does anyone suffer from agoraphobia?

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angela52884
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   Posted 9/19/2006 11:01 AM (GMT -6)   
I dont know much about agoraphobia, but I pretty much just think Im weird or something! Sometimes I am afraid to go to the store or be out driving alone, I have this weird fear of passing out, weird because I never have, I think it has something to do with derealization or something, I dont know. Its like my eyes feel heavy, I have really bad sensitivity to light, I also have really bad allergies and sinus issues too though. But I was with my family at this swap meet and it was really crowded, and I just had this passing out feeling, and I just felt like I had to get out of there or something! I dont know what is wrong with me! It always passes eventually though.....also I have had it happen if I am waiting in line or something, Last week I tried 2times to pick up my prescription and couldnt because there was a line, I just dont understand what makes me feel like that! Sometimes when at the store, I just feel like I have to run out and I cant get what I need, I do go to the store and stuff alone still, but I cant stand having that feeling! Does anyone else have anything like this and do you think it is anxiety related????

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   Posted 9/19/2006 11:12 AM (GMT -6)   
We have several people on the forum who have this issue I am sure they will be by shortly to post ti you.
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cybervato
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   Posted 9/19/2006 11:18 AM (GMT -6)   
I had it terribly. It waxes and wanes in its its less severe forms. I 100% believe that its "nature and nurture" in other words you have a genetic predisposition to anxiety and toxic events in your life past or present has triggered your anxiety. Because it sucks so much you start avoiding situations that you have anxiety in. I had a fear of having panic attacks and ended up being housebound for a month and a half before I decided to go talk to a psychiatrist about it. He gave me some meds (luvox) and start some transactional analysis type therapy and some informal cbt type stuff. It has really helped! you have to take it seriously! wwhen first diagnosed 10 years ago I kinda blew it off and muddled through it and it actually eased up a bit but not totally. After my nuclear meltdown in march I decided I was gonna be serious about it. Since then I went from being housebound back to being able to go on pretty long trips again in about 5 months.
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Laurana75
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   Posted 9/19/2006 11:42 AM (GMT -6)   
I have this problem too. It has reared it's ugly head several times throughout my life. I believe it began during my first trip overseas with my ex-husband, where we lived in Germany for 3 years. It was very, VERY isolating for me, because we did not live on base (not enough housing) and lived in an all-German town half an hour from the closest Americans. This would have been excellent for immersion, except that the folks there were NOT particularly friendly, and although almost everyone COULD speak English, few WOULD speak it to me. Even after teaching myself conversational German I had little luck making any friends or meeting people. I don't regret such an experience, it was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for me. But.. I became SO withdrawn and isolated, lonely, homesick, missing my friends and family whom I couldn't even call because it was SO expensive, and a trip to visit was over 1500.00. Basically, I withdrew into my own mind, hobbies, and sadly- anxieties. My OCD flared up, I dealt with bouts of depression. From there it was to one duty station or another, where again I knew no one and was far away from friends/family. On those occasions where I DID make an effort and force myself out into new and unfamiliar cities he friends I did manage to make would last only that short while until the Army moved us yet again. You stay in touch by phone and mail for a while, but this was before email days, and it was hard to keep track of other military couples who also moved all the time.

Later, my agoraphobia went completely OFF the scale. There were A LOT of factors contributing to this, so I don't want to alarm anyone or give the impression that it gets that way for all of us. In my case, I went through a horrible, painful divorce in which my ex truly raped me financially out of bitterness. I lost my job (no kidding! international outsourcing ouch) 2 months into the divorce, found another job, only to get laid off for the SAME reason again within 2 yrs time! After that, I lost my house to foreclosure (which I had known would happen, thats why I tried to convince my ex to sell it with me or take it himself, he refused to do either) then had to declare bankruptcy because the amount of the marital debt put on me by the divorce judge was waaaay out of proportion now that I no longer had my good job. In fact, I had NO job for 2 months! Following the foreclosure, I had to move to Florida to be near some family members to get back on my feet. This was another mistake, because we didn't get along at all. It was also more culture shock and isolation, a language barrier added to it (all over again, dejavu from hades for me! lol) and so I spiralled into the darkest depression yet of my entire life. At my worst, I was stuck in a tiny bathroom nearly 24 hours a day, for months at a time. I never left the house even into the back yard, because it was a chainlink fence and I didn't feel comfortable that the neighbors could see through it! I wouldn't even walk to my mailbox. I refused to go to the doctor, and even if I had, we had no money, and no medical insurance to pay for it. It was a HORRIBLE time, and I am SO glad I was finally able to get help and start recovering.

I am still house-bound about 95% of the time, but I am working on it! With the help of my therapist and psychiatrist, as well as anti-depression and anti-anxiety meds I have made some good progress in making new friends and reaching out. She even considers THIS group to be a great outlet and a form of social progress :) which is great. I'm looking into a form of medical transcription training I can do from home, that is certified through a legitimate local college (FIU) and although it's going to take a while for me to afford to pay the tuition, it's a goal and I am so excited to get back to being more productive and confident. You are not alone here, there are several of us with agor who can relate :) For myself, I have a "safe person" who is my fiance. I have a "safe zone" which is my apartment, the balcony, and the stairs at the front door. I still haven't returned to driving our car (years ago, this would have been unthinkable for me. I adored driving and drove across the US regularly for business and visiting relatives) but I'm doing more each month. Happy to meet you! I currently take 300mg Welbutrin XL once daily, Xanax (.25) as needed for anxiety/panic attacks during the day, and because Lunesta did not help me sleep (I have insomnia) she switched me to taking two Xanax at bedtime which is the only way I can sleep at all right now. I have tried other meds in the past, Pexeva is one of them, but with no luck. Zoloft worked for years, but eventually stopped being effective for me sadly. Sorry in advance for the length- perhaps if we all could post our intros in a sticky intro thread, it would make this a bit easier for newcomers hehe :)
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Post Edited (Laurana75) : 9/19/2006 10:46:18 AM (GMT-6)


jmroszczak
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   Posted 9/19/2006 12:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Just wanted to add that I too have agoraphobia. I always had fears ever since i was a little kid..about having to be be social an what not with peer's..but it was just shyness really..not so severe...But then I also remember having a fear of getting older..As in having to go into the next grade of school..fearing the work would be too hard and i would not be able to do it..cry my self to sleep many nights..and that fear i believe has really never left me. When I was a kid it was going into the next grade..when i was a teen it was going on dates with girls..socializizing with my friends..going to apply for my first job..getting a drivers license..ect..and really all through H.S all i never really did anything but just goto school. I just have always been afraid..but Really the sadder part is that i Knew i would never do any of those things. Even when i was 13 i knew that i would never get a license or a first job..or particpate in anything school related..or even goto graduation!!! ..yes that is right i graduated H.S but yet i was too afraid to goto graduation confused but yeah so then after H.S(which was 03) i was just expected to do all the thing's that people who arent me take for granted and i was just completely lost. And i just started staying in my home. Never leaving it. Never wanting to talk to people or be seen. By the way i do get anxiety attacks and that makes me not want to be social... and now 3 years later i am 22 and still have never left my house but maybe a handful of times in the last 3 years(only to just get in the car with my family to go for a drive, staying in the car while they went in the store) and each time just getting so sick..feeling like i was gunna puke, light headed..and just very uncomfortable. I know i need medical help but i am just too scared to goto the doctor. and the worst part is i have wasted all this time and now my insurrance is running out soon that my mom has had on me ever since i was a child..and even when i do goto the doctor i have not a clue how i would pay for it..or the perscriptions or whatever. I could so go on an on but i would make a book and i just wanted to get the point that youre deffiantely not alone..and to anyone who reads this there is alwaty someone like you or worst, and this applys to me also. But I DO KNOW THAT ONEDAY IT WILL GET BETTER. IVE BEEN LIKE THIS FOR A WHILE NOW..AND I HAVE HOPE!!!

Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/19/2006 1:16 PM (GMT -6)   
I too went thru this for a short period of time about 2 and a hlf months and it is a horrid way to live ....I am very sociable and was always volunteering at caits school the Church Legion everywhere than Wham I literally could not open door and go out ..
Finally I decided to start kicking my own butt and making self go places short distance at first just on doorstep and then to store and mail and further and further.....Thanks to my stubborness and getting myself back into life with my daughter I got there but with Baby steps ..Couselling and meds can help you with htis as well s CBT.........God Luck n I wish you all the best... tongue


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Post Edited (Lyn (Howlyncat)) : 9/22/2006 4:42:03 AM (GMT-6)


harry4
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   Posted 9/19/2006 4:03 PM (GMT -6)   

agoraphobia is a general term that means panic attacks with lots of phobias, that is excess fears that make ordinary life difficult, it includes social anxiety disorder

the term panic disorder originally meant panic attacks but with no phobias, but now seems to be replacing agoraphobia

some dont like being labeled with a diagnosis with the word panic, this suggests weakness or stupidity to them

in this case the old favourite of 'anxiety due to a biochemical imballance' is kinder and not taken as an insult


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Laurana75
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   Posted 9/19/2006 4:30 PM (GMT -6)   
One of my biggest pet peeves is when I am labeled incorrectly. Labels alone are not a pleasant thing anyway- but when someone applies something that isn't even correct, I get downright fiesty ;) An example would be, when my MIL incorrectly said, after being told I had agoraphobia "Your afraid of being outside, in open spaces?!" as if I just sprouted a third arm or something. I tried.. to patiently explain that the definition is not nearly so clear cut, nor does that definition alone encompass all agoraphobics. I consider my agoraphobia to be my GAD/OCD out of control. When I am feeling balanced (due to meds) and improving (due to therapy) it tends to naturally improve. In fact, when I am outside of the house, I LOVE open spaces :) I am from the country in Kansas, farms and two-lane roads, some without asphalt even :D One stoplight in the whole town I grew up in. It is the packed, overpopulated, noisy, polluted large city that makes me crazy. My anxiety just goes off the charts, in heavy, dangerous traffic (i.e. "aggressive drivers"- miami is full of them) It is also not necessarily "people" or social situations that bother me in the slightest. On the contrary, I have always been a people person, who thrives in a group and I've never had trouble relating to others or enjoying their company. Granted, I tend to avoid crowded places- such as concerts or packed theatres etc- but I've always been that way and I know many ppl who are the same. So her assumptions about my being "anti-social" (she said this on another occasion) her statement that I was "afraid of being outside" which imo was a rude and demeaning way of saying it, and her assumption that "wide open spaces" bothered me (when the opposite is true). I think society has a LOT of misconceptions about agoraphobia, and I think those of us who suffer from it can make a big difference by speaking out. None of us ever imagines we will end up in a wheel chair either for example, yet people do everyday unfortunately. So too, does agoraphobia just "sneak up" on some of us, who thought that otherwise we were doing "ok" with our anxiety and doing our best.

I think we can make good progress just getting the word out to others and trying to help them better understand our problem. =) If people DID understand how incredibly lonely, isolating and demoralizing it can be to be a loving, open-minded, and warm hearted human being who genuinely loves and cares about other people- yet here we sit confined in our own homes or in one tiny room, due to a chemical imbalance, or anxiety out of control, or what have you- I don't think it would be so easy for them to place those labels on us. I also think they would have much more compassion.
GAD w/Agorapobia * Depressive Personality Disorder * OCD
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Post Edited (Laurana75) : 9/19/2006 3:33:38 PM (GMT-6)


Shortstop
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   Posted 9/19/2006 10:23 PM (GMT -6)   
I had this back in the 80's when my panic attacks started...I get lighter episodes of it every now and then....I still don't do large crowds at all, but I can tolerate a few people gathered together as long as I stay close to the door....

I have always wondered what in the world causes this....One day your fine and then the very next day you can't leave the house......It just doesn't make any sense....

I saw my counselor today and I find myself these days feeling like something is blocking me from getting over this hurdle in my life...The doctor has alreay written me off as "chronic" and gave me a poor prognosis...I just can't accept that.... Yes I have hope with you this can't be forever.....
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BadGutGirl
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   Posted 9/21/2006 9:22 PM (GMT -6)   

I'm so glad I stumbled across this thread. 

For the last ten years I have battled with periods in my life where i was reluctant to leave my home, and would get major anxiety - especially when shopping or in traffic (or the thought of it!!).  However, I have ulcerative colitis, and always just associated it to this because my "anxiety" usually comes out in the form of my stomach getting really upset to the point where I poop myself in public.  Which only feeds the fear!!!

Anyhow, this morning I went to see a new doctor and was late to the appointment because it took me about 20 mins to leave the house.  I explained this to her and she asked more questions about it.  Then she asked how long its been going on, how frequently, etc.  THEN! She asked if anyone has ever talked to me about agoraphobia.  No one has, not even the psychiatrist I saw last year. 

So I've done some research and it seems like I am a textbook case in terms of the situations that make my anxiety spike.  However, my question is, does anyone else get an upset stomach when they are having an anxiety/panic attack?

thanks

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jades75
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   Posted 9/22/2006 1:37 AM (GMT -6)   
BadGutGirl, I do get an upset stomach, nausea; Knowing that I'm having an anxiety/panic attack and very upset stomach- my fear is that Xanax would not work, because I feel like vomiting. What works for me - sips of cold water, and 0.5 Xanax. If I don't take Xanax, my anxiety lasts for hours.

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   Posted 9/22/2006 5:44 AM (GMT -6)   
BGG.........I too get nauseous and my crohns also acts up big time when in anxiety /Panic mode .........I take ativan or diazapam for A/P when needed .........
Take care and come back again
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spicegirl479
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   Posted 10/7/2006 6:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Yep i became agorophobic due to panic disorder , but i have got to the stage where im not willing to scarifice my life just becuse i panic , the only way u overcome it is to confront it full on, not avoid it, not walk around it, the only way is head on and once you do this your fear will fade please dont give it the respect becuse it simply doesnt deserve it.good luck be strong and be brave you can overcome this, i have.

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   Posted 10/7/2006 8:26 AM (GMT -6)   
I have agoraphobia, have had it close to 23 years, along with serve panic attacks, I was completely housebound for close to a year I could even go on the front porch to get the mail and never opened a shade to let the sun in spent most of those months in my bedroom, I still have it I would say moderate agoraphobia now, I do go out but not with out talking myself into it and taking forever to get out the door making sure I took my Xanax before I leave that I have my paper bag my water my nose spray even then half the time I get bad attacks out of the house but I get them in the house to lol cant win. this is strange but the only time I am almost panic free is when we travel In a safe car of course with a safe person, but I can go days symptom free when travling. God Bless hope your better soon
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LMW2887
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   Posted 9/17/2008 7:48 PM (GMT -6)   
I completely understand...I have been diagnosed Agoraphobic and have severe anxiety,depression and Bi Polar. Life has not been easy for me, Im only 21 I should be living the party lifestyle ect, but instead I still live at home with my parents and have done nothing with my life. I cant even work I get SSI, off and on from 15-18 it wasnt so bad, but the past 3 years my anxiety and agoraphobia has been out of control. I cant do anything, I barely leave house I can go food shopping, and to little stores that have like no people and the store has to have a bathroom because if I do start to get anxious I have severe symptoms, I feel like Im going to be sick and get hot and cold flashes dizzy ect. The past 3 relationships Ive been in have been ruined for many reasons but one of them is because of my issues. Im finally in a great relationship but I feel I have nothing to offer him. I dont drive, cause Im too anxious, we barely go anywhere and Im so afraid hes going to get frustrated with me and leave me. I mean as it is we live with me parents, my parents home is my comfort zone. I want to save to move out but Im afraid of leaving my comfort zone. I made a stupid mistake recently and have to go to court for it in 2 weeks and Im already freaking out about having to go. Im afraid of getting so anxious that throw up in front of everyone while Im talking to the judge. When I get anxious thats one big fear I have, puking in front of people, because of an incident that happened to me when I was younger. Sometimes I hate life so much, I havnt been on my anxiety meds for a year because Im too anxious to find a new psychiatrist. Well I just wanted to write to you to say I understand how you feel cause Im the same way. In fact Ive never talked to anyone that has anxiety as bad as mine.Do you have AIM or yahoo or myspace? so we can talk sometime
 
        -Lisa

Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 9/17/2008 9:16:40 PM (GMT-6)


MyAngel85
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   Posted 9/17/2008 10:00 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so glad that I am not alone with these problems. I have a huge fear of going out and due to my GAD i am housebound and unable to stay away from home longer than two hours or go out alone. I tried to be couragous once and went to walmart alone and i had a panic attack and it was so bad i passed out in the mens section of the store.:( I was so embarassed about it i walk out of the store blinded by blurred vision after waking up with people all around me . I love this site everyone is so supportive. Its great to see we are not alone even though at times we feel as though we are and that no one understands.
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   Posted 9/17/2008 10:20 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello Lisa and welcome to HealingWell,

This is an old post from 2006 so I cut out the old quote.  You will find many members here who have the same issues you do.

I am wondering how you get out to meet friends and your boyfriend.  How did you manage to get through the agraphobia during those times?  Something must be helping. Would you mind sharing that part of your story.

Thanks and welcome again.  Love to meet new members.

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LMW2887
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   Posted 9/21/2008 6:59 PM (GMT -6)   
 
Hi Kitt well during the times as I mentioned that my anxiety/Agoraphobia wasnt as bad, only because I figured something very important out. If I go out a little at a time everyday and graduly do more such as start out with going to a walmart per say then pushing myself a little further each time I do something bigger and bigger and stay around people and dont stay home all the time it helped a lot. Yes in doing this it was very hard and I was very anxious the whole time but I had to or I would be in my house for the rest of my life. but the past 3 years its gotten so bad, I cant make myself do what I did before to make myself better and I dont know why. I just got out of a 3 year relationship and the only things we did was be at my parents house or his which was 10 mins from my house. I think thats what made it worse, he was a low life that just smoked pot and sat around all day but I stuck with him for a long time. He was also very verbally and emotionaly abusive. I met him when my issues wernt so bad but being with him made it go downhill again. I started talking to my current b/f on myspace I found him on one of my ex's myspace. He is everything I have been looking for for a long long time. I am able to as I said before do little things like go food shopping go down the street to a small newbury comics, as long as I know theres a bathroom nearby and I can leave right when I want to Im ok. But it cant be a mall or big store, no way I'd have a panic attack. As for my friends I never hangout with them unless they come to my house, Ive known them since I was 14 and they'd never stop being my friend. I never went to public high school I had to go to a small alternative school that has only 30 kids. They treat kids with all different types of issues, thats where I met my friends. I dont know if I mentioned before but I also have bi polar and depression I dont know if anyone of you suffer from these issues but there also very challenging.
 
stkitt said...

Hello Lisa and welcome to HealingWell,

This is an old post from 2006 so I cut out the old quote.  You will find many members here who have the same issues you do.

I am wondering how you get out to meet friends and your boyfriend.  How did you manage to get through the agraphobia during those times?  Something must be helping. Would you mind sharing that part of your story.

Thanks and welcome again.  Love to meet new members.

Kitt


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