Need help!! I am BLUSHING!!

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Ann Park
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   Posted 9/4/2010 10:27 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm new here and I desperately need all your help. I have suffered too much from my blushing problems since I was 13. To make the story short, I am a loner and I can't stand to be like this forever!!! I want to do and try anything just to stop my blushing problems. Or should I say, I have tried everything for my blushing problem! But I have heard about Blushing Breakthough by Jim Baker, has anyone heard about it or tried it? or any suggestions? Please help! Thanks!!! :(:(:(

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   Posted 9/4/2010 12:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Ann and a warm welcome to HealingWell.
Blushing from embarrassment is governed by the same system that activates your fight-or-flight response: the sympathetic nervous system. It occurs most often after a high level of anxiety, for example it may occur in a person during a presentation, meeting or social situation where they are anxious of being judged, criticised and evaluated by other people.
I have a mild form of this and it is usually caused in a social situation from the samples  noted above. 
One trick is, when you feel the blushing  coming on, to deliberately drop your shoulders, relax your body, and push your stomach out. This takes a bit of doing at first, so you might want to practice. 
Part of the embarrassment about blushing is caused by the thought that others will see you as weak or silly. However, everyone has had the experience of being embarrassed, and it's not nice for anyone. Any decent person will be sympathetic about it. Anyone who thinks less of you for it is most probably not worth knowing anyway!
Not only do I blush but my brain goes into stupid mode as I feel  so embarrassed but over the years it happens less and less.  I also turn beet red when I feel upset and angry.  shocked
Keep telling yourself you are a really awesome person and people are lucky to be called your friend.
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   Posted 9/4/2010 12:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi and welcome! I used to have this problem too. Not only would I blush, but when I was nervous my whole chest would become blotchy and flushed. I would have to wear a high necked sweater or blouse if I knew I would be in a potentially nerve wracking situation. I naturally grew out of this as I aged and became more self confident, but your post reminded me of how uncomfortable it was:( Maybe diffusing the situation with some humor could help. People probably don't even notice the blushing but if they do make a comment try replying "Why yes I am blushing, I do it on purpose-pink is my best color!" You may not be able to change what your body does naturally, but you can change your reaction to it;)
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   Posted 9/4/2010 1:41 PM (GMT -6)   
What's wrong with a woman blushing? I think it's cute smilewinkgrin .

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   Posted 9/4/2010 4:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Well said Scaredy Cat. I like the idea of using humor. If you jokingly "make fun of yourself" it often comes across as confidence.

Then again people often feel a closer connection to others who are "real". We all get embarrassed. We all have felt silly at some time. I'm a "recovering perfectionist" and didn't want people to know if I was scared, worried, embarrassed, did something wrong or just plain stupid. It pushed people away. But when I began to accept my "faults" (and blushing is not a fault), people felt closer to me.

I once read about a study where a person gave the same presentation to two groups of people. Everything was exactly the same except that in one instance the presenter spilled coffee on himself "accidentally" at the beginning. The group that witnessed this rated the presenter much more positively and as being more likable, down to earth, and easier to relate to. Try not to let it bother you too much. You might even think of it as an asset. And who knows... that change in attitude might even reduce its occurrence.

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   Posted 9/8/2010 1:35 AM (GMT -6)   
I get "blushing" all over my chest and cheeks and my ears will turn beat red. Typically it occurs when I'm extremely irritated or angry. The only way I calm my blushing is to take some deep breaths and find somewhere cooler (outside if it's a bit cooler or find a freezer to stick my head in LOL) to sit for a few minutes.

I usually feel the heat in my ears but not in my chest. It's annoying. People will ask me if I have a rash or something and I say I'm just angry. haha

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Ann Park
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   Posted 9/12/2010 12:28 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks a lot everyone for all your advices! I have tried some of it but nothing happens and I just quit. Have you heard or read about our lifestyle might affect your anxieties or blushing problems? Can you give me some details about it? It's really not cute esp if it's excessively overpowering your everyday life. I cannot socialize with people because of it so it really bothers me a lot. Maybe I am just conscious or worried about how they might react with it or what they might say about me. Humor? That's a good idea but I guess I am not that confident to that. BTW, I have now a copy Blushing Breakthough ebook and try to find out what's inside it that might help me with my unfortunate blushing problems. But I will still try some tips you have shared here. I will keep it in mind.
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