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phobiagrl823
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   Posted 12/1/2006 7:05 PM (GMT -6)   
hey ok heres my story:
  • i'm a former anxiety/depression patient. i took zoloft and i was fine but then my parents took me off of that.
  • it's been about a year before anything bothered me
  • i'm in 9th grade now, and i'm dealing with more drama/stress/etc.
  • now i think i'm paranoid... i can't even shower without looking out the shower curtain at least 5 times...just to make sure no one else is in there.
  • sometimes i have to bring my dog in there with me, but i can't keep doing that because i know she doesn't like it in there.
  • my parents aren't going to get me professional help again because of insurance whatnot. so every time they say that, i say 'so you're just going to let me shower in fear??' and they go '...yeah.' ughh.
  • they keep reassuring me that they're just in the next room and nothing's going to get in the bathroom w/out them knowing about it. it doesnt help at all.
  • therefore, they don't seem at all concerned with the situation and say that it's just a phase. but until they do something about it, i always get scared about showering, especially at night.

so what do i do?? i know i have to shower every night but i'm so scared...

should i bother convincing them that this is terrifying for me?

all answers are greatly appreciated!!!!!


worrier247
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   Posted 12/1/2006 7:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there!  it sounds to me like it's an obsession.  i have OCD, and you couldn't even imagine things that i worry and obsess over!  i do that too sometimes though, always peeking out of the shower curtain.  with certain things i used to worry about when i was younger, my parents couldn't understand why i was worried.  so a lot of my stress and anxiety, and bothersome thoughts i always kept to myself.  to this day, i don't let anyone know what worries me, because i know it would sound ridiculous!  and i also know that it's part of an anxiety disorder.  i've never been to a doctor about my anxiety, because ever since i was a child when it all kicked in, i always kept it to myself.  so i'm used to it.   what is it exactly that you think is going to come into the shower?

janetlee
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   Posted 12/1/2006 7:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi,
Perhaps you could speak with your school guidance counselor. He/she should know of some sort of reduced rate or free help for you. Social Services are available for folks like you! Keep us posted!
HUGS!!!!!
janet
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athmlldy411
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   Posted 12/1/2006 11:04 PM (GMT -6)   
don't feel alone - i too have a fear of showering. i will not take one if noone is home and then i make my daughter sit in her room alot of times so that i can use her shower and someone will be close to me. oh and get this i am 31years old. i have just started talking to my mom about all of this and it is weird because at my age she went thru alot of the same things but never said anything because she thought that was just the way things were suppose to be. believe me you need to talk to people on here as much as possible because at least you are letting it out and not keeping it bottled up inside......if you keep it all in you just might have a melt down ......... i know i did and that will scare the crap out of you. so please talk to people as much as possibel.

phobiagrl823
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   Posted 12/1/2006 11:57 PM (GMT -6)   
oh thanks athmlldy... thats so nice of u to say that. :)

and janetlee-- thanks a bunch... huggs are my favorite thing in the world!! ^_^

and worrier-- thanks bunches for the reassurance. to answer your question, i think a random guy is going to come in there and hurt me. i think i got that story from my mom's friend Jamie, who tells us true stories about people who get killed in their houses in the town where she lives. one story bothered me: she said that a guy came inside the bathroom and killed the man in his bathtub. however, she told me that story months ago, and even though i've always been scared of that happening, i've never showed it until about a month ago.

thanks, everyone, for the kind and helpful words!! i really appreciate it!!

Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/2/2006 7:34 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome
I agree it sounds like an OCD thing as well as phobia
I am severly ocd and I dont like being in bathroom by self at night can go during day but for some reason the nights scare the bejeebers outta me
Please do keep talking about it here and to ppl that you can talk to and trust....Your parents should listen try telling them this is real it is not just a thing okay
I have a daughter about your age that is phobic ( severly) of Needles ....death and losing me she has lost many close ppl in her life last while '
I never realized how severe her phobia of the needle was until I was getting blod dranw and she turned pure white and nearly fainted our doctor is aware of it too so she is very coddled when she will need to get a needle .......
I hope you talk to your parents and explain to them
Might start out by asking them if THEY have anything they are TERRIFIED by a good way to open the convo ..I have a very open relationship with daughter and thankful for that as well as blessed
keep coming here and getting support as well
It is a great group of ppl here
Take care
Lyn
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phobiagrl823
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   Posted 12/2/2006 12:07 PM (GMT -6)   
thanks for the great advice, everybody.
i have a problem now though...
my dad says that a phobia is just an unreasonable fear and i have to face it. he's completely reluctant to get me professional help.
do i need help overcoming this??

Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/3/2006 11:44 AM (GMT -6)   
I got Cait the help I believe she HAD to have it hun or her fears and phobias would be worsened with time
YES it is a fear a real fear one that can be devasting to someone so I really think IMO anyways that yes you do need professional help
talk to guidance councillor at school perhaps or chapter of Local Mental Health Clinic
You can try Cognitive behavioural Therapy as well
Let me know it is free and I will post if you want to give it a shot
Keep us posted anyways okay hun
Luvs
Lyn
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tangerine bear
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   Posted 12/3/2006 2:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi phobiagirl,

First of all, this is a great thread! I've never seen this topic mentioned before, and this has been one of my main issues ever since my depression/anxiety started almost 2 years ago! I'm sorry that your parents aren't taking this seriously... it seems that people who don't suffer from anxiety disorders often don't understand how overwhelming this disorder can be. You have already gotten some good advice, but I wanted to add that there are many great books on the subject of overcoming anxiety/phobias. You might check out your local library or bookstore. Self help books might be a good resource for you since you are not able to get any therapy. I also had problems with insurance (not being able to afford the deductible,etc.) when all this started, but I found a community clinic for my therapy, and I'm only charged $10 per visit. Maybe your school counselor can help you find someplace like that, and if the insurance isn't an issue, maybe your parents would be more willing to get you some help. Please know that this is a great place for support, and please keep posting! ((((Hugs)))),

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Twiggygal
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   Posted 12/3/2006 5:48 PM (GMT -6)   
You do need help hon.. it sounds like the phobia could only get worse without help. Maybe you should see a therapist or the school guidance counselor.

I TOO used to have the shower obsession when I was younger, but I got a loud-mouthed collie mix about 3 years ago and if ANYONE comes near the door she goes crazy and barks non-stop, so now I can take showers without anyone being home, cuz I have my fluffy guard dog LOL.

*HUGS* I know it's tough, my parents never understood me either. Your dad shouldn't be so reluctant to help you!!!

Talk to someone you feel comfortable with at school (a teacher or counselor) and let them know that talking to your parents isn't helping.


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hopefulmigrainer
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   Posted 12/3/2006 7:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi phobiagrl, lots of people have suggested that you talk to the school counselor. Will you please do that? Parents are not always the best people to turn to (unfortunately). I'm sure they love you but they just don't get it. You'll find that a lot in life. I'm so glad that you are reaching out here and asking for help. We do "get it." Please talk to your school counselor and/or a Youth group leader at community church. Even if you are not spiritual/religious they will help you. You can do this on your own with a little bit of help from the school counselor/Youth leader. You deserve the help and to feel better.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen."


phobiagrl823
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Date Joined Dec 2006
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   Posted 12/3/2006 11:54 PM (GMT -6)   
thanks you guys, for being so helpful, reassuring, and understanding. youre the best

anyways im here to update my condition...
it has indeed been getting worse. the number of times i look outside the curtain has increased from 'at least five' to 'more than twenty.'

and now, i found out that whenever i go into a bathroom with a shower in it, i look behind the curtain (to make sure im the only one in there) before closing the door.

and now i'm almost entirely incapable of closing my eyes to wash my face in the shower. what i do is: throw my face into the shower, wash for a couple seconds, (almost literally) jump out of the water, get the water out of my eyes with a towel, and hurriedly check the whole bathroom for anything in there.

yeah, i think i have a real problem... :/

while my mom doesn't understand whats going on in my head, she (unlike my dad) is offering suggestions to help me out. also, sometimes she stays in the next room while i'm showering, so that if i get nervous, i can knock on the wall, and she'll knock back. she doesn't like to do that much though, so it's only temporary. anyways, im going to ask the same question she is: would a see-through shower curtain help?

anyways, i cant thank you guys enough for being so nice. i really appreciate you taking me seriously...

i'll check my school for a counselor, because my parents say that there's only one psycological place in the town that treats adolescents, and we've tried that already. that's the place that treated my previous anxiety and depression... but for some reason, they don't trust that place.

thanks again!! :)
always feel free to email/contact me. if you need me, i'll be here. :)
 
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CRANKY 1
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   Posted 12/4/2006 3:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Wow...I can't believe that there are other people out there with shower anxiety like me.  I have the worst time trying to take a shower.  I'm not afraid of someone else coming into the bathroom, it's actually getting into the shower itself.  Starting back in college, I would have to take really hot showers when I got migraine headaches.  It helped for a while, but stopped working years ago.  I don't know why I have such a problem making myself take a shower.  Mind you, I stay clean, but there's just something that freaks me out about having to get into the shower.  Maybe it reminds me of all that pain I used to have, when I had to get in the hot water to make my feel better.  I'll put off taking a shower a long as humanly possible.  If I have an appointment to got to, I'll wait until the very last minute to jump into the shower.  I know rationally that there is nothing scary or detrimental about taking a shower, and I feel really stupid for being such a 'fraidy cat.
 
Thanks for sharing this, as I don't have to feel like I'm the only one anymore.
 
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phobiagrl823
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Date Joined Dec 2006
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   Posted 1/1/2007 11:23 AM (GMT -6)   
hey guys
i know i havent logged on in the longest time, so i thought i'd update.
my mom bought me see-through curtains, and that really helped. also, my cat comes in with me when i shower. she really doesn't mind, either. even though i know that she wouldn't [and couldn't] protect me if she had to, but knowing i'm not alone in the room is reassuring. also, i don't shower at night anymore. all of this really helps me take my showers, although my paranoia is far from cured.

im terrified of going in the garage [where the sodas are] any time of the day. i usually take my dog with me, but she has a tendancy to leave me down there. and just last night, i went in the garage to get a drink while my friend was over. i didnt take anybody with me, and the whole time i was down there, i was convincing myself that no one was in there. but when i came up the stairs, my friend jumped out at me and made a loud noise. i screamed, as i was scared to death. she knew i was paranoid, but she didn't know that i would actually be scared by her 'attack'. of corse anyone would be startled by it, but i was scared as well as that. i got a panic attack shortly after.

ok i just had to tell my story, just kinda let it all out. thanks for whoevers listening.

love,
hillary
always feel free to email/contact me. if you need me, i'll be here. :)
 
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janetlee
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   Posted 1/1/2007 12:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Hillary,
You still need help with your phobias. I hope you will talk to your guidance counselor. As to your friend, you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and let her know just how serious a problem this is for you. If she were to keep on scaring after that, I'd look for another friend.
Take care!
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


normalsnofun
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   Posted 1/1/2007 2:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Hillary,
 
I am glad you have found some relief.  I also do not shower at night.  You're friend does need a talking to.  Explain that it is not cool for them to be doing that to you.  My bro used to jump out at me as a kid and I still have the same reaction.  Hopefully with time and work and maybe therapy you can get some relief.
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