So Very Very Frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!!

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janetlee
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   Posted 1/11/2007 7:21 PM (GMT -7)   
So to a degree, I continue to have these anxy feelings in my stomach, which I absolutely hate!!! Thankfully, I do get a break from it somewhat, most days. I keep thinking that if I keep on facing my feelings and not "running and trying to hide from it" that it should keep getting better. Anyone have any ideas about that? Anyhow, what really bugged me extra-much today was that Mom and I went to a seafood restaurant and had a seafood platter each (very expensive!). The restaurant is in my favorite part of town, not but a short walk to the marina. I LOVE the marina and the bay! But could I really ENJOY all of this? NO!!! sad   The whole time we're in the restaurant, I'm a bit anxy. I'm thinking of how glad I'll be when we leave...now I was talking to myself in my mind with statements like "it's your feelings doing this and not the place you're in"..."just be calm"..."you've dealt with a lot of things and you can deal with this too", etc., etc., etc.,.......I don't think my MOm could tell that I was a bit anxy so that's good cuz I didn't wanna ruin it for her. So when's it gonna end? When do I get to enjoy the simple things in life again? I'm not asking for riches or such, I just want to be able to have some ease from the stupid fear, you know?!?
I know so many of you can relate to what I'm saying here and although I feel bad for myself, I DO TRULY feel bad for YOU too!! I just needed to vent I guess...
hugs
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


nervymeg
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   Posted 1/11/2007 8:16 PM (GMT -7)   
I know what you mean Janet, I wish I could enjoy "normal" things without the anxiety.  I guess the best thing to do is to congratulate yourself for going out at all and sitting through the whole thing even though you felt really anxious.  Good for you!! As for the anxious tummy thing, I get that too...sooo annoying.  I hope your day improves.
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a.l.
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   Posted 1/11/2007 8:23 PM (GMT -7)   

Janet-

I can completely relate!! All the things that I have been doing lately that normally would be so much fun to me aren't so much fun (though I fake it). Lunch with my mom and daughter today felt like an obligation (and used to be something I was excited about!) I sat there and attempted to push positive thoughts in my mind, but unfortunately kept thinking that the reason I was able to have lunch with them today was because I am out of work.  But, I had to remind myself that I've been through this mental state before and there IS a light at the end of the tunnel.  At least we are getting some relief during the day now, so that light is one step closer! I try to be grateful for something every day- and I am grateful for not having the CONSTANT anxiety that I did at one point.  I also think this time of year is tough- don't know how the weather is where you are, but here it is dreary, which never helps! I know you and I are upset about our "relapses", but I am grateful for feeling fairly "normal" for 10 years!! And those good days are coming again soon!! Hang in there!! Know that I am thinking of you!!


Dee75
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   Posted 1/11/2007 10:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Conguatations Janetlee, you did very well. I don't eat much when I go out, because of anxiety and I always dread it when people ask me," if that all I'll I'm going to eat". Thank goodness for doggie bags. lol, Dee

jordaNZone
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   Posted 1/11/2007 11:06 PM (GMT -7)   

Wow janetlee..

You have come such a long way in the past month or so..I can remember some of your previous posts about your fear of going out esp before xmas etc..and here you are in 2007 going out for lunch..proud of you :-)

Hmmm...I am finally learning not to Fight the anxiety...but to accept it...get in your little boat lol and float on past it...pretend it doesn't exist..immerse yourself in good conversation..the menu...the view..some hunky guy at another table..anything you choose lol..you may just suprise yourself one day and realise that the only thing missing at lunchtime is indeed your old friend Anxiety!

Maree


Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/12/2007 6:00 AM (GMT -7)   
My sweet Janet you have come so far as all have said and Maree is right you' re doing so great
I am PROUD of you
Luvs ya ..........


a.l
Fantastic and inspirational input you are so sweet and kind as well as very supportive
Thanks hun
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Lyn
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janetlee
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   Posted 1/12/2007 6:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone for the cheers...the truth is though that despite the anxiety, I've ALWAYS made myself go and do...that's why I don't understand why it keeps on plaguing me...
You guys are TOPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hugs
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet


Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/12/2007 7:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Sweetie I make self go and do too but I keep the anxiety as well
I wish it would blow ya know
Luvs ya
you are TOPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Luvs
Lyn
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 Never compromise your self nor your dignity...with that ...My God
 Family and Great Friends ........I have it All
 
 Dream, Reach and Believe ......You can Do It........We are Here For You 
                God Bless .........Lyn
Make The Best of The New year .......You Can and Will Reach your Goals
                              Loads of Love n Support
                                        Lyn   
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janetlee
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   Posted 1/12/2007 1:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Lyn,
You are the bee's knees! HaHaHa!!! ;)
Luvs Ya!!!
janet
Yesterday's dead
Tomorrow's unknown
Today is here
And soon will be gone.
Use it wisely
Before it's too late
Remember to love
And forget to hate.
janet

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