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hopefulmigrainer
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   Posted 12/5/2006 2:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Their is a new member on the "depression forum" named "greymouse."  He is experiencing a lot of ANXIETY to the point of rocking back and forth all day.  He is reaching out here and I have tried to offer suggestions but he admits that he is resistant to doing the things that he needs to do to get better.  Anybody else do the rocking, agoraphobia, resisting help/self-sabotage thing?  Please reply to his post as their haven't been a lot of people come along and maybe he will respond to different input.  Thanks.
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smiler
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   Posted 12/6/2006 5:30 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi there Hopeful,

I have found the thread and posted on there.

Your concern is just - I can totally relate to what GM is going through , I know when I was in that situation I thought I would never come through the other side.

I usually only go on the BP dep board but I will keep my eye on the dep board for GM cos he really needs all the help we can give him - it's so true Hopeful , the more response ppl give the greater the sense of wellbeing for the reciever , especially if they feel understood.

Kudos to you for noticing a freind in trouble.

Smiler tongue


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   Posted 12/6/2006 8:45 AM (GMT -7)   

Thank you hopeful for bringing this to attention, we all need help and sometimes are afraid to ask much. I will try to get to this post soon....I pray that they will feel much better soon.

shell


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hopefulmigrainer
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   Posted 12/6/2006 10:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Smiler - thank you for your post.  I think coming from you who really understands is going to mean a lot to him.  I'm probably just another "well meaning" peep who gives him advice and then he can't bring himself to do it.  Sounds like you have been there.  God bless.
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   Posted 12/6/2006 2:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Will also have a look see okay I am so sorry
it is the time of year too
I have seen alot of depression a/p especially more around Christmas
Take care
Luvs ya
Lyn
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   Posted 12/7/2006 4:55 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey there peeps GM has replyed to me so I have posted again - it is sooooo wierd to see "me" in another person and I PRAY they don't have to go through the years of misery I have been through. God PLEASE grant our friend Fred the STRENGTH to come through the other side , help him to BELIEVE he is worthy. God I ask you to guide him through this hard time and ease his suffering - Amen.

Take care all , Smiler tongue


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   Posted 12/7/2006 5:15 AM (GMT -7)   
You are a sweetie Smiler an asset to this forum for sure
thanks hun
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   Posted 12/7/2006 5:24 AM (GMT -7)   
You're making me blush now you guys eyes lol!

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   Posted 12/7/2006 6:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Well ....BLUSH ON ............
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hopefulmigrainer
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   Posted 12/7/2006 11:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Smiler, you are an answer to my prayer. I prayed that someone would come along that could identify with Fred. That's what we are all here for.
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JeanelleU
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   Posted 12/19/2006 12:01 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi there,

I just want to mention that I also suffered from anxiety/depression for at least a month and a half. I don't suffer from it anymore... thank god.  Mine was so bad that I used to rock myself all day, as if I were crazy.  Rocking myself would help me calm down in that time.

First... he has to find the reason for his depression. Why is he depressed? Does he have a reason? If he doesn't have a reason... than I'm affraid he might need to take medication.

If he does have a reason, such as(his girlfriend left him, death in the family, ect.), his depression is totally normal.  Only time will help him heel. Tell him not to take any meds if he is experiencing any of the above.

If he is one of those who is depressed for no reason...it will take him alot of effort and time to get better.  Tell him to exercise(remember that exercising is a major mind-distraction). He should focus on other things.  Also, what kind of activities did he like before this anxiety? He should continue to do them.  What are his goals? Motivate him to work on them. Also, when I suffering from depression, I wanted to be alone.  This is the worst thing that someone can do, because you end up getting more deppressed. Tell him to make the effort to be social.  It'll help.

Is he single???  If he is... try hooking him up with someone. That really helps. Trust me.

As I mentioned above... I beat that depression sickness without medication, and with all the support of my family.  I'm still a little affraid that It'll come back.  I was so affraid that I thought I was gonna go crazy.  Help him.  He'll surely appreciate it. yeah


JeanelleU
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   Posted 12/19/2006 12:08 PM (GMT -7)   
He has agoraphobia???

Ask him this..
How old is he?
Is he social?
Why is he agoraphobic?
What is he affraid of?
What does he think will happen to him when he's outdoors? What are his feelings and thoughts, symtoms when he's outdoors?

You have to understand that nature of his sickness before trying to help him.
Agoraphobia is all MENTAL!!! He has to help himself by being strong. Please keep me updated.

normalsnofun
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   Posted 12/19/2006 1:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Jeanelle,

Things like this dont chenage over night please understand that mental or not.
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   Posted 12/20/2006 4:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Jeanelle ,

Perhaps if you read Greymouses post on the depression board it would help you understand what he is going through. I think the thread was called - not doing well.

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JeanelleU
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   Posted 12/20/2006 7:04 AM (GMT -7)   
I'll see if I can find him. I hope I can.

Thanks guys. :)
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