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janetlee
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   Posted 12/7/2006 8:32 PM (GMT -7)   
here's what's up with me lately...sound familar???
My anxiety is manageable, but still quite unpleasant. When I get up in the a.m., I feel the anxiety in my stomach. I just keep on ignoring it and try to do everything as usual. The anxiety will lessen then peak, then lessen then peak...kind of like a rollercoaster. Finally, by late afternoon, it's mainly stable and lessened quite a bit. By nightfall, it's usually not too bad. That's my GAD world lately. I try not to "fight" it. I try to accept it and tell myself positive things. I haven't been on the 50mg of Paxil CR for quite 2 weeks yet (will be 2 weeks on Monday). I'm hoping for better days ahead. But no matter what, I'll just have to manage and get by.
Thanks for listening...I can't talk to my mom about this too much at all, as she HATES to hear it and says that I'm too self-absorbed and could probably help myself better if I would...I asked her HOW could I do THAT? She had no answer. As to being self-absorbed...well, if I am, it's cuz I'd been trying everything I possibly could to figure out how to get better. Sometimes with mom, I can't win for losing. But she does love me and so I try to ignore it...it does hurt my feelings sometimes though. She apologizes sometimes for seeming so harsh. What a life we AD folks lead, huh?!
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
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steph2005
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   Posted 12/7/2006 10:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I think that it's great that you are accepting your anxiety. It really is a good way to cope. That is what I have been trying to do, and it's hard, but it can be done. I don't think there is anything wrong with being a little self-absorbed, even though i don't think by you talking about your anxiety that you are acting that way, but I just think that we don't do that enough, I don't think we talk about ourselves as much as we should, and we should not feel guilty about doing so. Just continue doing what makes you feel good, and continue talking about it, because it does help. I wish you the best, take care! :-) yeah

janetlee
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   Posted 12/7/2006 11:20 PM (GMT -7)   

Thanks Steph!

I try not to be a selfish person...I think mom was a bit too harsh to say I am self-absorbed. Part of my problem is likely worrying about what SHE and OTHERS think, so does that sound SELF-absorbed??? All I know is that if other people had to feel the way WE do , perhaps they'd think before speaking and making quick judgments. Anyhow, thanks for your kind words!

janet


Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


seechell
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   Posted Yesterday 2:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Janet-
You are not self absorbed. You are just trying to cope the best way you know how. You are one of the kindest, most caring people I've ever talked to. You are full of good advise. That makes you supportive and wonderful. I realize that it's your Mom, but try and blow it off. You are making progress day by day, the best you can. If that means being selfish, so be it. You can't take care of anyone else until you take care of yourself.
Take Care,
               Chelle
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janetlee
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   Posted Yesterday 7:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Chelle! You're a sweetheart yourself and that's the truth! ;)
HUGS!
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


Greeves
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   Posted Yesterday 8:09 AM (GMT -7)   
First: You're not self absorbed. your mother is for thinking that way. She's in denial. My husband and I had to go to counseling together for him to understand.

Second: I have the same issues with anxiety. Mine is the worst first thing in the morning. My zoloft makes me sleepy so it's hard to wake up (i take it before bed to reduce nausea during day) and when I do wake up I'm rushed to get ready and get my 3 year old ready and get to work. I calm down but then at night it comes back as I think about all the things I need to do.

It is EXTREMELY important to combine your meds with relaxation techniques (get a yoga tape) and do that before bed. Also, if you can get at least monthly counseling that will help immensly

I stopped my counseling 2 months ago and can't wait to go back. It's amazing the difference it makes

shell67
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   Posted Yesterday 9:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Janet, I know you have this horrible thing, but ive always thought of you as strong. There are times when panic is easier to deal with, im glad you have these times. I think you do wonderful with all you have to deal with. Keep up such good work! hugs
shell


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hopefulmigrainer
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   Posted Yesterday 11:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Janet, Mom's don't always know best!!!!!!!
You are doing great. You are strong and you are making progress and you are making a valued contribution here on HW.
Hugs & Blessings to you.
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MsKittie
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   Posted Yesterday 12:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello janetlee
After reading your post I feel so sad for you. I don't know what I would do without the love and support I get from my friends and family. Just remember even parents don't always have all the answers and yes you right you mother loves you very much she just doesen't know what to say.  If you are seeing counsling maybe she could go with you sometime and talk with your counsler with you that might make her understand a litte more. I wish you the best hun and you can always find support here with us.
(((HUGS)))
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harry4
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   Posted Yesterday 12:29 PM (GMT -7)   

accepting and floating thru it is better than tensing up, fighting back and worrytng about it

also dont monitor your body, and remember you dont have tio be a full time anxiety sufferer, forget about it for a while and do much positive thinking

imagine how you will be when better, when and if working, the paxil will help a lot


recovered former longtime anxiety and panic attack sufferer and helper of other sufferers  but no training or  qualifications in medicine or psychology, any remarks that may be taken as advice must be confirmed with doctor or other health professional


a.l.
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   Posted Yesterday 2:32 PM (GMT -7)   

Janet-

Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you-

I think it's hard for your mom to fully understand, as she has not walked in your shoes. My mom's answer was for me to pick 3 things a day that I want to accomplish- and she felt that once I'd accomplish them, I'd feel better. Geez!! I work almost full time, have a husband and two kids.  How much more can I do in one day!!?? But I realized that my mom could not comprehend the full scope of having A/P. Sometimes when people try to help, they say the wrong things...

But it sounds like you are taking the right attitude, and hopefully the full effect of the paxil will kick in soon and you will feel much better!! You have always been there for everyone on this board, and now it is our turn to be there for you!!


janetlee
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   Posted Yesterday 4:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone! You all mean so much to me!!!
Harry, I am trying to "float thru" the anxiety, but how does one manage to NOT monitor their body? If you read this, please advise! :)
Yes all, my mom doesn't understand really as much as she thinks she does! Today, she realized that she'd accidentally wrote out checks for more than she had in the bank and was fretting like crazy! She kept piping up with phrases of worry and got teary. She says, "We''ll have to get cash off the credit card!" and "Do you think the account will be okay until we can do that?", etc...... I told her not to worry that it would be alright, we'd get it taken care of, and so on. And we did. She's still aggravated at herself, but feels better now. Anyway, the way she was freaking out made me think about how if she had to deal with anxiety disorder, she'd REALLY know what fear and feelings of being overwhelmed are! I don't think she'd be able to hack it as well as I do (which in the past she has actually admitted!)
I'll be glad when the book by Claire Weekes gets here as so many with AD have said great things about it!
Love, Hugs, and Kisses to ALL!!!
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


Howlyncat
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   Posted Yesterday 5:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Sweetie
so sorry took so long for me to post just got up again been sick
I know I am a mom and I dont always know whats best
You are so special to us all here never doubt that
I hope you get that book soon
I read and liked it
Take care hun 'Prayers and thoughts with you as alwasy
luvs ya
lyn
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janetlee
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   Posted Yesterday 5:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Lyn! You can always be counted on to be anencouragement to everyone! GET WELL SOON!!!! :)
oxoxoxoxo
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet

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