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stronglady4me
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   Posted 10/12/2006 12:34 AM (GMT -6)   
A few weeks ago I realized that I don't cry anymore.  I used to let myself have a good cry.  I mean a GOOD ONE, runny nose, puffy eyes, hiccups bawling my eyes out good.  Somehow over the years I stopped letting myself do that.  Perhaps I didn't want to scare my husband or thought that he was already putting up with enough.  Perhaps I felt I had to be strong for the children or didn't want to scare them.  Those years have been the years when I have dealt with the most anxiety and even dealt with depression.  Crying never made anything better but it did feel better somehow, like after a good cry I could find the strength to go on and face whatever was out there.  I was lucky and never had to cry alone, my husband has always been there to give me a shoulder to cry on.  Over the last several weeks I have had many Aha moments and break throughs one of which is that I had a really great cry over several hurtful things that have been piling up on me.  It didn't make any of it better but somehow after I dried off my husband's shirt, I felt a little bit stronger and able to face the world again.
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Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 10/12/2006 12:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Strong Lady, You do indeed sound strong! As wives and mothers we do have to carry on don't we? I'm glad that you "found your tears" again. It is a wonderful release and necessary if you ask me. I always have loved the phrase "God saves all of our tears in a bottle" My mother used to tell me that when I would cry and it always brought me comfort...wanted to pass that along to you.

Take Care
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jethro
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   Posted 10/12/2006 3:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Crying is one of the best and quickest ways of releasing tension and negative emotions.  
It is all too often seen by others as a sign of weakness, but is really a very refreshing and strength building act.
In the past I washed away many panic attacks with tears, where medication and relaxation had failed to bring relief.
The mind is like a parachute - It works better when it's open.


Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/12/2006 4:34 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so "Happy" you have let yourself be able to let go and CRY it is nothing to be ashamed of and you can still be and are Strong no matter whether you cry or not I go into the BR so my daughter doesnt see but she knows and then will come cuddle me up ...Letting your children see raw emotion is good for them IMO as they will learn that they to can shed a tear without fear of being teased and or judged
Jethro is so right it is the best realease mechanism we have and it will clear you up and out in so little time
I dont have any problem with crying I feel so much better after a good one .We hold to much pain and other emotions in too be strong for all the others around us
I finally was able to realy sob about Mom's passing I had kept it all in and that was not good for me or any one around me  
We have to have an outlet as well
Take care and dont fret the small things .......you are normal
Lyn


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Chuckle.xxx
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   Posted 10/19/2006 3:06 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree  Jethro, people see it as a sign of weakness. For you to admit to crying on here I think is great.
I've been missing you Jethro, how are you doing these day's??

Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/19/2006 8:36 AM (GMT -6)   
I too felt that peeps thought or took it as a sign of weakness but I also will cry when very ANGRY and believe me thats not often but then watch out do not take it as weakness
Good no actualy GREAT to see you back amongst us Chux you have been missed
Luvs ya
Lyn
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shell67
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   Posted 10/19/2006 10:15 AM (GMT -6)   
nothing trivial about that stronglady, Crying does help, and i dont feel its a sign of weakness, although im like lyn and cry when angry, thats when i feel i look weak, but, its comes with anger too, not just sadness. I do think it helps, i have to break down once in a while, and i do feel a lil better after the fact. THe longer between them, the worse i feel. Take care and keep us informed of how you are doing.... hugs
shell
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