Does anyone know how stress leave works?

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worrier247
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   Posted 1/26/2007 8:02 AM (GMT -7)   
I haven't been on here for a while, as I haven't been able to access a computer....anyways, anxiety hit me head on a couple weeks ago, and realized it's my job that works me up the most.  i'm miserable there, just the thought of heading in there makes my heart race and i feel all panicky.  i'm wasting my life there.  On wednesday evening, i broke down in tears in my living room and was not pleasant to anyone in my house.  i have been a witch lately to everyone i know, and realized for my health's sake, i need time off work.  i called in sick today, and on monday i see my doctor to get a note.  i am a single mother of 2, and since i was 18 years old, i have been going going going, no stopping.  after i had my second son, i was back to work within 4 months, as i had been a 'fresh' single mother, and had no idea how i was going to support me and my 2 children otherwise as i don't even know where the heck to find their father.  now i'm stressing because i keep thinking 'what if i can't go on stress leave'.  but why wouldn't i be able too?  my mind is racing, as i am the only income in this house of mine, but i know i need to take time off, and try to relax, so that I can be better to my family and everyone else around me.  after coming to this conclusion, the second i left work yesterday, i couldn't stop smiling, as my anxiety felt like it eased up and not having to be that place took some much weight off my shoulders.  i have been suffering now with this one and off (mostly on) since september.  i'm worn down so much right now, and i need this leave.  i know there's a lot of people on here who have taken stress leave before, so can someone please  give me some advice???!!!
I'd really appreciate it!!!

MsKittie
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   Posted 1/26/2007 9:38 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello Worrier

Welcome back hun. I do understand what you are going thru. I was a single mother of three sons for years and it is tough all around for you and your children not to mention anxiety on top of it. Do you not have any vacation time you can take off work maybe that would help. I don't know how large of a company you work for but check with human resources and see if your company qualifies for the Family Medical Leave Act. Talk to your dr and see if he will take you off work for a few weeks and you should be able to get FMLA but that still is only half of your weekly pay. If you work for a small company then they probably don't qualify from FMLA but check into it any way. I hope this info helps hun and look to your children for strength. You really are doing great you just don't feel you are at this time in your life.


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worrier247
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   Posted 1/26/2007 1:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for your reply!  I really do not want to use up my holidays if i don't need to.  i'm going to see what my doctor says, and go from there.  i have a knot in my stomache just thinking about having to go back to work.  I hate this feeling.  i do really need a few weeks off though, i do know that for sure!

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   Posted 1/27/2007 9:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Worrier '
Great advice from Ms Kittie
Yes do ask the doc and go from there
I am a Canuck so it is alot easier here we just have a note and thats it goes to Human resources and wallaaa
Howie was able to take a week of to help ME last yr with pay here we get 80% I believe but again thats here so I would go with Kitty's input
I am sure others have some too
You have been unhappy for quite sme time now and I think yu are now making the best decision all around even if you have to go to socail services to supplement I would there is no shame '
YOU have worked all your life it is time you had some TIME nono
Keep us posted ..........
Luvs
Lyn

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worrier247
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   Posted 1/27/2007 9:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Lynn!  I'm in Vancouver, BC so I hope it will be easy.  I do need though.  that work environment will drive me crazy, one day, i'll go in there and snap, and it won't be pretty!  everything i've been thinking about everyone will fly right out of my mouth!!  i feel relief that I came to this conclusion, but i've also got a knot in my stomache, as one of my supervisors is horrible if you take sick days or days off etc.  don't know whats it to her, but that's the way she is.  I will need to get brave for Monday.  i have to put it out of my mind so i can enjoy my weekend!  I have a job interview monday, even though i dont want to rush right back into work, but I need to have a back up plan.  i really need out of where i'm at.  it's not good for me mentally or physically.

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   Posted 1/27/2007 9:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Worrier I believe some of the provinces are or have some of the same rules applied
Depends of course lol...
Please do keep me posted and I will do some checking inot this for you as Howie is good friends with the one that looks after sick benefits and payroll okay
Will let you know Monday he is on midnights
I never knew you were a fellow Canuck .......EH ........
Luvs
Lyn
Relax hun enjoy your wknd and I know it is easier said then done but ty to put it out of mind for now kk
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worrier247
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   Posted 1/27/2007 9:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Lyn, you put me at ease for now!! (until my mind does that 'stinking thinking' as you call it!!!!!!)
I didn't know until today that we're in the same area!!
i called my friend who works at the insurance place that my work uses, and apparently, it doesn't cover stress leave, only depression.  but i don't know if I would be using that or human resources.  thank you for asking that information for me!  you are so thoughtful!

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   Posted 1/27/2007 10:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Not a problem I have been given so much by all of you on HW I could never even begin to repay .......
Just trying to help out a fellow sufferer and friend
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   Posted 1/28/2007 2:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello Worrier
 
I just wanted to say hello and check on you to see how your day is going today. I hope you got to relax soom today. Good luck on your interview tomorrow you never know the change may be just what you need.
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worrier247
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   Posted 1/28/2007 9:22 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm doing alright today.  i've had butterflies all day though because i know i have to talk to my supervisor tomorrow, and she's not nice when you're calling in sick.  it's not so much that part, as i plan on calling early so that i'll get voicemail.  but after i talk to my doctor, i know i'm going to have to speak to them personally.  i have a sharp pain in my head which worried me, but i think it's just tension.  it's pretty sad how people at work can put you under so much stress.  plus, i'm not sure what the outcome is going to be tomorrow with my doctor's appointment, and how i could be covered for stress leave, but i guess i'll have to worry about that tomorrow if something doesn't go right.  sorry for rambling on and on.  my thoughts don't even make sense right now!!!  i will let you know tomorrow what happens!

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   Posted 1/29/2007 3:49 AM (GMT -7)   
AS soon as I find out ANYTHING will let you know hun k 'Luvs
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   Posted 1/30/2007 10:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning!
Yesterday i saw my doctor, and she wrote me a note for work to excuse me for the next 3 weeks from work.  that gave me a sense of relief!  so for 3 weeks, i will be paid through EI, but have to return to work on Feb. 19.  I have decided that if i can go back that day, and on that day give my 2 weeks notice, it will be better for me than just not going back.  that way, i'll get my vacation pay at the end of my 2 weeks as well, which i sure could use!  so that's the conclusion i have come to.  thinking about finally giving my two weeks makes me nervous, but i have to do what's best for me.  im' sure 10 working days won't kill me~
thanks for your concern!  i'm going to try and not stress and take advantage of my 3 weeks off!

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   Posted 1/30/2007 7:42 PM (GMT -7)   

Hello Worrier

I'm so happy your dr took you off work. Enjoy your time off and next week start just kinda look around in news papers for another job. maybe that will help too. Get you somr rest hun.

 


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   MsKittie
 
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I have an illness, My illness don't have me.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*                                      
 
Being happy doesnt mean everything's perfect.It means you've decided to see beyound the imperfrctions!God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but HE did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears & light for the way                                        

 

 


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   Posted 1/31/2007 3:26 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so happy for you
Howie was told it is by province so it would be up to your province and county wide legislations
'Sorry took so long
been on the " downSide" myself last few days
Luvs
Lyn
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worrier247
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   Posted 2/1/2007 10:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Staying home with the kids is more work than going to work, but much more fulfilling of course!!
 
Thanks Lyn for getting back to me on that!  I hope you're feeling better!

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   Posted 2/18/2007 3:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Worrier am just wondering how you are doing this past bit
yep the kids are a full time job but like you said much more fulfilling and funny IMO
The things they say and do lol
How old are yours BTW I have only Cait at home now a teen ( yahoo) son is 32 and have 2 grandbabes
Let me know how things are going thinking about you
Was wondering if you ned to extend the LOA as I know my doc would do it no problem .........Anyways let us know
Luvs
Lyn
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worrier247
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   Posted 2/18/2007 8:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lyn!
 
I saw my doctor last monday, and she extended it, now i'm just waiting for EI to kick in which i hope happens ASAP!!!  i'm stressing!!!  To add to the stress though, my boyfriend and I just broke up today, and it's been hard-all because he didn't pay an interest in my children.  i guess you could say he just 'put up' with them to be with me.  sure enough, the truth all came out.  i've been praying for everything to work as it should, and sure enough, everything did.  my children are 4  and 6, 2 boys, and i cannot imagine anyone not taking to them!!  oh well, i guess the man just didn't have it in him.  what can you do.  like i need anymore stress  in my life!!!!
 
the stress without a paycheck for the time being is better than the stress of going to that horrible job i was at though!!  i do have to find something soon im hoping, but i want to be happy.  i hope everything will get better for me!~  the one thing i can be at ease with is that i did the best thing i could possibly do for my children.  their dad disappeared and the last thing they need is man around that pays no interest in them.

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   Posted 2/19/2007 5:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh sweetie so sorry but that guy needed to be KICKED to curb alot of men ( not man bashing) go for the women thru the kids at first til they get them and then pay no attention at all to the kids ya know my brother islike that and it is so wrong
I am sorry this has had to happen to you
BUT I am soooo happy you got an extension and get to stay home with kids Ei shouldnt take long I would think in the meanime I am here as ar others to support you thru okay
Only good is coming your way now hun
Take care you and hugg those lil ones for me will ya
Luvs ya '
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   Posted 2/19/2007 10:18 PM (GMT -7)   
hi again lyn!
 
i called EI this morning and it's in effect!!!  i breathe now!
as for the boyfriend, i'm not sure if im being too touchy.  he tried i know, but not hard enough as he admitted to me today.  he didn't grow up in the most 'stable' household.  and i dont' know if that's hs problem.  i love him, and i have been crying all day.  i hate feeling like this.  i just sent him an email explaining my feelings, but he has no right telling me how he thinks i should discipline my children.  he claims i 'm too nice.  yes i am, but i will deal with my children how i feel.  i do not need his input. 

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   Posted 2/20/2007 1:23 PM (GMT -7)   
I am really really glad all is going your way you do deserve it hun with all the other crap you went thru so now kick back breathe and enjoy the time with your kids
So great to hear POSITIVE news
I so love it thansk for sharing
Luvs
Lyn

BTW.........A stepparent should not be the disciplinarian in any situation IMO thats my opinion all
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