It means so much to read such encouraging words!! I truly appreciate it!!!!
I think part of my problem now is that I am worrying for both my husband and myself- my counselor has said before that I need to let go of that (not that I shouldn't be concerned for my husband, but just that I don't need to take on the worry for the two of us)- my husband is normally such a positive, laid back person- but I think being out of work for 8 months is really starting to get to him (I notice him sleeping more)- and, on top of everything else, I am scared that he will go into a state of depression (typical of a worrier, huh??!!). I have talked to him and he says he is fine, but I know he has had it with being home and feeling unproductive! He just doesn't know what to do with himself anymore... We have talked about him changing fields, but he is one of the only people I know that truly loves what he does, and I can't take that away from him. I guess I also feel guilty because I am more marketable than him (I am an accountant), though he knows that me looking for a job is to help the two of us.
Can you tell my thoughts are getting the best of me?! LOL I just wish I was better at these "rough patches" in life... Sometimes I wonder how I can be responsible for two teenages when I am such an emotional "baby" myself...
Rock-thank you!! I read your post three times, and am trying to hold on to what you wrote. You are so right about staying positive- I know that's the key, but I am having a really hard time forcing myself to be positive. Unfortunately, I am still in the mode of telling myself how much I hate looking for a new job, and knowing how difficult change is for me. How long did it take you to implement the "staying positive" attitude?
I am so sorry for what you endured- you are right, things could always be worse... I hope you are healthy now and have found a great job!!
First, so sorry to hear about how things went with your operation- but great to hear that the "positive man" came through again!!
And, I thank you so much for taking the time to give me that "pep talk"- I had already incorporated some of your techniques-like going on an interview for which I already knew the job wasn't for me, but using it as a tool to practice interviewing... but I still have a loooooong way to go on remaining positive!! Mornings are the worst- by the end of the day my attitude improves and I feel stronger. And, yes, my job was my "comfort zone" but I truly LOVED my job and it always provided new challenges as situations were always changing and there was always something new to do. And, to make matters worse, when it was announced that four of us were losing our jobs, the residents where I worked (a condominium) and the other employees were soooooo up in arms- even wanted to start a petition to get us to stay. It was heartwarming to have everyone routing for us, but also sad because there really was nothing that could be done. I think that is why I am so bitter- four board members made this decision and the rest of the "community" was completely against it.
OK-time to stop dwelling in the past and go check monster and careerbuilder -
Again, thanks so much and be well!!!
Post Edited (Rock50) : 1/4/2007 9:36:10 AM (GMT-7)