My paranoia is getting worse

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smiler
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   Posted 12/28/2006 6:32 AM (GMT -7)   
I used to only get it at night when my partner wasn't home. Now I'm still getting scared when he's here.
 
I have to go through the sun room to get to another room , the sun room has no curtains , I am now avoiding doing this as much as possible because I keep thinking a man is going to throw himself at the windows and scream (like in the horror movies where it makes you jump).
 
I know I'm being irrational but I can't help myself. eyes
 
Has anyone got ideas of how to stop thinking like this or should I just go buy some curtains?
Although if I do buy curtains I will be taking a step backwards in recovery IMO as at one time I couldn't have any open when I lived on my own for fear of being seen - I do NOT want that to happen again nono
 
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/28/2006 8:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Hun if buying those curtains is a step back then no I would not do it
I wish I could help you out better with this but I dont hv that problem I rather am used to being alone and like it ya know lol.............I am sure others that deal with this will help you as you know just know I am here and if ya need to talk beep me k
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   Posted 12/28/2006 9:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I cant really give you any advice either, because i wouldnt even begin to know what thats like for you. I just wanted to tell you that i hope you can figure it out. Dont take any steps back! Especially since you have come such a long way. I am sure someone here can relate and give you good advice. (((hugz)))
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   Posted 12/28/2006 1:02 PM (GMT -7)   
smiler- I think it's a bad idea to get curtains...  nono
 
I used to avoid the windows too... and mirrors... maybe what you could do is sit in your sunroom for a little bit every day... and look out the windows... just enjoy your home...
 
and gradually increase maybe 10 minutes to a half hour and then eventually sometimes sit in your sun room at night... and if you need to keep a knife close at hand so that the evil man doesn't jump and scream atcha... then do it to feel safe...
 
Maybe then you could actually stop for a moment when going through your sunroom at night... take a seat... maybe open a window and listen for a minute.. or however long you want...
 
 
What could make it easier is taking up a hobby to do while in the sunroom, to ease the anxiety about being seen.... like painting or crafting or building model cars while you sit in it... all are time consuming... and before you know it.. you may have spent hours in the sunroom.  tongue
 
As for me, I'm ESPECIALLY paranoid at night, and every sound sets off my panic.. well it used to... not so much anymore with my meds.  I used to walk around the house peeking out every window with a baseball bat in hand looking for a mysterious lurker or something... but my dog helped with that... if she hears a noise she barks  (if it's outside), and usually I'm hearing noises that are INSIDE the house... so that helped decrease it.
 
 
I hope in some way that this helps yeah
 
 
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   Posted 12/28/2006 9:09 PM (GMT -7)   
You're not totally irrational.  I also tend to have problems at night.  Things tend to go bump in the night.  I think it shouldnt be any harm to get curtains.   Definately though if you feel this would be a step backwards avoid it though.
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   Posted 12/29/2006 3:59 AM (GMT -7)   

Thanks guys - I think I will avoid the curtains and go in there at night to build up immunity , I feel a bit daft cos I get the fight or flight thing going on lol.

Strange thing is I spend loads of time in there in the day - I love my sun room , I can be "in the garden" even in bad weather in there - I think it's because I can't see what's out there in the dark , fear of the unknown.


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   Posted 12/29/2006 4:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Glad to hear you are not gonna go backwards
YOU have come to far for that hun you know that
Twiggy is dead on here and I would think it would be great to do what you are going to do
BABY STEPS remember hun .........
We are all here for you always
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   Posted 12/29/2006 8:44 AM (GMT -7)   
You go for it.  Keep up the steps.  I understand the no seeing out thing but like I tend to see/say...The best way out is through!  Keep us posted and good luck.
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shell67
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   Posted 12/29/2006 8:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with lil one, the best way out is through, i needed to hear that myself....Good luck smiler, its not irrational, its very understandable, ive had loads of things i was scared to do, still am, but those baby steps add up fast...will keep you in my thoughts
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phobiagrl823
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   Posted 1/1/2007 9:12 AM (GMT -7)   
wow smiler...
you sound exactly like i am, except for i can't stand curtains--im scared that a man will jump through the curtains & i wont see him coming eyes
well, my problem was [almost] solved by getting see-through curtains.
perhaps getting curtains would help you too.
always feel free to email/contact me. if you need me, i'll be here. :)
 
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   Posted 1/1/2007 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Hoping things are getting better for you hun I really do
I spent last night in bed ........thats where I brought the New year in ........
I have been up and down with my a/p but only lil one notices ya know
Crohns acting up and not well and then I feel like crap as I cant do anything with her or cait ya know just as I feared would happen and sores coming to boot ........
Well hoping I can at least get out for a walk today ...........
Luvs ya keep in touch please
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