace everyone. perhaps ill post my actual lastest issue.. that might help take the edge of too. thanks anyone who actually read this whole thing.

Post Edited (oldsoul84) : 8/12/2010 5:44:20 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 8/12/2010 8:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Examine your ability to set limits on others. Examine your boundaries. Where are they? What is acceptable behavior for you and what is unacceptable?  Learn how to identify and label unacceptable treatment from others and how to set limits on their behavior when they violate your boundaries.
It feels to me like you need to let people know when you are not available to listen to all their problems.
These people are draining you emotionally and you are feeling angry as you are not receiving anything back in the relationship. It's noble to want to help others, but it's something you should do because you want to, not because you feel you have to.
Learn to say no and don't get caught up in feeling guilty for saying no to these people.  Look for others in your life who will be good for you.
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   Posted 8/12/2010 12:19 PM (GMT -6)   
I know how you feel oldsoul. I'm sorry everything has built up and you are feeling so depressed. I could have written your same post at times in my life. stkitt has good advice but I don't follow it even though I know it would be the best thing for me. I am what I am and I can't be the way other people are because I think it's wrong. (Not saying stkitt is saying to retaliate to this offensive people)
I get over these feelings in time and I hope you will too. Meanwhile- know that we will listen & care.

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   Posted 8/13/2010 12:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you, when i was going through some of my lastest issues i should have really posted on here or something but i had totally forgot about that and thought it was best for me to stay away from forums as ive sometimes had bad experiances when it comes to internet and reading stuff.. but im learning now what i can go into and what i should ignore.. it would have helped me at the time if i was able to get a few things out though. Ill remember for next time that u guys are always here.. thank u :)
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