Wow! I tend to think he is over medicated and the mixture is being counter productive. I would take his medications to the doctor and go over every single one with him/her, describe his symptoms and try to determine if some his problems can be related to poly-drugging. Three benzo's...I just don't get that at all. The only thing that helped me with Health Anxiety was therapy and the reassurance of my family....and believe, I am sure I drove them crazy describing every ache and pain as though I was drawing my last breath. I hope you can get the help he needs.
I'm not a doctor (and maybe your husband's doctor has reasons for not prescribing them), but it seems to me your husband would do well on an SSRI type medication, such as Prozaz, Paxil, Zoloft, etc. It sounds like your husband has a problemn with obsessive thoughts, and those medications can work well for that. It may take 2 to 3 months to get the full benefits (so don't give up too soon), but they can really reduce the anxiety that the thoughts can cause.
Nothing works 100 percent, but they can help you to live a life without constant ruminations about things that don't matter. It's something for you to consider (if you haven't already) with your doctor.
God bless .
Support groups are a place for people to give and receive both emotional and practical support as well as to exchange information. People with health conditions, as well as their friends and families find support groups to be a valuable resource and get confirmation that their feelings are "normal", educate others, or just let off steam. This is what HealingWell is all about.
As a spouse recognize that when your husband says there is "nothing you can do to help" it probably means it is a time when he needs you the most.
The most important thing I ask my husband is to understand that my anxiety and depression is not my fault. I didn't ask for this and cannot just will it away but I need him to just be there for me when the road is tough.
Blessings to you,