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Chuckle.xxx
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   Posted 12/2/2006 4:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi all, some will know that I met a man from the internet and lived with him. His family had a problem with the age gap so we decided to part.
 
Last night (Friday) I was sat with my candles burning watching the TV and decided to go for a walk (I do this every night to recover from agoraphobia).
I was out for only a matter of minutes and I returned to see the house filled with smoke!
I went in the room and saw the fire, I stood for a couple of seconds in total shock, the fire was already out of control.
I grabbed what I could while I tried to phone for the fire brigade but for some reason my mobile ceased to work.
I knocked on a neighbours door and she rang them for me.
It took them 10 minutes or so to get to my house and by this time there were clouds of thick black smoke coming through the upstairs window.
I was panic strucken and didn't even think that a candle had been the cause.
When the fire was out a lady from the redcross came to get me accomadation (I ended up finding my own because a youth hostel was not suitable because of my condition)
She said that we could go in the house to see what damage had been done.
As soon as we got in I just broke down in tears, there was nothing left. The Tv had blown up, the carpet was totally burned, everything left in the house either fire, smoke and/or water damaged.
The worst thing about it all was I keep most of my photos of my boys upstairs and there was no way of getting them, memories that can never be replaced.
I am back in Devon staying with the man I met online and he has been great, very supportive and hasn't complained once when I break down and cry.
 
I would like you to keep me in your thoughts and any words of support would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for taking the time to read this xxxx

debaser
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   Posted 12/2/2006 6:16 PM (GMT -6)   
That's terrible. Let's just thank God you went for a walk as opposed to dozing off, because it could've been a lot worse if you were in there asleep.

I think once you get in there you'll probably be able to salvage at least some things, like photos. They may not be in the best of shape but it's better than nothing. Hopefully you have insurance to take care of the structure and most of your other immediate needs.

I hope I don't sound trite, but it sounds like you're going to have a lot of things to replace, so perhaps if you look on the positive side it'll help you make some progress with the agoraphobia. I don't know. I'm very new to the forum but I feel terrible that this is happened. I wish there were something I could do.

debaser
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   Posted 12/2/2006 6:19 PM (GMT -6)   
I forgot to say:

I was a pro photographer for several years and even worked as a photo lab rat before that, so I know a thing or two about photo restoration. My advice is to be extremely careful with them if they're wet, especially if they're color photos. Old black and white prints are surprisingly durable, so if you take great care you'll probably be able to keep a number of them.

I wish I had other expertise to offer.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/3/2006 11:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Chuckles hun I am so sorry I was online early in am but not when you were
I am going to keep you in thoughts and prayers hun
You are strong and I know this so do you BUT you have just gone thru Hades and back
Debaser is spot on about the photos try to sallvage some of them at least and whatever else you can
I take it you have no insurance either.......
Oh sweetie just when things are looking up ya know
I ma so sorry for what you are going thru
PLEASE keep us posted okay and let me know what is going on
Luvs
Lyn
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normalsnofun
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   Posted 12/3/2006 11:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Chuckles,

So sorry this has happened to you. I know things will be rough. We are here for you.

My aunt had a fire last weekend due to a candle too. Drop me a line if you need to talk.
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steph2005
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   Posted 12/3/2006 1:32 PM (GMT -6)   
I am very sorry to hear that this happened to you. Like the others said, we are here for you. Please take care
*Steph*
 
 


tangerine bear
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   Posted 12/3/2006 2:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Dearest Chuckle,

I am so sorry that this has happened to you, and please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. This is a big fear for me, so this is definitely not off topic. Thank God you were out at the time! There have been several fires here lately, one caused by candles, where people passed away. Even though you've lost your house and belongings, it could have been much worse. Please know that we are all here for you.

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Chuckle.xxx
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   Posted 12/3/2006 3:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi all, thank you so much for your replies. There is nothing that is retreivable from the fire,everything is covered in soot. Apparently from what had been destroyed the fumes can cause cancer if inhaled over a period of time.
After looking through the things I grabbed I have more photos than I thought.
The house is not  mine, I wasrenting it,he has insurance but I have no contents cover.
When he found out about the fire he never even asked how I was.
He was more bothered about his property and apparently he can sue me!
How much more do I have to go through?
2006 has not been my year (without sounding like I am full of self-pity)
I am feeling a bit better this evening but am now having flash backs. I just wish I had not gone and looked at the damage caused, the sight will stay with me forever.
Thank you all for your kind words,they are greatly appreciated xxxxxxxxxx

Chuckle.xxx
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   Posted 12/3/2006 3:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Sorry Debaser I forgot to welcome you to the forum...
Welcometo HW, you will get lots of support here and make some great friends too :-)

hopefulmigrainer
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   Posted 12/3/2006 7:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Chuckle, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers. Please let us know how you are doing. You are going to be OK. You are going to get through this. A lot of people are going to rally around you and help you. I pray that this will be a time that you will feel loved by your family and friends and that they will evelop you with their care and concern for you. If you do not have a lot of supportive people near you, go to your local community church. Don't be ashamed to ask for help. Even though your boyfriend is wonderful, can you go to a counselor and/or grief recovery group? You still have YOU so take good care of you, ok?
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen."


Chuckle.xxx
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   Posted 12/4/2006 6:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi again, thank you for your replies.I am the bearer of yet more bad news.
I finally got in touch with the landlord this morning and they have decided that once the repairs are done they are selling up...
I told my b/f and he said I can stay here but I don't know whether he means on a permanent basis or short term.
Arrgggghh it goes from bad to worse.
 

normalsnofun
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   Posted 12/4/2006 7:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Hugs hang in there remember like everything else youve tackled...Deep breath...and take one step at a time ...*hugs*
--Michelle
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/4/2006 11:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Chuckles
keeping you in thoughts and prayes sweetie
so sorry
know wea re all here for you
support and care about you
thats all we can do hun but it is something right
your friends here do care
Luvs ya
Lyn
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paniccu
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   Posted 12/4/2006 1:22 PM (GMT -6)   
omg, so sorry that happened. Glad noone was hurt though. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Chuckle.xxx
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   Posted 12/4/2006 2:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi all, I am feeling a bit better now I have had a good sleep.
I am so glad that I have you all to support me.........thank you all so much

Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/5/2006 12:49 PM (GMT -6)   
We are here for you hun
Know that always k
Luvs
Lyn
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Chuckle.xxx
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   Posted 12/6/2006 5:21 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi all, I am feeling well this morning although last night I was not at all good. I kept a lot of photos and paintings that my eldest had done, upstairs. I was wishing that I had managed to go upstairs and get what I could from up there. The stairs were in the same room that the fire was in and I was too scared to go through in case I couldn't get back down before the smoke over powered me.
Oh well, I suppose this kind of thing will be going through my mind for some time yet.
 
Thank you for your kind words at this time.

shell67
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   Posted 12/6/2006 12:13 PM (GMT -6)   
OH chuckles, im so glad you are ok,and so sorry i wasnt here :( what a horrible ordeal, i cant tell you how bad i feel, i wish i was closer....you will always be in my thoughts and prayers, and if there is anything i could possibly do for you dont hesitate to email me, email me anyways, i worried now.......its been so long. God Bless you and im so glad you have him and someone that will listen and hold you......
huge huge hugs
shell
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Twiggygal
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   Posted 12/6/2006 12:37 PM (GMT -6)   
Oooh hon I'm SOOO sorry about your loss.
 
I hope you're doing okay!!! *HUGS*
 
I'll keep you in my prayers and I'm soo sorry that you lost a lot of precious things...
 
but pictures and material items can be replaced...
 
YOU can't !! :)
 
So I'm glad you're okay!!
 
 
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