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Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 10/12/2006 12:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everybody,I just found out something that has really upset me and I could use some kind words.  My husband did something that I feel was a betrayal...not the Big One mind you, but it still hurts.  I can't even cry about it now 'cause I have to be mommy and carry on with the day...I can't really talk about this with my friends (except you guys) and my family because I do not want to color their opinion of him.  So since this forum does have a certain anominity, I am going to cry to y'all if that's okay.  My hands are shaking as I'm typing this.  I am going to be doing extra relaxation exercises, but I fear that this may cause me a setback (have been attack free for weeks now)  I don't know what I'm seeking here, I know that no one can fix this for me, but I guess some sympathy and hugs would be nice...
Scaredy Cat
"Courage is not the absence of is being afraid, and doing it anyway!"

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   Posted 10/12/2006 12:32 PM (GMT -6)   
(HUGS) (HUGS) and more (HUGS)
Im sorry that this happened to you, whatever it may be. Being betrayed by the man you love in anyway hurts so much. You are taking the right steps in doing extra relaxation techniques and hopefully this will not be a set back. I hope you and your husband can work through this. We are all here for you if you need to vent or yell what a jerk he is being! God bless luv- Julie

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   Posted 10/12/2006 12:38 PM (GMT -6)   
BIG HUGS hope things work out for you. Good luck we are here for ya

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When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
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   Posted 10/12/2006 1:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Huggs to you .........
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   Posted 10/12/2006 1:38 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Cat,

Honey I'm so sorry to hear you feel betrayed by the person you love. I wish you would have talked to me about this today in chat so I could have helped you more.

I am so happy you know you can come to all of us for any help, comfort and support you need at any time. BIG (((HUGS))) hun you have the strength to get thru this your not alone.


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   Posted 10/12/2006 2:14 PM (GMT -6)   

((((HUGS)))) Cat-

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I hope it doesn't set you back. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Take Care,
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   Posted 10/12/2006 4:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cat,

Sending you lots and lots of hugs and warm thoughts. I hope everything works out. hugs hugs and more hugs.


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   Posted 10/12/2006 7:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Cat,
Just wanted to add to the (((hugs))) in the room. Remember that we are all stronger than we think we are. Be brave and use our strength to help you get through.
Life's a journey, not a destination ~ Aerosmith
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   Posted 10/12/2006 9:07 PM (GMT -6)   
*HUGS* SC, I'm so sorry hon.
Dishonesty is awful.  I hope everything works out okay for you both.
"Be glad of life because it gives you the chance to love and to work and to play and to look up at the stars."

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   Posted 10/12/2006 9:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Cat,
Consider yourself hugged!!! (((HUGS)))
PS-Can't give any "hubby advice"...would seem silly coming from an old maid like me!! ;)
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
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And forget to hate.

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   Posted 10/12/2006 11:22 PM (GMT -6)   

Dear Sweet Scaredy Cat,

I am SO sorry you are hurting. You are a wonderful woman and so kind and supportive. I don't know any words that can comfort you. I have had similar pain in my past, and I know that nobody can take the pain away right at this moment, but just know that you are lovely and I am sending you lots of ((((Hugs)))) and good wishes.


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   Posted 10/13/2006 2:09 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi scaredycat,

                   Whatever has happened to you know that i am sending you ((((HUGS)))) your way...Hope this comforts you a little...

                          In a circle of friends,
                          We have one Father,
                          In a circle of friends,
                         We share this prayer,
                If you weep,we will weep with you,
  If you sing for joy, the rest of us will lift our voices too.
But no matter what you feel inside there's no need to pretend,
      Thats the way it is in this circle of friends...

Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 10/16/2006 1:14 AM (GMT -6)   

Thank you to all for the hugs and support.  It has been a really rough weekend for me.  No panic attacks (yeah) but emotionally awful.  Looks like things will be okay.  He/we are going to see a counselor (good lord, another counselor?!?) and that will hopefully be helpful to him for his issues, and for me, as my self-esteem is no where to be found (for now anyway)  Sorry to be MIA, will try to be back in full force soon.

Thanks again everybody

Scaredy Cat
"Courage is not the absence of is being afraid, and doing it anyway!"

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   Posted 10/16/2006 6:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Just wanted to add my HUGS, I know I'm a little late but I truly hope you keep pulling through this. No anxiety or panic is a huge step you should pat yourself on the back for that one!
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   Posted 10/16/2006 6:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Im sorry he has hurt you, in anyway.....its not right :( but you get all the biggest out we will suffocate you if ya dont watch out, we love hugs, and we all need them, ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))) feel better soon.
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   Posted 10/16/2006 8:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Many huggs to you scaredy.
Maybe things will look up soon?
what happened?

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   Posted 10/16/2006 10:00 PM (GMT -6)   

     HUGE GINORMOUS HUGS scaredy....I know how it feels to be let down...stay strong and keep us posted


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   Posted 10/17/2006 3:33 AM (GMT -6)   
***MORE BIG HUG**** Hang in there

...I dont want the world to see me, 'cause I dont think that they'd understand
When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
--Goo Goo Dolls

"Those who are different change the world,
Those who are the same keep it that way."

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   Posted 10/19/2006 6:50 PM (GMT -6)   

((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))) for Cat! I know I am late in posting - sorry. I love you!!!! I hope all is well with you now - I am so sorry you are having tough times. I will be praying for you! God bless...


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   Posted 10/19/2006 7:23 PM (GMT -6)   
So sorry you are going through this and hope things get better.
Many hugs!!

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   Posted 10/19/2006 9:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Cat - cyber HUGS to you and a prayer lifted up for you and your husband too.  If you need an anonymous support group try your local community church or CODA (codependents anonymous). I hope you feel better too.
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   Posted 10/19/2006 10:22 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Cat

Many huge HUGS to you. I hope things work out soon, and you feel better. It's hard enough being ancious, without feeling betrayed as well, I'm sure things will look better soon.

Hugs Judy smurf

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   Posted 10/21/2006 4:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Hugs and more HUGS .i dont know what kind of marital situation you are in but i feel for you . I have marriage problem . have had for a long time ,It is very debiliating and can really bring you down. Ihope you work through it .be good to yourself ,I took biofeedback therapy it helps a lot .share with some one you trust . love and prayersAnd HUGS.
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