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Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 9/29/2006 10:04 AM (GMT -7)   
okay this is maybe in the "Oh brother how corny is this!" category, but I'm in a sentimental mood I guess. :)
 
I was doing yard work the other day and I snapped off what I thought to be a spent (dead) geranium stalk.  I tossed it on top of the "compost heap" (really just and pile of dead plant matter in the corner of my yard - I'm not Martha S!)  Well lo and behold, I went out to water yard today and the stalk was blooming beautiful, full, vibrant red blooms!  The moral of this story?  We can bloom even when we feel we are spent, broken, disconnected and in the compost pile of life.  Also consider how I viewed the "spent stalk" I was wrong, only looking at the outware appearance, never seeing the potential that lay hidden inside.  How often do we make that mistake with people, or are a victim of this by others?  I hope that this brings comfort to anyone who needs it today!  Any stories of blooming in spite of it all?  I'm sure all would love to hear! tongue
 
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CounterClockwise
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   Posted 9/29/2006 11:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Aw -- nice Scaredy Cat! I needed that thought! -- Will come back and post if I think of a blooming in spite of it all story -- I'm sure I have one, but I just can't think right now! :)

Rosie x
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normalsnofun
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   Posted 9/29/2006 11:44 AM (GMT -7)   
I think thats fabulous thanx for sharing kinda needed that today
--Michelle

...I dont want the world to see me, 'cause I dont think that they'd understand
When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
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Those who are the same keep it that way."


shell67
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   Posted 9/29/2006 12:57 PM (GMT -7)   
that is a great story scardey cat, i thank you, and it has a very good moral ;) take care and keep posting!! I needed that today too :)
shell


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Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 9/29/2006 3:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Growing as a metaphor, or a plant story! That was a beautiful story Wednesday. What a gift straight out of heaven. I don't know if you like to write or not, but that would make an awesome short story to pass along to others in your family as a tribute to your mom. Thank you for your touching reply!

Scaredy Cat
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/29/2006 3:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Beautiful ........scaredy cat thanks for sharing and thats a really true and wonderful way of believing in life and the good there is no matter what the adversities there may be
Lyn
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   Posted 9/29/2006 3:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Sista .........sorry I missed yous all this am talked to lil one for a few but had to go I have had a rough day again and cannot wait for the Doctor to be back Monday
No worries Howie is here looking after me I missed you terribly and the other sistas as well .......
I am in and out mostly today sleeping off the pain .........Cait is being awesome helping me as well
Hoping to yak at you's all in the am okay
Luvs ya
Your story made me cry I have one of Mom's plants here and it was just about gone but I have babied it and talked to it like crazy last couple of months
I have now got an IVY that runs from one end of Living room to other .....Franny gave me one as well
Thanks so much for sharing that I know how you pride yourself in the gardens
Luvs ya sis
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seechell
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   Posted 9/29/2006 4:48 PM (GMT -7)   

I love that analogy Scaredy Cat! Thank you, you've made me think about things just a bit harder.

 


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janetlee
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   Posted 9/29/2006 4:56 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't recall the title of the story, but O'Henry wrote one about a girl that was very sick and she'd watch the bush outside her window. She told her sister that when the last leaf finally blew of the bush, she knew that she was going to die. It was wintertime and of course, leaves fall, leaving bushes and trees barren until the spring. Everyday, the girl watched the leaves disappearing from the bush until there was only one. She was in dire straits. But day after day, the leaf continued to stay fast. As winter faded and spring approached, the girl, seeing the bush hanging on to it's one leaf, despite the harshest conditions, began to recover her health. Finally, the other sister found out that a "starving artist", who's work was never appreciated and wouldn't sell, had painted a realistic leaf onto the wall that the bush was planted next to. His "masterpiece" had saved the girl's life! The artist died penniless that year, but his work had proved far more valuable than any art collector could've ever known!
I just love O'Henry's stories! to be such a perceptive, thoughtful person (or at least, it would seem so to me to be able to write such amazing stories!), he was an alcoholic. Maybe he was a depressed and/or anxious soul, drowning his feelings the only way he knew how. It wouldn't be suprising, would it?
janet
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From the song "Everything I Own" by David Gates (Bread)
He wrote this for his father, after he passed away. Don't hold a grudge. It takes up so much room, it crowds out the love...
 
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If you want to keep things in perspective when the little things are getting you upset, say what I say: "And the starving children in Africa thought THEY had a problem!" Suddenly, the fact that you forgot to get an item at the store or dropped a glass of juice doesn't seem all that big a deal anymore.


nervymeg
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   Posted 9/29/2006 5:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Beautiful stories guy's, thankyou for sharing them.  I'm having a compost heap week.  These made me smile.

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/30/2006 6:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow so beautiful and very inspirational
Thanks for sharing I needed these as well
Been a orugh week for me too
Take care all
Lyn
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shell67
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   Posted 9/30/2006 8:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Im glad for all the great inspirational stories, they are wonderful and bring tears to my eyes. Monday will be the anniversary of my fathers death, i hate it, its also my best friends birthday.......so it messes things up, but, music has always helped me thought stuff like this, when i was in michigan and he was in hospital, i bought a cd of hootie and the blowfish, it had so many songs that went right along with what was going on, and i still cannot listen to it without bawling. But, was also glad to have something that was special to make me remember. Theres a song with meechell post ;) a song about "robin robin in the tree"(my sisters name) and even had a song with my dads mom's name, which is very original, Inez; in it. Ok this could get longer than i wanted, but i think it will be easier for me if i tell. My father went in to have surgery to fix his back, they hired this "specialst" to go in and move the main organs out of the way to get to the spine from the front. Well the "specialist" cut his intestines and caused a major horrible case of staff infection. They even had to keep his chest open and stuffed with things too keep it clearer. Me and my sister flew up there to see him as soon as we could. When we first got there, we went straight to the hospital. He was kept in a coma so he wouldnt move, so he was never awake. I sat there and talked to him......i wanted to stay there until i couldnt stay anymore. Well my mother had a fit and said we are just goin to get something to eat and we will be back, i said im not hungry, id rather stay here.......she kept on saying that he didnt know i was there and i neeeded to eat.....so she pretty much had to drag me out of there. I hated leaving and felt horrible for doing it. We got some food and went to the house to eat and we got a call from the hospital, he passed away before we got back up there, but the worst part was........they said right after we left, he woke up, he talked ot them, he knew what was going on.......if i had stayed, i would have gotten to see him, he would have known i was there, i would have gotten to talk to him...... i so hate that i let them talk me into leaving.....the guilt is still there. But, im sorry to bring anyone down, but there was so much in that music, that it does inspire me to think that he did know i was there, and somehow that cd has helped bunches. Its a treasure i will never let go of. The 'specialist' got away with it when the hospital i really believe that they paid off my moms lawyer, cause he did a complete turn around.....and the doc (who had another case pending) moved away to dallas.....well i will quit now, sorry i got so carried away, its so hard to loose someone so close :( but its great to have good memories.
shell
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Eileen Caddy


normalsnofun
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   Posted 9/30/2006 9:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Hugs shell I know thats gotta be rough but I hope you can find some comfort in the fact that he knew you were there. HUGS
--Michelle

...I dont want the world to see me, 'cause I dont think that they'd understand
When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
--Goo Goo Dolls

"Those who are different change the world,
Those who are the same keep it that way."


Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 9/30/2006 4:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Shell I had a very similar circumstance with the death of my father. He was living in Texas and I was here in California. He was an alcholic and suffering liver problems. We got the call that he was in the hospital and I of course got hysterical-knowing in my heart that he was going to die. Long story short, I wanted to fly out immediately, but was not allowed. (15 yrs.old) I guess no believed that it was the end for him. So I know the feeling of not getting that final goodbye. Bless you for what you have gone through. It certainly makes loving our family as much and as best as we can every precious minute so important!

live and love every moment y'all
Scaredy Cat
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shell67
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   Posted 9/30/2006 5:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you guys very much, just a tough time of it with memories and wishes. its so very true scardey cat, love every minute. Thanks michelle and wed, you always make me feel better no matter what......im blessed with some good people. I will try hard to forgive me for leaving, i know he wouldnt want me to feel so bad about it, and i shouldnt be so mad at my mom for gettin me to leave. God bless, hugs
shell
" Dwell not on the past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now, in this instant of time. From this moment onward you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."
Eileen Caddy


janetlee
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   Posted 9/30/2006 6:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, shell
i am typing with 1 hand cuz i'm holding peeper...he's lonely w/o shadow...
my dear dad died after mom and i left too. he was put in a dialysis chair and needed a pillow and some sheets to cover up with. mom and i went to the store to buy him some. when we got back, i walked back to get him as comfy as i could. i walked over towards him and his eyes were open...staring into space. i knew he was gone. i cried hysterically. i always think of how i should've said this or done that, but in reality, we're all just imperfect people doing the best we know how. please try to forgive yourself. he would definitely want that!
(((((((hugs)))))))
janet
"if there's someone you know and loving them so, but taking them all for granted, you may lose them one day, someone takes them away and they don't hear the words you long to say...I would give evrything I own just to touch you once again...just to hold you once again."
From the song "Everything I Own" by David Gates (Bread)
He wrote this for his father, after he passed away. Don't hold a grudge. It takes up so much room, it crowds out the love...
 
_____________________________________________________________
If you want to keep things in perspective when the little things are getting you upset, say what I say: "And the starving children in Africa thought THEY had a problem!" Suddenly, the fact that you forgot to get an item at the store or dropped a glass of juice doesn't seem all that big a deal anymore.


shell67
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   Posted 10/1/2006 10:44 AM (GMT -7)   
hi janetlee, im so sorry that you had to deal with that, its hard to get past......i thank you for sharing similar stories, i dont feel so alone in things, and it will be easier to stop the guilt, i just kept thinking i lost it, i had a chance and lost it.....argggh. I luv you all for helping and sharing, and i really hope peeper feels better soon too, im sure he misses his mate :(
hugs
shell
" Dwell not on the past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now, in this instant of time. From this moment onward you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."
Eileen Caddy


janetlee
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   Posted 10/1/2006 11:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Shell!
Peeper is probably adjusting better than I am...I'm so busy trying to make sure he's happy as possible that it's running me crazy! ;)
He's eating and drinking and telling me off just like always, so it's a real good sign that he's doing okay! Boy am I thankful! You take care and I really mean it when I say that your dad would totally have understood! And it could've just as easily happened to him if he'd been in your position. We just never know.
(((HUGS)))
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


JKRsGirl
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   Posted 10/1/2006 2:26 PM (GMT -7)   
After reading all of these stories, I couldn't help but add my two cents. Do you think it's possible that your loved ones "waited" for you to leave before passing? They probably didn't want you all to see them move on so they waited for time to be right. My father sat in a coma for 11 days before dying. On the 11th day, my mother told him that it was okay for him to go, she loved him and she'd see him on the other side. She left the room and a few moments later, he passed. I'm having a very difficult time believing that all of these stories are coincidence! God Bless You All.
Life's a journey, not a destination ~Aerosmith

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