When People Around You Give Up on You

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anxiecat
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   Posted 1/12/2007 9:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi,
 
I'm new here. Currently diagnosed with chronic depression and anxiety. (and hypothyroidism and epilepsy) Have a new shrink who thinks I'm bipolar 2. Anyway...
 
As I've started approaching menopause my symptoms are all over the board. Two years ago I started having migraines with a visual aura. Last year I was sure I had Multiple Sclerosis. Thank goodness, the tests came back negative. This year I'm having horrible hot flashes and moderate chest pains and was in and out of the hospital this past week to be evaluated for heart problems. Haven't gotten any results yet.
 
What is really bothering me though is that my friends, co-workers and sisters have decided that I've cried wolf once too often. Nobody thinks there is anything "really" wrong with me, and they are perturbed that I'm "looking for attention" again. I can sort of understand after five hospitalizations for depression and then all this stuff in the past three years (I have also had two problems in the past two years that were real--had my gall bladder and my appendix out.)
 
I'm one of those adult children who only got quality attention as a kid when I was sick and injured, so I am having trouble dealing with feeling sick and not getting any good attention.
 
Anyway, I guess I just needed to unload, but if you have anything helpful to tell me, I'd love to hear it!
 
Thanks!
anxiecat

normalsnofun
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   Posted 1/13/2007 12:22 AM (GMT -6)   
Just noticed your post and wanted to welcome you to HW. There is great support here and I am sure others will be by shortly...I will come back on tomorrow and reply to your post.
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/13/2007 7:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome
My family thought I was seeking the attention yrs ago ( even with IV in and havin blood in bowels ??) DUH
Finally they have seen what my a/p and crohns does to my body so has the poster above you
"My adopted daughter" she came here for a visit and dealt with hospital and docs with me and FOR me
Now I have NOTHING to do with my family they all took and took til I finally learnt to say NO
Post again and normal will be back I am sure
Lyn
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normalsnofun
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   Posted 1/13/2007 9:07 AM (GMT -6)   
anxiecat,

It is very difficult when people do not believe you. My boyfriend believes me but has no clue when it comes to my A/P. As Lyn said I have seen her health issues first hand. We do have a wonderful group of people here and I do hope you stick around. Hang in there. Sometimes people dont understand what we go through. Depression and medical problems are real and not made up and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Hang in there and stick around we are all here for you.
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Murphy2
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   Posted 1/14/2007 1:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Most people just don't "get it".  What I don't understand is why my own family (mother, father & 2 sisters (and a brother who has always been good to me) does not help me in any way.........even when I was homeless with $o.oo AND I had done everything right!  I was only 22 when I started having problems with my low back which resulted in 2 surgeries, 19 months of PT on and off over the years, sever chronic pain, RLS, major dep. and suicide attempts.  4 of my family members work with the disabled in different ways, inc. raising money.  Yet I was and still am (15 years later) looked down on and treated with anger for asking for help (not total dependance) BY MY OWN FAMILY!!
So I have very little to do with them.  I decided a few years ago that no matter what, I would not treat them like they have treated me.  I'm kind, curtious and always try to make them laugh and look at their problems with humor.  My friends say they don't deserve it but I can't believe that they are evil.......THEY JUST DON'T GET IT!! 
 
Don't feel bad it is not your fault, you've done nothing wrong.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/14/2007 5:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Totally agree
It is not our fault at all
Lyn

Welcome Murphy2
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                God Bless .........Lyn
Make The Best of The New year .......You Can and Will Reach your Goals
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anxiecat
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   Posted 1/14/2007 2:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone! It's great to have your support!

anxiecat

Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/15/2007 4:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Always here when you need it
Post often and get to know our " lil Family"
Lyn
    Contribute today to support Healing Well Forums...Donate @
 
 
 Never compromise your self nor your dignity...with that ...My God
 Family and Great Friends ........I have it All
 
 Dream, Reach and Believe ......You can Do It........We are Here For You 
                God Bless .........Lyn
Make The Best of The New year .......You Can and Will Reach your Goals
                              Loads of Love n Support
                                        Lyn   
Co Mod @ Crohns
 Moderator@ Alzheimer's 
 Moderator @ Anxiety/Panic
 
 
                                  
                          
                                  

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