anxiety through the roof b/c worried about helping someone

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krissie
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   Posted 1/23/2007 6:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi guys,
 
I am so worried.  Over the last part of the week or the weekend, justagirl11 posted on the depression site and I responded to her.  She was having bad thoughts and was so down.  I got her my # and my email address.  She has been calling me since I posted two posts trying to look for her after she stopped posting.......fianlly she called and we talked for a long time.  I told her I wasn't a doc, but I have depression also, and I know what she is going through.  We talked in length about talking to her Mom and if she felt she couldn't maybe write her a letter, go to the nurse at school or an advisor at school or even her doctor. 
 
She tried calling me again last night and then all of the sudden had to go.  She emailed me at 2 am and told me she talked to her mom and her mom flipped out and told her it was all an excuse and that she just wanted to get out of schoolwork and such.  Her mom took her cell away.  I emailed to her that she really did now need to talk to an advisor or the nurse...they could help her with talking to her mom.  She has thoughts of hurting herself and was treated last year.....won't go into details.  One thing I made her promise me is that if she had bad thoughts to call me and we could talk it through.  When I found out that her phone was taken away, I told her she could call me collect.....she could call any time of day or night.  I have not heard back from her.  I then saw that she posted today and got back a lot of the same responses I have been talking to her for hours with.  I emailed her a number in her state and the email address for a crisis hotline....I hope she uses it.
 
My anxiety is so bad right now...I am so worried about someone I don't know, yet I do know her b/c she reminds me of me.  I want to help and be there for her, why did she stop talking or emailing me and started to ask others?  What did I do wrong???  I need some help to try and understand this and where to go from here.
 
Please help,
Krissie
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S/P partial colectomy and colostomy, 12 anal fistula repairs and 1 rectal flap repair. OCD, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, Panic attacks and hypothyroidism
 
On daily asacol, prednisone on and off, lomtil, ativan, klonopin fenatanyl, and vicodin for b/t and lunesta...thank god for that!


T Bird
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   Posted 1/23/2007 7:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Krissie,
 
She stopped talking to you cause her mother is aware and she has to be careful. Also she probally wanted other people's opinions. When someone is in distress they don't think of people in message boards or chat rooms as friends, they keep reaching out to everyone. They forget who befriended them. They just want to keep talking to everyone they can until they find the "magic spell" that will "cure" there depression. Try not to take it personally. I know that is difficult.
 
 

Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/23/2007 8:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Krissie
there is a fine line and you have to watch please '

Something is settting off bells about this poster from past ..........
My guts are usually spot on .........
Yes talk to her but keep a safe distance you are ill too ........
* rules of Nursing are??,,,,,,,,,,
Yes I got to close to and paid dearly
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krissie
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   Posted 1/23/2007 9:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Lyn,
 
I cannot help it....I see too much of myself in her and from what she was saying, I just cannot give up on her and walk away......
 
I know there is a fine line.......too fine a line.  But she needs to know that there is someone she can turn too and count on.
 
Luva ya lots,
me  :)
 
What happened with your son????  Are you alright?  Is he????  I'll call ya in a few days so you can get things settled....I know that you are having a lot of trouble right now.  Did u hear from the doc yet????  Get him off his ars and get those answers.  If you feel better in a day or so, call me.....
 
Lyn, thanks for being there and watching my back as always....no matter how you feel, you are always there.  I admire your strength.
Krissie
 
 
 
S/P partial colectomy and colostomy, 12 anal fistula repairs and 1 rectal flap repair. OCD, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, Panic attacks and hypothyroidism
 
On daily asacol, prednisone on and off, lomtil, ativan, klonopin fenatanyl, and vicodin for b/t and lunesta...thank god for that!


Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/24/2007 8:41 AM (GMT -6)   
THanks
I appreciate it 'yes I need some time
'Like I said warning bells are going off
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freezinginAK
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   Posted 1/25/2007 1:45 AM (GMT -6)   

  Yes Kissie not everyone is saveable that's just the way of life you can try and try but with out the help of her Mothers support and having to hide it that way is not your doing some ppl are to proud and will not help the ones in need even family's just don't want to let out the family's problems even at the cost of a loved one.

  Cowboy up


jordaNZone
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   Posted 1/25/2007 3:13 AM (GMT -6)   

Krissie..

The trouble with us lot that get depression and/or anxiety is that we Really care about others and because we have been thru sooo much ourselves we think we can save the world sometimes..I know this from experience lol..trust me on this one! The thing is that everyone has a life path to follow..and sometimes a helper can step into our lives and we don't even realise, or the timing is not right, or we simply choose to ignore the help and move on anyhow (sigh)..which is frustrating for the person wanting to help because we can see ourselves in that person and we know we Can help! You have given great advice to this girl - that's all you can do - and is a lot more than many of us get when we are in trouble eh?

Congratulate yourself on your extraordinary efforts to help tongue time to move on and look after yourself..relax and let go!

Maree

 

 

 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/25/2007 12:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Krissie
Maree and Cowboy Up are spot on with this
I know you are not well we all do and this will only make you sicker hun please step back a bit
SHE will come to you I have no doubts okay
Luvs ya and will email you when I ahve sometimee
Right now I am looking after son changing and cleanings wouds 108 stitches and they sent him home no beds plus I showed them my RN Lic ....said I could do it
Thru all this and all the rest going on it is believe it ot not starting to keep me sane I am better when busy and have no time to dwell on me .
I know you feel the need and I know you have to try to help her we all ahve tried with someone and we do understand that
WE just dont want you sick.....er
Luvs ya
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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 1/25/2007 10:30:40 AM (GMT-7)


MsKittie
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   Posted 1/25/2007 12:26 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello Krissie

Honey I know how hard you have tried with this girl. I have been there and I ended up damaging all the hard work I had done to make me better. It is so easy to fall into some of theses peoples lives because we care so much but please remember you and your health comes first. We can't save the world but we can save ourself. I applawed you on your efforts hun so give yourself a pat on the back and wrap your arms around yourself and squeez tight for a comforting hug.


(((HUGS)))
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/25/2007 12:32 PM (GMT -6)   
I just have to say no one is JUDGING you we are all worried about you
Please do understand that sweetie okay
I will try my dangdest to get in touch tonight or by tomorrow night
Luvs ya
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