fear of anything new or different, anticipatory anxiety

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harry4
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   Posted 12/16/2006 2:16 PM (GMT -7)   
anticipatory anxiety can be a big problem for an anxiety sufferer
having to do anything thats new or different can be dreaded and worried about for weeks
often the period before the event is worse than the actual event, which usually passes OK, making you wonder why you worried so much
of course, an insurance dose of valium or similar always makes things easier, and the fact that you have some tablets should reduce the fear
 
learning how to stop worrying is a big help and selveral self help books on worry have useful advice
another problem is that we anxiety sufferers mostly have a strong dislike or fear of feeling uncomfortable, and doing anything new does have this risk
 
however, life isnt supposed to be all about avoiding discomfort, most accept it and the risk of it as part of our normal lives
recovered former longtime anxiety and panic attack sufferer and helper of other sufferers  but no training or  qualifications in medicine or psychology, any remarks that may be taken as advice must be confirmed with doctor or other health professional


jordaNZone
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   Posted 12/16/2006 4:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Harry..
You are a wise man Harry..thanx for the input..by the way, you describe exactly what I fight at times..
What books do you recommend?

Maree

Irishmario
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   Posted 12/16/2006 6:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow
That sure hits the nail right on the head!! I deal with that constantly.. another thing i am worried about right now that is a similar situation.. is that My mother is coming over to mine and my wifes house tomorrow and whenever she comes around she makes me feel very comfortable... However i am extremely nervous allready about the time that she is going to be leaving

Whenever she comes over it is great and my anxiety diminishes greatly.. however once it comes time for her to leave i get VERY VERY anxious to the point of a possible panic attack or a full blown panic attack and as a person with P/A that is our very worst fear.. is having that panic attack!!

I dont know what to do.. i am so nervous

thank you for the insight
Mario
this quote sometimes helps me when i am anxious, panicky or feeling extremely agoraphobic... "Wherever you go, there you are."


janetlee
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   Posted 12/16/2006 11:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Harry,
You said it well...sigh!
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/17/2006 1:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Harry as usual the input is great
Lyn
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a.l.
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   Posted 12/17/2006 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Harry-thanks! Your post is so apropos to my current situation!! Facing a new job has me paralyzed with fear!! People keep telling me that "no one likes change", and it is hard for me to explain to them how much worse it is for someone with A/P.  I try to think back to other times in my life when I faced big changes, and somehow got through them (though with a lot of tears and anxiety) and remind myself that this, too, shall pass...

harry4
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   Posted 12/18/2006 1:40 PM (GMT -7)   

lots of deep slow breathing and some valium type meds will help

these meds relax both the body and the mind


recovered former longtime anxiety and panic attack sufferer and helper of other sufferers  but no training or  qualifications in medicine or psychology, any remarks that may be taken as advice must be confirmed with doctor or other health professional


GFK
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   Posted 12/18/2006 3:14 PM (GMT -7)   
And extra relaxation therapy - even when you dont think you need it!!

Good post Harry.

Karen

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   Posted 12/19/2006 4:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Yes thanks harry it is good post and Karen so right lotsa extra relaxation tech and breathing for me too
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