Hi KC...Well, there is 'love' and 'in love' Your boyfriend has told you of his true feelings..but still you hang on for all you're worth!? Which is a shame because you really have an opportunity to live apart and get on with your own lives and both gain some well deserved happiness..How about seeking out some counselling/therapy...and sorting out your feelings so you can move on with your life and into a healthy relationship - not one based on 'need'.
Welcome to HW were so happy you have joined us here. You will find pleanty of suport here from friends that have been or are going thru the same things you are. It won't take you long to start feeling like you are a part of our lil family.
First off I want to give you a ((((((Big Hug)))))) from my heart. My X treated me the same way and one day it was like I woke up and decided he gets his strength from be-littling me and making me feel so weak so I decited to call him on some of his bluff's just to see how he acted. Boy did the tables turn at that time. He thought he was going to die when he started feeling like I didn't NEED him anymore. At that point he decided he would do anything to keep me but after seeing this it was to late for me I didn't want to be with him anymore and I realized I did love him but I was more obsessed with him and not being alone then the love I had for him. Honey you will get thru this and it will take time but you have friends here that will be here for you anytime you need to talk. Please don't throw your life away on someone less deserving of you. You deserve the best and the best is out there waiting for the right moment to show it's face. Please keep posting and my email is listed under members if you ever need to talk. Bless you hun and good luck with the desisions you make for your life.