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ken217
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   Posted 10/14/2006 9:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Folks
I have done post before.  I have tried everything to get better from the mental hospital to meds and combinations.  I know i have to do it from within.  My question is where is the switch and how I turm it on.  I havent been out of the house in over a year.   Please any suggestions or comments would be apprediated.
 
Thank You
Ken

MsKittie
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   Posted 10/14/2006 9:26 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Ken

(((Hugs Hun))) Just never give up trying keep hanging in there and take baby stepts on things you need to do. Try just focussing on getting that one thing done in a day and get threw that day. I'm sorry your treatments and meds didn't work for you but it sounds like you are trying very hard.

Keep up the good work and please keep us posted on how you are doing.


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harry4
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   Posted 10/14/2006 11:08 PM (GMT -6)   
a big dose of benzos will get you out and about, unless you are happy to stay housebound, and some are
 
you have probably forgotten how to be brave
also longtime sufferers dont like to risk feeling uncomfortable at all and wont do anything that may cause discomfort
 
agioarphobia is much better understood nowdays and much easier to recover from
recovered former longtime anxiety and panic attack sufferer and helper of other sufferers  but no training or  qualifications in medicine or psychology, any remarks that may be taken as advice must be confirmed with doctor or other health professional


normalsnofun
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   Posted 10/14/2006 11:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Ken *hugs* hang in there.
--Michelle

...I dont want the world to see me, 'cause I dont think that they'd understand
When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
--Goo Goo Dolls

"Those who are different change the world,
Those who are the same keep it that way."


ken217
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   Posted 10/15/2006 1:27 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks you all. I still need to find the switch. I get the little steps but need to flip the switch. Thanks for the encorgment. If you find the switch let me know. Your right on the benzos as i took valium for thirty yars. I hate to go back but looking if that the switch'


Thanks tio you all

normalsnofun
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   Posted 10/15/2006 8:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Ken,

Have you had any accomplishments/lil steps you would like to share with us? Sometimes we can grow by accepting our accomplishments.
--Michelle

...I dont want the world to see me, 'cause I dont think that they'd understand
When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
--Goo Goo Dolls

"Those who are different change the world,
Those who are the same keep it that way."


Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/15/2006 10:06 AM (GMT -6)   
I totally agree with Normal hun you and I have talked and you have made some small steps so please know you have friends here and we will be heree for you okay
Be good
Take care
Lyn
you know you have wonderful sense of humor and taking the valium might just have to be how you can get out and about
I know you are brave and I know your fears.......know we are here for you
Lyn
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tangerine bear
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   Posted 10/15/2006 1:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Ken,

I completely understand what you are dealing with here. I have been housebound not too long ago as well. My suggestion is (as Lyn said) "baby steps". The only way to recover from this horrid disorder is Exposure, not Avoidance. The more you avoid, the worse it gets. It's a self-perpetuating dragon, the more you avoid it the bigger and meaner it gets. The more you face your fears, the more likely they are to fade. My first day back to work after months of "hiding", I literally had to pick up my legs and put them out the car door, take one step at a time, concentrate on only that (it's just one step...it's just one step). Well it works, as silly as it sounds. I am not housebound anymore, although the tendencies are still there. I could easily revert to hiding at home if I let myself do it. Best wishes and (((Hugs))),

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jaymay
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   Posted 10/15/2006 6:20 PM (GMT -6)   
hey ken hang in there i was the same way a few months ago now i can drive to work believe me its hard and i know what your feeling just take baby steps step out side in the backyard drive a little around the block.  Every little bit helps , do you live with anyone ken?
ken217 said...
Thanks you all. I still need to find the switch. I get the little steps but need to flip the switch. Thanks for the encorgment. If you find the switch let me know. Your right on the benzos as i took valium for thirty yars. I hate to go back but looking if that the switch'


Thanks tio you all

ken217
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   Posted 10/15/2006 11:02 PM (GMT -6)   

HI

Thanks for all your suggestions and support.  What worries me is I have taken the little steps after i got out of the hospital over a year and a half.  It lasted for three four weeks.  Some how i think when your stuck you need a push over the hill.  Mabey not a big one just get over the hump rather than go back in the safe house.  Your thoughts would be appreciated.  Thank you all for your support and answers.  I am at a point to do something or like people say the longer in the more to get out.

Thank you all

Ken

 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/16/2006 3:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Try just going a half a block from your home
going to store
taking yourself out of house sit in a chair and watch ppl
Do baby steps hun and you will get that "want to push self " further
Your friend always
Lyn
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shell67
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   Posted 10/16/2006 5:55 PM (GMT -6)   
hi ken, im sorry nothing much has helped, but dont get discouraged, as they said, baby steps are huge actually, and its much easier to try baby steps than huge ones. Good luck and keep us posted, to me the tiniest step is wonderful. I think we all believe that. You can do this, we are all behind you :)
shell
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pontiac98
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   Posted 10/17/2006 5:11 AM (GMT -6)   
ken,
do you take any rx's for your agoraphobia?
diag with cd at 15 y/o. 2ft 8 ins of lg.intest removed at 18. currently on pentasa, cipro and flagyl. dr. wants me on 6mp.
 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/17/2006 5:27 AM (GMT -6)   
Keep coming here Ken please '

You have many friends and plenty of support as you know
Your friend
Lyn
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normalsnofun
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   Posted 10/17/2006 12:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Ken,

Just checking in. Please let us know how you are doing. Have you tried affirmations, like picking something you did each day that you are "proud" of. Once you get them rolling they will motivate you and before you know it youll be taking leaps and bounds (well baby steps that get a lil bigger or more frequent atleast).

Keep in touch,
--Michelle

...I dont want the world to see me, 'cause I dont think that they'd understand
When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
--Goo Goo Dolls

"Those who are different change the world,
Those who are the same keep it that way."


Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/18/2006 4:32 AM (GMT -6)   
Great idea lil one
Mom

Give it a shot Ken and remember you have that wonderful sense of humor
Lyn
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normalsnofun
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   Posted 10/18/2006 10:25 AM (GMT -6)   
You know I might need to start taking my advice. lol

I like most people for get the millions of little accomplishments on the way to bigger ones.
--Michelle

...I dont want the world to see me, 'cause I dont think that they'd understand
When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
--Goo Goo Dolls

"Those who are different change the world,
Those who are the same keep it that way."


Chuckle.xxx
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   Posted 10/19/2006 2:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Ken, I am sorryt hat you are finding things tough right now. Don't give up though, do little steps each day and things will get easier. You will get days when things are easier and days when things are harder but don't let it hold you back, keep going.
I hope you start to get better real soon.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/19/2006 8:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Ken Chuckles was where you are now and she has done amazing with her recovery yes it was baby steps but I am sure she will be happy to share that with you herslef
We are all very proud of her
went from finallly being able to go to mailbox to travelling 200 miles
NOW thats what I call fantabulous
Kudos Chux and I know you will support Ken is his steps
Luvs ya
Lyn

yeah


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normalsnofun
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   Posted 10/26/2006 12:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Ken,

How are you holding up?
--Michelle

...I dont want the world to see me, 'cause I dont think that they'd understand
When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
--Goo Goo Dolls

"Those who are different change the world,
Those who are the same keep it that way."

“We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”
--George Bernard Shaw


busymum
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   Posted 10/26/2006 1:38 PM (GMT -6)   
HI Ken, I'm Lyn, new to the group. How are you today?????

stronglady4me
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   Posted 10/26/2006 2:44 PM (GMT -6)   
I understand agoraphobia, I dealth with it seriously for 1 year and up and down for 7 more after that. I can't tell you why but I have always been able to face my fears and work through them. I never let the fears within me keep me at home even though walking out the door was tremendously difficult. I am well now and agoraphobia free for the last 20 years. I did it by simply not letting it have the ultimate power over me. I got up every day, I went to work, I did what I had to do and I looked inside for honesty with myself about what I was afraid of, what was causing the fear and not letting it get the best of me.

Funny story - After the worse year of my life, the year that agoraphobia hit me hard, my husband and I moved to Denver, CO. We were only going to be there for 5 months so I got a job in a daycare and didn't worry about career goals. One day we were going to take a field trip with the kids. We needed to transport some of the kids by private car because the van wasn't big enough and I was the only employee that had the right kind of insurance. One of the issues that I had was driving on the freeway. I don't know why but after 7 years of never having a problem on the freeway, it terrified me. We were going to a skating wrink with the kids and in my mind I though okay, right down the street. Imagine my surprise/panic/terror as I followed the company van onto the freeway in Denver! I was terrified but made it through just fine and I don't even think the kids knew anything about it. I am sure that reading this story is not as funny as that day was in my head. In my mind I always imagine that trip as a keystone cops sort of affair. It just goes to show you that life jumps up at you at any moment and we all have to be ready to roll with it.

I don't know what the "switch" is that you need to flip, that only you will know. I can tell you that if you keep making steps everyday, even small ones, you will be alright. This is a great place to come. Keep posting.
Stronglady4me
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/26/2006 3:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Strong
Ken's email addy is in profile maybe you
Could share some of your ways of getting thru all you did with him thru emails
I know he would appreciate it
I am so happy you shared that story with all of us here very very inspirational
Take care
Lyn
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/26/2006 3:02 PM (GMT -6)   
How are you my friend
Hoping you are reading these posts and seeing the compassion and support you are receiving
Be well
Luvs Lyn
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Chuckle.xxx
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   Posted 10/27/2006 4:42 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Ken, I hope you are doing okay.
Lyn, sure I will share my experiences with ken.
Ken, if you want to listen to me go on and on then feel free to e-mail or add me to your msn. I am always happy to listen and offer any advice.
My addy is:
 
HUn PLEASE put email addy in your profile for your security and protection okay .......
thanks ......luv ya ....lyn

Post Edited By Moderator (Howlyncat) : 11/8/2006 12:48:00 PM (GMT-7)

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