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callalilly
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   Posted 11/17/2010 1:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone-
  my husband and I got married in August, and on our honeymoon he ended up having a severe panic attack, which he has never had before.
After we got out of the hospital with a clean bill of health, he felt weak and had shaky legs and couldn't do much walking for the remainder of the trip. His appetite also suffered.
When we got back home, I brought him to a doctor, who diagnosed him with an anxiety disorder and put him on medication. The meds ended up making him feel pretty sick, so we stopped them and brought him to another internal medicine doctor who ran a barrage of tests on him- xrays of the chest, blood tests, even a take home heart monitor-and she found nothing.
He has always been in impeccable physical shape-always exercising, eating right, never smoked, etc..and he can only describe the feeling as he's feeling weak, doesn't feel like himself, his legs get shaky and his heart races a bit and his head feels funny. He always worries he's going to fall down, which he hasn't. The second doctor referred him to a therapist who he hasn't gone to see yet, but i'm working on it.
He and I have discussed his feelings a lot over the last few months, he's been in school and working full time, so he has now taken a leave of absence from work and has more time to concentrate on school, which we were hoping would alleviate some of the stress, but he still feels "funny" from time to time and it freaks him out because he's never felt these feelings of sickness before and I think it's actually making the anxiety worse.
I was hoping someone had some advice for us as I really want him to be able to feel better. I know he doesn't want to be medicated, and perhaps is why he hasn't seen the therapist- he always says it helps when he talks to me but I keep telling him i'm not a doctor, I can only help so much. I will continue to support him any way I can, but i'm becoming concerned that maybe this isn't anxiety? I have an anxiety disorder and i've learned to manage it on my own, and I know different people have different symptoms... I'm just feeling helpless and I hope someone has some advice for us- it would be greatly appreciated.

cln777
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   Posted 11/17/2010 2:06 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi callalily I have read that anxiety appears in many different symptoms so it may be anxiety, the fact that several drs already cleared him of anything else and also that he's working and going to school full time.  I would like to share my story with you as I was going through the same thing school and work full time and my anxiety manifest itself in so many different ways; I didn't want to take medication because of the side effects and fear that I was going to fail in my classes, so i started with my therapist and it helped so much but in the end I decided to also try the meds and it's been a great combination.  My advice to you is to talk to your husband and let him know that a therapist will help him without medication unless he/she finds it necessary and if that's the case to try them as it will only help him get better. Now, what helped me also was to cut some hours from work and it has helped me as well. Good luck!

callalilly
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   Posted 11/17/2010 2:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks so much :)
I will for sure share this with him.
I think they thing that freaked him out the most is that he had never felt anxious in the past, this only started after the panic attack on our honeymoon. I know weddings can be stressful, and working and going to school is super stressful too. Did you always have axiety or was there some sort of catalyst that set it off (if you don't mind me asking)?
Again, thank you for the advice, I will be sure to pass it on :)

cln777
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   Posted 11/17/2010 3:08 PM (GMT -6)   
No i don't mind at all, what triggered my anxiety was attending school in the summer and having a full schedule with no breaks. In other words work overload

Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 11/17/2010 3:54 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi and welcome! Your husband is lucky to have a wife as concerned and caring as you are! I am sorry that he is suffering so much right now. My anxiety came out of left field, and left me feeling baffled as well. It started during a period of high stress, with a lot of conflict between my oldest daughter and my husband (her step-father) I didn't even know how much stress I was under until the first panic attack happened. Your husband sounds like he is having some major physical symptoms. They can vary from person to person. I have read of people who become completely immobilized, can't speak, ect. I have personally had the shaky legs and loss of appetite. the good news is that there is help available! Urge him to go to the therapist! He/she is not going to force him to use medication. (a therapist can't even prescribe anyway) I went through two courses of CBT, with two different therapists, and neither one of them ever brought it up. I am not saying that this will be your husband's experience, but rather that he only has to do what he is comfortable with. I had a great recovery without medication, but many people prefer to use it at least temporarily to get a handle on the anxiety and panic. If he chooses not to try meds, therapy will help him for sure, it may just take longer, and he will realy have to put in a lot of effort in his program. I hope that with your loving encouragement, and with what you have received here, you can help him make this crucial step!
Good luck to both of you,
Scaredy Cat
"Courage is not the abscence of fear, it is feeling afraid and doing it anyway!"

stkitt
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   Posted 11/17/2010 6:07 PM (GMT -6)   
 
Welcome to HealingWell. I have had anxiety for way to long but have learned how to live with it.  I am sorry to read your husband is having problems.
You may want to check out this link from our resources:
 

Anxiety Symptoms, Anxiety Attack Symptoms (Panic Attack Symptoms), Symptoms of Anxiety:

http://www.anxietycentre.com/anxiety-symptoms.shtml

I was going to mention, if your husband is seeing a Psychologist,  they do not prescribe medications at least not where I live.  They deal strictly in therapy.  I have a therapist and she is great.  She helps me understand why I feel the way I do.
 
I hope your husband will take a chance with a therapist.
 
Blessings,
 
Kitt

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