I'm a Perfectionist! HELP.

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redshoe
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   Posted 12/19/2006 11:55 PM (GMT -6)   
So today at work was an inept day. I just couldn't help anyone and felt that I was completely unhelpful to everyone. Included that my boss is out of town and I want her to feel that I can handle EVERYTHING when she goes away for business. So much so, that I find myself looking for clues of her being upset with my performance. Not to mention that I've only been there a month and a half, which just doubles the anxiety.
 
I'd like to find a therapist/doctor/etc. who specializes in CBT and can help me WORK on these issues and not just talk about them. I've gotten referrals before (from my pdoc and from the company mental health line) and while these therapists were moderately helpful for the time I'm not sure they were helpful in the long-term.
 
I'm not sure where to go from here and feel a little frustrated and upset about that. Upset that I can't fix it myself and also frustrated that I can't seem to find someone who I'd like to work with. I'd talk to my pdoc again, but then I'm even concerned about what his opinion of me is. (I don't want to be looked at as a flake!)
 
I know the answer is to talk to him and let him know what my thoughts are, but with the holidays coming the only answer might be to wait until my appt. next month. Too bad I'm an impatient perfectionist at that!
 
I guess, I just needed to vent a bit about feeling stuck and anxious and nervous and stupid.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/20/2006 5:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there
I too am a perfectionist with everything I do no matter what it is it must be done right
I think you need to step back and remember where you were not so long ago and give yourself alot of credit
You have come so far since joining this site I can remember the early days
Because we are the " perfectionists we are " always WE will see the flaws when all else is thinking and saying " what are you talking about ?" It is perfect
WE are too hard on selve and God knows what that does to us
Also remember it will and can reflect on your health
I am glad you posted and vented but I know you are doing a fantabulous Job we all have the "Off " day
Hang in you will make it and we are here for you always
Proud of your accomplishments Red
Luvs
Lyn


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harry4
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   Posted 12/20/2006 5:10 PM (GMT -6)   

perfectionism and dissatisfaction when unable to achieve it is common gor anxiety sufferers, it effects me

generally classed as OCD, an antidepressant med sometimes helps

in extreme cases a sufferer will take 3 hours to brush their hair to get it looking just right


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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/21/2006 5:40 AM (GMT -6)   
lo yep harry you are right there not quite 3 hrs but close enough
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   Posted 12/21/2006 8:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hmmmm....More and more OCD traits I find out daily hmmm
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