from what Ive heard this is unusual, most anxiety sufferers have fairly normal sex
I suggest that you be very slow and patient, benzos may help if theres any muscle cramping
Welcome to HW and I hope you will continue to post and see the support and empathy here on the boards as well as how great the peeps are
take care...see you again
So happy to meet you I'm so happy you responded to this post. I remember how scared I was my first time at having sex I was so lost. I'm sorry I wasn't confortable talking to your bf about this subject not knowing how you were feeling about it.
Try to have a nice hot relaxing bath and have him give you a good lotion massage from shoulders to feet when you get out in candel light. This will help relax you both. Try not to focus to much on what is going to happen and the gentelman you have told us he is, will take it easy with your heart and body. I wish you luck in this area just try to relax.
Please post often if you ever need to talk or just support hun.
Thank you for the kind words. Just keep in mind hun the first time is not always the best time. As time goes by it will get easier and and more enjoyable for the both of you. You may even find out it will help your anxiety by the medamoroghens (sorry spelling) your body puts out. If you ever need to talk hun you can find my email address under members on the blue line above and I will be happy to talk with you. All your feeling you are feeling are normal too...you will be giving up something that is really yours.
Post Edited (hopeful82) : 11/13/2006 2:34:47 PM (GMT-7)