I Wrote A Letter

New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
[ << Previous Thread | Next Thread >> ]

janetlee
Veteran Member


Date Joined Mar 2006
Total Posts : 1986
   Posted 11/3/2006 12:10 PM (GMT -6)   
I was listening to some oldies yesterday and they made me start thinking of my sister. My sister and I rarely talk or see each other, although we live in the same town. Mom and I have both tried to keep in touch with her by calling once in a while and mom's even dropped her a card or two. I've sent her a gift before, via ebay, and usually she will call and acknowledge our attempts to stay in touch. Anyhow, unless we happen to run into her at a store or something like that, we never see her. I know that she's gotten mad at me thru the years cuz we don't see eye-to-eye on some things, especially as thru the years, her husband has "rubbed off on her". It's amazing how differently she sees some things now in contrast to how she was raised. Oh well. I'm not saying she's become a "bad" person, just so different in a lot of ways. Her hubby and I are polite to each other, but we all know that we don't really LIKE each other very much. I give him credit for being the kind of person that if mom or I needed his help, he would help us if he could and vise-a-versa. But mostly, we're like oil and water. So you can see how thru the years, we've grown further and further apart from my sister. I take responsibility for my share of it, but I won't take the brunt of it. Mom and I have tried to show her that we love her and never talked her hubby down etc. Oh well, I'm making a short story long! I wrote her a letter and this is what I said:

"I was sitting here listening to a CD of old country tunes and the song "Silver Wings" came on. I immediately thought about you. I remember you playing that song on the jukebox when we were little. Dad had taken us and mom to a bar in Millville. As he and mom sat at the table, we went to put our money in the jukebox. You were too little to read the songs and of course, you didn't want my help! So you pushed a selection, not knowing what you were choosing. Of course, it was "Silver Wings"! You always loved that song! Anyhow, it is a nice memory and I wanted to let you know that I think about you all the time, not just when the music plays...I miss you in more ways than you will probably ever know. It is sad that we never see each other or even really talk anymore. I guess that life does that to us sometimes. But I don't have to like it. I've wondered if you ever miss me and mom. I know you are very busy with work and your family responsibilities, but it would sure be nice if you could find a minute here and there to let us hear from you once in a while. We're all getting older everyday and unforeseen occurrences can befall any of us. I know that things from the past have bothered you and me. We don't always see things the same way and it can cause bad feelings. For myself, all I can say is that I love you very very much and whatever I've ever done or said that might've hurt you in any way, I am deeply sorry and hope you will forgive me. I can't go back and undo the past, but I'd love to make the present and future better! You have always had a special place in my heart and you always will as long as I'm breathing! Mom sure loves you too. We talk about you, dad, the girls and it just reminds me of how you and I used to be fairly close. Life and time can change our circumstances, but I hope they won't always be a wall between us. No matter what, you will always be my beloved little sister."

 

She should've gotten the letter yesterday, but I haven't heard back from her. It's possible she hasn't gotten it...I hope she will reply, cuz I do love her and life is short. I wanted to share this with my kindred spirits on the forum. I encourage you to try to make amends with anyone you may be on the outs with, cuz we never know when it may be too late. EVen if my sis doesn't respond, I'll have the comfort of knowing I tried.

Luv To All,

janet


VIEW IMAGEVIEW IMAGE
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


sukay
Veteran Member


Date Joined Feb 2003
Total Posts : 1432
   Posted 11/3/2006 12:56 PM (GMT -6)   

Janet,

Sorry to here all that you have gone through with your sister all these years. I'm glad that you sent the letter since you felt you needed to write it. She may not respond immediately or not at all but you said it best, "Even if my sis doesn't respond, I'll have the comfort of knowing I tried."

Good Luck. ~Sukay~*


normalsnofun
Veteran Member


Date Joined Oct 2005
Total Posts : 2500
   Posted 11/3/2006 2:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Beautifully written. If you hadnt already sent it I woulda said to enclose the song or its lyrics but glad to hear you are trying to make amends.

Wish ya the best.
--Michelle

...I dont want the world to see me, 'cause I dont think that they'd understand
When everythings made to be broken, I just want you to know who I am..."
--Goo Goo Dolls

"Those who are different change the world,
Those who are the same keep it that way."

“We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”
--George Bernard Shaw


CounterClockwise
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2006
Total Posts : 1529
   Posted 11/3/2006 3:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Janet hun, thanks so much for sharing that. -- It brought tears to my eyes: if it doesn't get a response I'll be *very* surprised, as I felt it was just perfect.

May things work out well for you and your sister.

Rosie x
********************

People are not like fish: they do not work well battered.

When I'm not in my right mind, my left mind gets pretty crowded...

********************

 
Moderator, Bipolar Forum


jordaNZone
Veteran Member


Date Joined Sep 2006
Total Posts : 752
   Posted 11/3/2006 6:53 PM (GMT -6)   
The written word so much more effective than a phonecall..well done!
I hope things go well for you and your sister future times.
I guess we all see things differently as we get older and are influenced by those closest to us, but I feel that we never forget the basics that we were taught when we were growing up. She knows that you and your mum love her...I am sure...but, maybe her husband doesn't want to share your sister and feels threatened?..and maybe I am wrong - but I always try to find a reason for peoples behaviour..and looking outside the square is sometimes worthwhile..

Maree

Howlyncat
Elite Member


Date Joined Jan 2005
Total Posts : 24909
   Posted 11/3/2006 7:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Paying and hoping this will all work out for you and sister.......
So true sweetie always try to make amends before it is too late
Speak from experince
Luvs ya sis
Lyn
    Contribute today to support Healing Well Forums...Donate @
 
         Don't Comprimise Yourself :you are all you have    
 Never Give up on Yourself ,Your True friends nor your Dignity
   


janetlee
Veteran Member


Date Joined Mar 2006
Total Posts : 1986
   Posted 11/3/2006 7:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everybody! Well, it's strange, but guess who I ran in to today?! Yep! My sister! Mom, me and a friend met at a restaurant to eat and after we'd finished eating, we were sitting there just yakking and all the sudden I see my sister walk by. She hadn't seen us, as she had her mind on where she was going to find a seat. Our friend had to go, so mom and I walked over to the other side of the place to say "hi". My sis hugged me and thanked me for the letter. I asked her, "Don't you think we had a 'wall' up? She acted kind of puzzled and said no, not really. I guess she really does see things a LOT different than I do! Nonetheless, she seemed truly pleased with the letter. Now if I hadn't have seen her at the restaurant, I don't know if she would've called me or not. Now I just hope she'll keep in touch with us!
janet
VIEW IMAGEVIEW IMAGE
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


jordaNZone
Veteran Member


Date Joined Sep 2006
Total Posts : 752
   Posted 11/3/2006 10:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Wow..thats life for ya...fate drew you together with your sister..fantastic - I love a happy ending, don't you?
Which proves my theory...'life is a circle'.

Janetlee, I love to read your postings - happy and sad - and I still think you have a talent for writing..

Maree :)

Howlyncat
Elite Member


Date Joined Jan 2005
Total Posts : 24909
   Posted 11/4/2006 7:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Glad this happenened hun
as you know all things happen for a reason right
I am sure things will be great now between the 2 of you
Luvs ya
Lyn
    Contribute today to support Healing Well Forums...Donate @
 
         Don't Comprimise Yourself :you are all you have    
 Never Give up on Yourself ,Your True friends nor your Dignity
   


sukay
Veteran Member


Date Joined Feb 2003
Total Posts : 1432
   Posted 11/4/2006 1:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Janet,
 
I'm so glad things turned out well between you, your sister and mom. I don't think it was coincidence that you saw your sister in the restaurant. I think it was perfect timing. Don't stress about what would have happened if you never bumped into her. It doesn't matter anyway. She saw you, she hugged you and that was all that mattered. Hope things continue to go well.
 
~Sukay~*
New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
Forum Information
Currently it is Tuesday, September 27, 2016 10:27 PM (GMT -6)
There are a total of 2,695,124 posts in 297,532 threads.
View Active Threads


Who's Online
This forum has 152209 registered members. Please welcome our newest member, billtiff2002.
362 Guest(s), 16 Registered Member(s) are currently online.  Details
Hi_There, proscapt, Tagier, 0311, THE HAPPY TURTLE, wayup, geop, project, Scaredy Cat, Almost a 10, OptimisTick, JWH_54, sixpacks, Iwanttofeelgoodagain, Bunsie, Jack & Diane


Follow HealingWell.com on Facebook  Follow HealingWell.com on Twitter  Follow HealingWell.com on Pinterest
Advertisement
Advertisement

©1996-2016 HealingWell.com LLC  All rights reserved.

Advertise | Privacy Policy & Disclaimer