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a.l.
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Date Joined Apr 2006
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   Posted 1/4/2007 10:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Sorry to keep dwelling on my situation, as I know there are many great people here who are suffering as well, but I just can't seem to get out of this "funK". In analyzing things, (which I do way too much of!), I realize, too, that work was my escape from things (primarily my husband's lack of work). When I went to work I was able to put this aside and concentrate on what I had to do at work.  Now that I am out of work, too, and home, it is always in my face. I keep busy at home, but my husband is always there. Plus, he likes to watch movies and stay home, and I always have the urge to "run"-even if it is just for a walk outside or going to the supermarket for one item!
It makes me so sad to see him just hanging around and wanting to be productive- yet he really wants to stay in his field and has found nothing.  In my mind, I am giving him another couple of months to find something in his field-I know how badly he wants it. But I miss my "escape" of work too and dread waking up to the same situation everyday.
 
Thanks for letting me vent!

jordaNZone
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Date Joined Sep 2006
Total Posts : 752
   Posted 1/4/2007 1:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there a.l
I would say that your reaction to what going on in your house right now is completely understandable!
Seems to me that you need to gently or not so gently 'vent' to your husband lol.
If there are no jobs in his field locally, can he upskill or re-educate in someway making him employable in another job?
Sitting around home watching movies is kind of unhealthy - he is in fact shutting out the world around him - and sooner or later you may resent him being at home..not sure I could do it for a long period of time in fact I know I couldn't especially if my partner had lost their job too grrr!
Good luck!
Maree
 
 
 

Sad & Angry
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Date Joined Dec 2005
Total Posts : 211
   Posted 1/4/2007 2:27 PM (GMT -6)   
A.l. I am in the same situation. I don't have a job and sometimes, it is getting to me. I don't know what to do? When I get up in the morning, I dread the day, wondering and feeling so useless and hopeless.
 
Then anxiety creeps in.... and it is really hard. I can understand what you are going through...
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
Sad & Angry
 
Life..... isn't it amazing.....
 
 
 


a.l.
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Date Joined Apr 2006
Total Posts : 279
   Posted 1/4/2007 6:38 PM (GMT -6)   

Maree- you are so right about building up resentment towards my husband- I have to make an extra effort all the time not to let that happen and to keep things as "normal" as possible for the sake of my children.  I agree that watching movies all the time is unhealthy- but he does not appear to be doing it to block out the world- he just loves to watch movies!! (I, on the other hand, am not a movie person and do better when I am moving around- I always ask him if he wants to go with me if I am running an errand, but, to him that is not fun and he rarely wants to go)

Sad-I know exactly what you mean about mornings- feels like "same sh*%, different day"- it can only get better, though, right?!

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